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@mywifestrigger - it sounds like everyone is up tight. It must hard on everyone. I think your wife did the right thing. I assume she has been available and ready to serve for many hours of the day. I understand that she needed a break and 3 hours seems like a small gap of time not for others to...

I am not sure who has the P.T.S.D. and who is the supporter. The best thing you can do is not entertain a conversation that will evolve into an argument. I am finding out through experience, silence is important and not "shaking the beehive" to the point where you both are overwhelmed. Also, the...

Thank You @mywifestrigger for your almost daily updates and encouragement. I look forward to logging in during the day and seeing how your situation is developing. I am blessed to have the people who add their experiences from both sides of the ptsd world. I did use your experience with my...

I am 4 months into a wife that has not been diagnosed yet. As a supporter, please make sure you do not take what is said to you as personal. Please make sure that you do not allow yourself to carry any guilt that you may be accused of. Surround yourself with people you can go to that can support...

@mywifestrigger - last night was my wife's birthday. She made plans to go out with her mother and my daughter. I was excluded from the birthday (just like the other recent holidays). When she came home I was able to talk with her a little before she started to get upset. I had to close our joint...

@psychocandy - your situation is unusual with the back and forth games that are happening. I do want to let you know I agree with the "shut out" that is happening for you. I have the same thing happening for me at this time. I know that for me. If my wife sees me having a good time....it is not...

great news on your recent breakthrough with communication @mywifestrigger - take it slow, baby steps.

@intothelight - wow, well said. I never had it presented to me quite like that. I see P.T.S.D. in a new perspective. I will be moving back into my house tomorrow night and make sure that I love her no matter what she returns back, she is not the problem. thank you.

@mywifestrigger - She loves our children, she just hates me for some reason. So I think she will be fine as long as I am removed. I have a son 19 in college who comes home every other weekend, I have a daughter 16 who is in the home with my wife. I am staying at my parents house and I am about 2...

@mywifestrigger - I had never noticed any abusive behavior in the past 21 years. It seems to have manifested itself within the past few months. I am not sure but she might now feel threatened and she is reacting to me based on her mood and conditions. She seems nice to my children, but just...

If you have to hide it. then what would be next. I love most of the supporter forums and follow many of you who participate daily. I have been able to better understand P.T.S.D. and I know there are so many scenarios which lead to P.T.S.D. and are so unique to each person. The hardest part of...

Never, Never, Never take the blame from some one's actions. You cannot control his mental state and if it was in your control, you would not allow him to be where he is.

Last week I had decided to move out and live with my parents for a week or two. I wanted to give some time to heal us. I seem to be her trigger and she likes me not being around her. So by me moving out I think may worsen our situation and marriage while she may be able to remove the anxiety and...

I had the same thing happen over the holidays. At first I was shocked and sickened by it. By the time my birthday came about in February, I almost expected nothing from my wife. Question: if isolation is a coping mechanism, do sufferers really care about other's feelings and emotions during...

@Solara - if that was the case I would be back with my wife. I totally understand the (if he gets me mad I will just ignore him) situation. I have adapted to that lately. I just cannot understand why anyone chooses to remain alone on purpose after many good years of receiving affection and love.

Wow, had you been living in the same place together while no communication? 4-5 months is a long time.

Other "supporter" forums have discussions about being isolated from your partner. Many of us are experiencing that same kind of negative attention. Keep your head up and do not take is personal. I know that might be hard to do.

I would like thank both supporter & sufferer's point of views. I really respect your thought process and how things are perceived. As a supporter, I am not looking for an excuse to discredit some one's behaviour or label a person based on symptoms of PTSD. I read many non-supporter forums to...

@mywifestrigger - I have been keep in touch with my son by phone who is home this week from college on break. He told me yesterday that he has noticed an improvement in her behaviour and general attitude. I am not sure what he noticed but that seemed encouraging to me. My only fear is that...is...

As a supporter I had to finally move out for a few weeks while I got myself back to feeling human again. My wife feels that I am her "trigger" and I am the blame for how she feels. She had written me a letter to not contact her by email, texts or by phone. I have a strong religious belief about...

@Gryffy - your last post really pinpoints the true feelings and emotions some of us supporters are dealing with. I had to re-read your comments because it made so much sense to me. I had a fantastic marriage until something changed. My wife does not think she has any issues but then yet you...

I am dealing with someone who is pushing away. It is more painful than verbal abuse for me. I have been dealing with dissociation issues with my wife for about 4 months. Honestly, you have to take care of yourself first. His issues will affect and cripple you eventually and you will have your...

I do have plans to move back into the house soon. This week my son is home from a college break and if I was home my wife would sleep on the couch vs. sleeping in the same bed, so I will remain out of the house. I noticed that her motives are starting to get a bit more aggressive and I am...

@blue_eyes18 - while your partner is in MIA mode....find things to do that will occupy your mind and time. Do you have anyone you can and speak with? Get some of this burden off your chest could be a huge stepping stone for you. Any hobbies or projects you have been putting off. I know when I...

@blue_eyes18 - I just read your post and I left you had written that for me. I am in the same state of feelings now you just explained. I have the same needs, concerns, wants. I feel they are not unrealistic and could be obtainable if she would just stop thinking about herself and create this...