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I think I'm doing that--at a glacial pace--but then my self-esteem problems go all the way back to birth defects. I have a lot of catching up to do, and a lot of mistakes to forgive myself for after 69 years..

I do have several female friends (platonic), but being an "Old Buddy" can be stressful too. And guys don't interest me.

I'm sure you are right on both counts. The attempted career assassination began right after my wife's death and went on for nearly 10 years of legal battle. That overlapped the destructive long relationship. I never got to process my grief without extraneous anxiety. The main thing that...

Just a lot. She couldn't hold a job because of bosses who expected her to be on time. She barely made it through culinary school, at my expense. She couldn't handle other people's celebrations without causing a scene (my daughter's wedding). We couldn't take road trips or stay in hotels...

Yes, I've only been working on genuine self-esteem since isolating. And something I've craved since very young has been approval and respect as "normal." Ploease don't be offended by what I said about fearing BPD women. It is just one of my problems resulting from bad choices.

This better describes my former girlfriend. Her demands became crushing if attention turned away from her, else she would fly into destructive rages or threaten suicide.

I admit it is strange. I first began learning about boundaries while reading "Stop Walking on Eggshells". But I had never had to do that before. My wife was always fair, and our boundaries were understood. I think I began seeing people whom I could see needed help after I failed at saving my...

I honestly don't know. My therapist has said that I have a tendency to pick "low-hanging fruit." Presumably seductive or overly friendly women, but I've also gone the route of becoming friends with women who are clearly unavailable to begin with. Since the last clearly damaging (11 year)...

I have PTSD for a number of reasons, so I'm not about to blame any one cause or set of triggers. Nor do I wish to add stigma to anyone else's disorder. However, on top of life long struggles, I have found that several times I have been under the spells of women with severe Borderline...

@Pencil, I don't understand why you can say @Nikie is "full of shit". I've not seen anyone attacked like that on the forums. As you say, S.A. is a big country. You don't live on a remote farm anymore, but in a city. Even in the U.S., we are aware of the wide differences in the perceptions...

Just thinking about you, @Nikie. Don't tell anyone where you are for now.

The hyenas I'm reading about are not kids, no matter how old.:mad::mad::devilish::devilish:

... I'd be honored, Kiddo.:smug: And folks with more knowledge of your area would need to help. I'm just a good editor (and a pretty good "ghost writer"). You won't have trouble finding experts to help, WHEN you safely bring the story out.:cautious: Back to Ed's comment, I'm sure you'd...

Sounds as if you need some sleep too.:( Why not join your Teddy bears?:hug:

Don't want to know all your plans and preparations, at least not here.:cautious: But I'm sure glad you've been working on them:tup:. Save the details for your book!;)

That's risky for the rider(s) if not used to it. Might add wire cutters to your tool box. What the hell if it's illegal! You'll be the only law. The 3 rules will be: GO!, GO!, and GO!, if it's time. Please make sure everyone can read a map and compass and knows all the options. Nobody...

You might just ask your husband where they are? Shit happens.

Hi Nikie, In gathering supplies, you might want to browse the web for "disaster survival kits" and checklists. Especially the ones approved by the Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA) and the U.S. Department of Homeland Security (DHS). They are pretty thorough, and although you can buy...

@Medic72, you might consider selling the guns when you get around to them. Of course Canada's laws on gun sales are different from the U.S., but there is probably a legal way you could turn the guns into cash. Shouldn't hurry on that though. Give it time, then ask how to dispose of them...

Hi Nikie, Among your supplies, be sure and keep a large supply of batteries for everything that uses them. Lots of flashlights, etc.

Nikie, just caught on to your thread. Sounds like Anarchy and Ed have been very helpful. I might remind you that for your water supplies and sanitation, you need a good supply of bleach against bacteria. Boil any water you are not sure of for at least 3 minutes, and pour it into a bleached...

@Medic72, I think @scout86 is right here. In the midst of your overwhelming grief it is hard to see, but as time passes, some causes for panic will diminish. I know that looks impossible right now, but give yourself appropriate credit for endurance. You are not a weak person. You have just...

I think of a soul as something primordial, perhaps pre-human in me. Something that assures me of life's continuity beyond myself. I can sense it in nature, animals, landscapes and certain people. And it makes me aware of itself in many ways, telling me that it is the purest part of me. It is...

Make the effort once a year to set a dental appointment far in advance. Then whenever someone invites you to do something, you can say you wish you could, but you have a dental appointment. Just cancel the current appointment when the dentist calls to remind you the week prior, and while your...

Absolutely not "sick." I have an envelope of my wife's hair, and some of her ashes to be mixed with mine and buried under the tree where her other ashes wait for me. Lovesick maybe, after 25 years.