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@Snowflakes would you be willing to share what some of your coping skills are?

Hi @KeepingAboveWater I know how you feel. When I first posted on this board I had to immediately take a long break from it because I was so hurt by the responses I got. I've chatted with Eve and a few others about this in other threads. In general this blunt advice comes from a good place -...

@EveHarrington I see this question asked a lot by sufferers on here. I think the reason why something that sounds commonplace in "normal" relationships gets ascribed to PTSD by supporters who post here is because we know something is not right. It would probably be impossible to convey unless we...

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I don't know why they throw themselves into new relationships when they just left one with somebody who loved them unconditionally, accepted them for who they were, and wanted to help them heal. I'm afraid my ex will do this as well. Who knows, maybe she...

@sadgirl I understand that intellectually but I still struggle with it. It's like a feeling in the body. Feeling betrayed, deceived. Like the whole thing was fake. Even as I read all the stories that are so similar to mine, I still have trouble separating the illness from the person. It's weird.

Yup, I'm in therapy. Don't know where I'd be without it!

@sadgirl I think I've mentioned it before in another thread, but everything you just wrote could have been written by me. There is comfort in knowing I am not alone. I hope we both get at least an apology and explanation one day. If nothing else, just to know what we had mattered.

Either way, glad you found your match.

@EveHarrington the secret is that us guys don't receive intense women well if we don't feel intensely about them. But when we do, we love it :) Sounds like you've found a guy who feels as intensely about you as you do about him.

When she first withdrew, she told me (over text) she had really dark thoughts and feelings running through her. She said there were things in her life she had been avoiding addressing but now she was reaching out to her doctor and therapists. It sounded like she was being proactive, finally...

Intense is good! Life and emotions should be experienced fully. But you can see how that can be problematic for a sufferer - intense emotions are almost always a trigger. So it’s an asset and a challenge. I think that’s why we love our sufferers: they are sensitive, beautiful people capable of...

This was my ex-girlfriend. Like you, a short but intense and serious relationship. A lot of love, honest, and vulnerability. Talk of the future. And what seemed to be an emotionally mature person. What I've learned since is that having PTSD doesn't mean she (or your ex) isn't an emotionally...

Same. Same. Same. Every word the same.

Indeed, Erin. I often read @EveHarrington's posts and wish that my ex had a handle on her symptoms in the way that she does.

Erin, I'll write more to you tomorrow (going to fall asleep any second over here) but I just wanted to say I know exactly how you're feeling. Get some rest, check out a few threads on here and note the similarities to your story. And most of all remember that this is not about how awesome you...

I'll also add that sudden loss of feelings is also a symptom of depression - it's called anhedonia. You mentioned he was experiencing depression already, so it's entirely possible that what's happening now is part of that and not necessarily PTSD. Only a trained professional could make that...

Hi Genevieve, welcome to the forum and sorry you had to find it. Neither us or you can diagnose your husband, but I will say that from everything I have learned and experienced myself the sudden shut down of feelings is a hallmark of PTSD. My ex-girlfriend was madly in love with me one day and...

This is exactly how I feel as well. Even though I intellectually understand it had nothing to do with me, and she told me as much, when someone who used to think the world of you suddenly treats you like you don't matter, its hard not to believe it.

Great insight from Eve on what therapy feels like for a sufferer. From a former supporter I can tell you: when my ex decided to go into therapy -- something she had been putting off for years but felt motivated to do after extreme overwhelm -- that's when she went from...

Eve, how did you develop and hone this skill? Was it through therapy?

Not going to let confusedgirl's thread descend into "you're projecting, no YOU'RE projecting!" thing, so I'll just say that both sufferers' and supporters' contributions to this forum are equally valuable. Like any community, things are going to be said that touch an emotionally sensitive area...

@scout86 , it sounds like your communication skills are far more developed than those sufferers who send supporters running to these forums. I think many of us who have lost our relationships would have loved attempts to communicate leading up to the eventual blow-up. I think what happens in a...

Thank you for elaborating and clarifying, lost. Can any of us on here make a declarative statement like that? In reading many of the stories on here, I think it's safe to say that many breakups are precipitated by a triggering event of some kind, a stress cup overflow, or just a need for the...

@Willowtree, I relate to every single word you have written here. This pain is so unlike anything anybody will experience in a "normal" breakup and it can often make me feel alone on an island, or crazy, or both. Thank you! And all those feelings you listed off? Yes, yes, and yes. Describes it...

The persistent lack of empathy towards people who are genuinely hurting on here continues to blow my mind. Yes, if you look at things coldly and clinically, why would anyone pine for someone who doesn't want to be with them? But it's not that simple. And the way some of you write it's almost as...