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:hug: @Sighs - you really are going through it at the moment. I guess you just need to reassure him and make sure he takes the best possible care of his wound. Could you do something extra special for him on Valentine's Day (without being soppy, as I guess he wouldn't appreciate that, or...

Welcome @G86! This is exactly the place to come. My husband's ex could have written an identical post to you. He wouldn't go to his GP as he refused to accept that there was a problem; neither of them had any idea he had PTSD. It played a large part in why they split (although there was...

My husband is like ^^ now. It's taken medication and a lot of hard work to get, but the improvement is phenomenal, and I'm so proud of him.

Sorry, but WTF?! This is not about PTSD. You need to stay away, for your own sake. She thinks she's healed, so she's not going to make any effort to get help or to change. Seriously, you need to protect yourself.

If she isn't prepared to get help for herself, then you can't help her. Just because she has PTSD is not an excuse for her behaviour, and in no way do you have to cover the money she gave her daughter. My husband asks me before giving his son £20! You need to talk to her about how you feel...

^ This could quite often be said by a supporter. And at this moment in time YOU are a supporter. I don't think it's wrong, but if you don't feel comfortable with it this is a great idea: I think he will appreciate you trying not to add to his stress however you do it. I'm sorry to hear you...

I answer silly, pointless questions without getting exasperated. I didn't even really notice it until my stepson brought it up. The top three are "Hello?", "Where are going?" and "What are you doing?". Generally the answers are "Hello", "upstairs" and "reading/watching TV". Logically he...

This is a backhanded compliment. He is pretending with everyone else, but being himself with you. Don't get me wrong, I completely understand how frustrating and upsetting this can be. My husband calls family every night and it can be very confusing to hear him laughing and chatting on the...

:hug: Sighs, you're really going through it at the moment. Is there any way you could stay with a friend for a couple of nights, just to get some space? I know a hotel isn't an option, and your family live too far away. I think some times when you're in the middle of a situation it can be too...

Hi @Kita5789. I stopped doing it every time. Not everything is down to PTSD. So when that isn't a factor I no longer automatically concede. He didn't like it at first as I'd spoiled him, and he was used to getting his own way. But this is probably when we really started to communicate...

When hubby and I first moved into our own place together he would often threaten to move out during a row. That made me feel insecure and disposable, and like he wasn't committed to working through our problems. We talked about it, and he stopped. I completely understand what you mean about...

I can lend you my hyperactive 6 year old stepdaughter who constantly sing/shouts Frozen songs. Any good? Bless you for finding the funny @Sweetpea76 :alien:

Ouch, sorry to hear this. Hope the patient's patience improves. Good luck :hug:

You are absolutely right that you are under no obligation to tell anyone anything. But you can't expect your guy to understand or support you properly if he doesn't know that there is anything to understand or support. You don't need to tell him anything about your traumas to explain that you...

Hi @VeraEllen I'm another supporter. I can honestly say that without this forum I don't think I would be with my hubby. None of our family really understand, and most friends don't. My closest friends do their best to be supportive, but I don't share everything with them as I don't want...

Thanks for sharing @Ms Spock, when the holiday stress is over I will suggest to hubby that we have a look.

I guess I do wish some of the troughs weren't so bad, but I enjoy the peaks. As the lyrics to Matt Goss' song Goodbye says: "I understand that there must be pain, it's designed to illuminate the joy". But I know my hubby adores me, and he does his best to show it. To me, the rollercoaster is...

I am a supporter, so see things slightly differently. This is my take on the above: I have learned not to be curious. Do you really want someone (who isn't your T) to keep asking questions, that potentially get deeper and more personal? When I did this to hubby in the early days (before I...

That is awesome, I am so happy for you :woot:

This works for us. And it has made a difference. And this side of things is definitely improving. But he's always been pretty good at admitting he shouldn't have acted like that.

My husband spends every other Sunday with his 6 year old daughter. He adores her, she adores him - home time is always tricky. But once she is gone he basically collapses in an exhausted heap from spending the day acting 'normal' (no idea what normal actually means, but I'm sure you get the...

Mine too, on all counts! My hubby had a complete psychotic break a few years ago, before we met. He was home alone. And although he knows that on one level, he can still vividly remember terrorists trying to break into his flat. They blocked all of the windows and doors and his only way...

Fingers crossed the social worker is a good one (I promise there are some out there). If you have any concerns about your son's well being she should treat them seriously Good on you for moving forward with your own life though. It can't be easy, and it does show that you are a strong person...

I'm sorry I can't offer more than :hug:

@Rumors you appear to have missed the bit in @Livy's Mom's earlier post: And here is exactly the place to come. I think all supporter's come here to say things we can't in 'real life', as well as for our own support and different perspectives, such as @FridayJones' response to your text. And...