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I don't mind other people reading this, because I have learned some things that might be useful for everyone to know. More and more boys are being born with the conditions, and I have some ideas of why. It is time to tear "top secret" off of the file, for the good of a lot of kids, parents...

OK, here goes. First let me say that I am totally male, physically, mentally, genetically, emotionally, and stubbornly. My condition was hypospadias with chordee. Hah! My spell check doesn't even recognize the terms, they are so hush-hush. Yet it is estimated by some that one in every 300...

@Anarchy, I just noticed that your posts on the above subject date to 2014. I hope I didn't open an old, painful subject unnecessarily. My problem was another "birth anomaly", with surgeries/infections/shame/fear at crucial stages in my development and you know... Proof of having been born a...

OK, @Anarchy, you've done it now! I just noticed this thread, and I'm almost afraid to further it, since it is HUGE. There is another support forum which I read for a while, until I became overwhelmed by the scope of it. Yet it affects millions of men, and is the secret key to many men's...

Hah! Why does it not surprise me to hear this? The web says, though that he did deploy in Iraq. As one spokesman against her said, (paraphrasing) It is ironic that she, who represents the party of 'personal responsibility' should try to shift the blame for her son's beating his girlfriend and...

Call your therapist, the crisis hotline or 9-1-1. GET HELP NOW! Reply to let us know you are OK, but get face-to-face with help.

Of course she was talking at an endorsement rally for Trump in Oklahoma. But she linked her son's recent domestic violence arrest to combat PTSD, hinting that his violence was predictable, since he's back from deployment.

I shall listen to David Burns and probably others. However, it is important to me in my condition to respect and reinforce my own creativity in solving my own problems. My slow successes to free myself of self-doubts are dependent upon my own mental resources, and they are becoming stronger.

No, I haven't read that book, among others that are recommended. I have difficulty reading very much, and stay far behind. Perhaps the Inner Soother and the Inner Editor are a hybrid, but I( tend to think of the Soother as subjective biased toward me, to balance out the potential damage of the...

Hey, at least for VP, or a Democratic Cabinet spot (perhaps Commerce). By the way, did EVERYONE READ THE OPINION COLUMN IN THE JAN. 22 NEW YORK TIMES BY A VET WITH PTSD? He exposes Palin's remarks which compound the stigma we all face.!

Hi @Ms Spock, I mentioned the other day in a different thread that I have tried to foster in myself an "Inner Editor". An objective reader of my thoughts, who begins with a the raw manuscript of my thoughts in hope of not having to correct or suggest re-writes before my story is complete for...

Have you made that clear to that nurse's supervisor and your doctors? If he mistreats you for his own petty power, he most probably does it to everyone he can. Maybe he belongs working in the hospital laundry! Please take care of yourself.

Very well said. And I notice that when I'm feeling threatened, sad, or just inert, I can often change that for the better, by even a simple wave and "good morning" to someone who might need that. (Admittedly though, it has become harder to do that for people who so often have their ears...

I can't fool my therapist either, and I'm not sure it is very far from trying to fool some close family members. I may answer the question about how I'm doing with something like, "Hey I Ok!" even with a grin. But after a pause, she can change her tone to one that cuts through my bullshit and...

No. You are talking about gambling with your life. You can't afford to lose.You need to stay conscious of what works to keep you focused and safe. If you are not choosing inpatient treatment, you seem to be able to focus by working, and by being honest with your therapist and this forum. You...

Even when the "game" is all there is--FOR NOW.

Welcome to the forum! And thanks for writing from Serbia! I sometimes have thought of the country as one of the recent world capitols of trauma. Survival instinct is alive and well there. Hats off!

Picking it up at all is something many never do. From the outside, it may even look like cruel passive aggression toward her, when you might actually be clarifying something important for her to learn too. You are being a good friend.

This is a good point, and is at least what you can non-verbally enforce for yourself. I mean that, given that your friend seems not to hear your stated boundaries, it could be because she isn't able to in her depression. Nevertheless, your boundaries are there and you already have tried to...

That's healthy. Your friendship is not a weapon that either one can use against the other. Their dysfunction is theirs to fix--or not. It's somebody else's bad weather. Stay where it is safe and sensible.

True. Your friendship is not some object that they can be jealous over. They ae playing a dismal game of favorites at your expense. That's junior high shit.

It doesn't sound as if you've lost your friends. They have lost you with their behavior. Sad for them.

Another possibility is that your friend WANTS you to witness how she is being treated. Perhaps she thinks she needs a witness for whatever reason, though it is a real imposition on you. Do they have kids? Is she planning to leave him, and wants your help, if needed in court? It is very...

Has he ever said why he doesn't want her on the phone? Do they have more than one phone? Granted, he sounds abusive, but is he perhaps "on call" or something? If not, he just sounds like a nasty control freak. I despise those guys.

Oh, but we're not to the best ones yet. How 'bout. "Further evidence might be revealed supporting the proposition of..." and...Okay, I'll stop!