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From my experience, men have a very hard time going in "reverse" - meaning once you reach a certain level of intimacy they don't want you to take it back a notch. Sounds like your boyfriend is going through exactly that - he's used to a certain level of intimacy that you are no longer...

I've always been a believer of this philosophy which is probably why I've never shown a lot of interest in dating. Then, I broke away from not looking when all my college friends were pairing up and I was starting to feel lonely and desperate. My experience with him reinforced my thinking that...

There are any number of possible reasons your therapist wants to see you more frequently, but the ultimate goal should be finding a frequency that is most helpful for you. Typically, therapy is most helpful if you are seeing the therapist at least once a week, but the best frequency can vary...

Fly - He is no longer in my life. I left him when our child was 5 months old - at the time only in the interest of the baby. My own self-esteem was so shot I didn't care about my own life which he'd threatened on several occassions, but my protective motherly instincts would not allow him to...

Tlight- That's a great way to look at it and makes sense. Frequently getting triggered by something can very well be a warning sign and even if the guy may not necessarily be bad, he would be bad for me as the constant triggers would be very stressful - and who wants to be in a relationship...

Writing has always been very cathartic for me and has been one of the main tools utilized with my therapist, so I plan to use this trauma diary as a place to recount traumatic situations that have found themselves stuck in my mind - the flashbacks that keep playing over and over in my mind...

anon- That was definitely one of my concerns, having come from an abusive relationship and my only other attempted dating experience was a rebound immediately after the separation, and the guy was very stalker-ish. I seem to have a habit of attracting those types. Sigh. Solara - Sounds like...

Solara - Exactly what I was thinking! The "I love you" text sent up a HUGE red flag, and I couldn't tell whether I was just getting panicky or if that really was abnormal. I've heard of people falling head-over-heels for someone within the first few moments of knowing them, and I've known some...

Thanks guys! :) I think it helps to have others with experience with PTSD to confirm it's alright to trust my gut and that my PTSD is not the only reason for wanting to turn this guy away. And I'm wondering now, is this stressor (excessive texting) something I should really focus on...

Pushing a PTSD sufferer when they need space is definitely a no-go. I'm going through some pushing from someone right now myself, and it is making me feel like I want absolutely nothing to do with that person. Those who have been through severe trauma require time, patience, and boundaries...

Hello, everyone. I suffer from PTSD, a result of a life-threatening abusive relationship which I left approximately four years ago. Upon leaving, I received counseling and was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder. It was, initially, very severe and took quite a bit of working through...