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    Childhood Is it traumatic having a seriously ill parent?

    My Mom had severe Rheumatoid Arthritis which she was diagnosed with at 17. She had me at 27 & it went from bad to extremely severe. She had 3 ankle replacements, 3 hip replacements, 3 knee replacement & a neck fusion whilst I was alive. I spent a lot of time in the hospital visitng her when I...
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    How to deal with medium or low levels of dissociation?

    This certainly works for my maladaptive daydreaming, which I guess is kind of like a low grade dissociation. Also noticing things that my senses pick up on. I meditate frequently as well, that seems to work as well.
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    Alternative to conventional talking therapies?

    Thankyou for all your responses, I really do appreciate it deeply. Of the 5 therapists I've been to, the one I'm going to call this morning has experienced trauma himself & I think is writing a book about treating trauma or setting up a charity. I can't actually remember which one. I think...
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    Alternative to conventional talking therapies?

    Massively appreciate the responses guys. Ive concluded that the people in my life aren't helpful when it comes to T. I'm going to go back to the T who diagnosed me with PTSD & see how it goes. What I need to change is what I do outside of the therapy room. So I'm going to go to my 12 step...
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    Alternative to conventional talking therapies?

    I completely agree. I know I need therapy, but I want to know what I’m getting into. I’m gonna look into trauma specific therapies near me. I’m thinking EMDR or DBT. Outside of that I’m going to look at neurofeedback, feldenkreis, yoga & see if there’s any support groups in my area. I...
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    Alternative to conventional talking therapies?

    @Swift I will definitely give both of them a try! Sound like they would suit me! @EveHarrington Ive done talking therapy with 5 therapists in the past 6 years. I couldn’t tell you a specific technique they’ve used. I’ve generally spoken about my problems & they’ve given me advice, that’s about...
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    Alternative to conventional talking therapies?

    I'm going to look into each method & see what resonates. I think it's either this, or my social front is masking how bad my symptoms are. Could be a bit of both. Maybe I'm minimising my issues in T & the T isn't picking up on it. It took 3 months for my T to diagnose me with PTSD. That set me...
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    Alternative to conventional talking therapies?

    I've done a quick google search & found a few people who do it near me. Gonna get in touch with them. I think your right about being open, I am overly nice & feel like I should look after my therapist when my honest view is that I don't trust them. Did you do a lot of research/ reading prior...
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    Alternative to conventional talking therapies?

    I've been to 5 different therapists in the past 6 years & I really struggle to trust them or get anything out of the sessions. My distrust for people in the medical field goes back years & I think it's actually part of my trauma. My Mom died whilst she was on the waiting list for an...
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    General Codependency and codependent tendencies - exploring and overcoming them

    That's actually blown my mind:eek:. For me, I do think part of me was trying to control my Dad. I was trying to help him make healthy decisions which I didn't view him as capable of making. I was doing that out of fear of losing my other parent. When my Mom died, the way he acted made me...
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    General Codependency and codependent tendencies - exploring and overcoming them

    Is it possible to support someone who has PTSD in a codependent way, whilst also suffering with PTSD yourself? I think that's the position I could be in. I'm going to order codependent no more today! Sounds like it'll be a good read.
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    Brain games... and ptsd

    I think this is a great idea. I can see how games like this would help with mindfulness & help rewire the brain. I for one, will be giving this a try.
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    Fight/flight/freeze - is it possible to change your default response?

    Thankyou! I've done a lot of martial arts over the years. I've done - Boxing, Karate, Thai Boxing, Eskrima, Kickboxing & a bit of BJJ. I think martial arts can be really beneficial, when combined with with work on the mental aspect of PTSD. In my opinion they come hand in hand & do have...
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    Dysfunctional relationship with my dad - shared trauma!

    These are all fantastic responses guys, thankyou so much! I've thought about these overnight & I actually feel better. I am angry with my Dad but I also feel sympathy towards him. I think that's the root cause of why our relationship is where it is. I automatically go to the fawn response. I've...
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    Dysfunctional relationship with my dad - shared trauma!

    Thankyou @Justmehere I will try that. It does make sense. I'm just asking him rather than asserting a boundary. I think this is part of rebuilding the fight response. I definitely need to do this. Yes, I think thats the issue. I didn't develop a healthy response as I was a kid. Yes, I think...
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    Dysfunctional relationship with my dad - shared trauma!

    He sticks to it for a while, but then brings it back up covertly through other topics. He will talk about his friend & then all of a sudden the conversation is based on his relationship. They are currently fostering a dog, but aren't on speaking terms, so it ends up being about his relationship...
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    Fight/flight/freeze - is it possible to change your default response?

    I read a fantastic book about these responses by Pete Walker, its called from Surviving to thriving. He speaks about rebuilding the fight response. I can't remember much more, I need to read it again, but I know it has helped me.
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    Dysfunctional relationship with my dad - shared trauma!

    I'm actually ok at the minute. I am an addict, but they are under control & my daydreaming is under control for the longest period in the last 14 years. I've been a member here for just over a month, I got diagnosed with PTSD about 8 months ago, so it is kinda new to me but overall I think I'm...
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    Dysfunctional relationship with my dad - shared trauma!

    Background - I'm 26 & my Dad is 50. My Mom died in 2004, which we both witnessed & my Dad has had abusive relationships since then. One in particular was really bad & exposed me to more trauma. We have a business together & have had for the past 8 years. I don't live with him right now. My...
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    Death Mom died 14 years ago - still can't feel anything.

    My brain conveniently forgot about this thread. I’ve got some sorting out to do at home tonight so I’m going to drag out these pictures if I can. If not I’m going to locate where they are. The better I get the more flashbacks I have to my youth, some good, some bad!
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    Death Mom died 14 years ago - still can't feel anything.

    I do somewhere. I think I could do with looking at them. I think there at my house, but I genuinely don't know, I'll have to ask my girlfriend. Don't apologise, I'm sorry you had to go through that! :hug: I'm trying to understand it's all part of the process. In my mind my dysfunctional family...
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    Death Mom died 14 years ago - still can't feel anything.

    @Sietz it is good advice. Certainly the same in my family. I feel as though I have to be the last one to move on. I feel like no-one understands that I was there, that my childhood came crashing down one morning. I heard everything happen & that's never been spoken about. My Mom never gets...
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    Death Mom died 14 years ago - still can't feel anything.

    This could be true. Wanting to deal it doesn't mean its the right thing to do. I think I need to heed the advice I gave you in your diary. Just because it isn't terrible, doesn't mean it isn't unhealthy. I feel caught in limbo in relation to my Mom, like I'm in no mans land. I don't want to...
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    Last movie or tv series you watched?

    I've started arrested development recently. I love Brooklyn 99 & watch Power as well. I love Netflix original stuff.
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    Death Mom died 14 years ago - still can't feel anything.

    I have recently restarted therapy, I am not 100% on my current T. I get a bit manic in therapy & get stuck on the low level stuff. Part of me thinks I'm not dealing with the low level stuff because I'm scared of what comes after that!
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