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@DharmaGirl it appears that you haven’t read all the threads. I have every intention of paying the car back. It’s been a year and a half of the same cycle with her, I am also dealing with PTSD. Both of us being down has not helped pick each other back up. She and I have different ways of...

@scout86 Yeah it’s been difficult - our situation is a little different. It all stems from my job. When I go to work, I have to remind head strong soon to be palliative cancer patients that ‘no’ you can’t do what you wanna do. At the same time I high five these same patients often in the...

BTW: I don’t want people to get the wrong impression. We don’t manhandle children. It’s a uniform scare tactic. It can take hours to convince a child to comply. There’s always a child representative on hand to oversee what happens. We only intervene during violent or self harm situations...

I’ve been writing some responses on here that seem overly protective of medical staff, in truth I am hired to protect both sides of the story. A lot of times it is the medical staff that I do have to protect and support. It’s not always the case. Sometimes the patient wins and gets the last...

@EveHarrington Showers can range from once to twice a week for her. But it’s the ‘announcement’ of it that kills my attraction. But.... I have had intimate encounters with partners where a shower definitely should have happened for either of us, but it was hot, sexy, intense and didn’t matter...

@brokenEMT - Thank you! The only uncommunicative thought has been the attraction and intimate factor. Everything else is on the table. This is selfish on my part but couples therapy isn’t worthwhile here. She sees a Counsellor regarding her issues, I have my therapist for my issues. Between...

@EveHarrington - Thank you! That means a lot! It’s a tough balance as I toss hats as sufferer and supporter personally and professionally. I know I should be rocking this on my own and not look back. She just sat down complaining that she ‘planned to shower today’ and I wanna scream that’s...

Thank you very much for the book referral! I’ll check that out. I’m not planning on ending things right this moment. It’ll be soon. Anything helpful and tactful in approaching sensitive subjects only helps arm me to be prepared and respectful. I’m loaded with enough reasons to make this about...

We’ve been together almost 2 years now. We live together now. When we first started, it was long distance our dates ran 2-3 days long because it was a 4 hour drive to see each other. We spent a lot of personal time together and felt that we would be comfortable living together. I made the move...

I’m absolutrly hopeful we can remain friends. I’m just dreading the conversation that is needed to make this happen. She is the in depth probing conversationalist. I’ve always been an honest person. But this time I know I can’t be in regards to all of the reasons. That’s stressing me out because...

I’m the PTSD sufferer of the relationship and it stems from my job working in Emergency Unit, my partner the supporter, she suffers from Chronic Illness (Rheumatoid Arthritis) sadly has adopted ‘Chronic Illness Mentality’ . We’re both currently off work, mine is temporary for now due to a...

@ben1982 Absolutely no offense to the OP, I’m sure they felt violated and rightfully so. There is a piece of information not clear. Was it an acute visit to an ER, the OP did state that they were in emotional crisis during the procedure. The rest of the description of the event feels like ER...

All the more reason for you to protect yourself first. Just because you leave someone doesn’t mean you can’t be part of a recovery process in the future or that you’re not a loving caring person. You’re just forcing the hand that may affect change in your partners behaviour while protecting...

@ben1982 I’m not sure where you are. ‘Do no harm’ is not a policy, it’s an ethic that is followed in regards to overall care - invasive surgery is a form of harm but necessary to correct underlying issues. Stitches, needles, clamps are harmful. Because they hurt. The policy here in Canada, is...

You and your son first. Everything else is secondary. You need to get out and force all hands that protect you and your son. Just as @EveHarrington said - involve police, VA, family members - after you’ve gotten out. PTSD is one thing - Abuse is another. You are in DANGER. I can not stress that...

Depending on regions and severity we have Children hospitals in Canada. They specialize in dealing with child health care and the sensitivities required for that. I can assure you, you weren’t the only fear stricken child. The process is very scary for little ones and my heart breaks for them...

While I find sometimes chatting in the MYPTSD forums is a good way to vent and unleash thoughts, the combination of having to evaluate WCB finding ways to discontinue coverage and discussing examples here in the forums in this diary or other chats, its caused me to revisit some more difficult...

@ben1982 You’re jumping all over the board with ideas. I can give you another very difficult consent scenario. A grown woman, with cuts, bruising, fearful behaviour, withdrawn and quick to dismiss assistance with her obviously very present doting and loving partner at her side is very much...

@ben1982 These practices do exist. People have the right to refuse treatment at the Emergency level, but need to sign a document that they accept their choice to not receive treatment and absolve the hospital from their duties to perform additional services. If they fail to sign this document...

@Anarchy I’m a member of the Emergency Unit security team. I follow orders, guidelines and protocol to ensure the safety of all parties from patient to attending emergency personnel are safe. It’s my job. That’s where I get my permission. A suspected drunk driver extracted from automotive...

My partner is always on top of me for little mistakes I make around the apartment. It’s to a point that every little thing I do gets brought up. She’s aware that I have PTSD: What I really want to say: Please shut the hell up, I’m sorry I’ve rearranged the dish cupboard by accident every time we...

I dream of a day when all my ID matches again. I have moved so many times in the last 12 years that I now exist in three different provinces and most of the ID is all still valid as I haven’t reached expiration. The last time everything matched was three years ago. I remember setting all my ID...

The whole review process is so clinically surgical in its explanations, recommendations, how it applies faults to very specific actions. When I was sitting in front of the review board accounting for my role with the patient, it sounded more like a sales meeting performance talk. I couldn’t get...

@ben1982 The medical community debates and adjusts far more rapidly than you’ve suggested. There are constant guidline and policy changes almost at a daily pace as we learn how to deal with certain issues. Consent has a lot of grey areas in the medical industry as there are very broad...

While I understand the sentiment behind your thoughts, applying sexual consent thought process to medical consent regarding minors would set a dangerous pattern. Granted I work in an Emerge unit and the number of screaming no’s that echo the hallways from young ones not wanting X-rays, stitches...