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Here is another suggestions - your grandmother's abuse caused Structural Dissociation and that made you more vulnerable to PTSD and has made it harder to deal with it now that you have it. There are a couple of threads about Structural Dissociation that you could search for and take a look at....

Hi KP, Thank you for the report! I'm glad you are doing so well. You so so so deserve and have earned it BOTH! It is so good and important to hear from "people on the other side!"

In our house (both husband and I were emotionally neglected) it is a process of struggling to ACCEPT, not even love, but just even appreciation of the other person. (Any other person really.) We both try to focus on, and really get and appreciate our own accomplishments - little stuff - folding...

You sound like a classic adult ADHD story to me. This is what often happens to kids with a learning disability or ADHD who are not in supportive environments, or rather, who are in environments where the adults are willing to write the kid off. Check this out and see if it might be a piece of...

LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE!!!!!!!!!:):):):):):):):joyful:

YES I did hear the PTS in it. And I hope now the threat is gone they get some healing. It is just so.... so so SAD. And how ONE guy can cause SO MUCH pain and suffering.... We just have to start TELLING these stories - because the good guys/bad guys one that we use to understand good and bad...

I would echo what everyone else said. I think the english language makes this harder than it needs to be because there are three senses of "respect" operating here. There is a distinction between acting respectfully and feeling respect (in the sense of a kind of regard that recognizes their...

Is it as simple as the "X-Files"... "I want to believe?" Sad if true. Or maybe it is that workplace abuse is so normalized... So close to normal not-so-good boss behavior... My boss (whom I fortunately can pretty much entirely avoid) is clearly nuts - and does illegal things - but the higher...

It is a most weird form of .. beyond denial. Agnosia. There is clearly SOMETHING seriously wrong with someone who just seems to have missed that you can't set off BOMBS at people's houses... and not be a bully. Adult bullies are clearly a different breed. One thing that might help is the...

HA HA! You beat me to it! I listened to this one yesterday - OMG. There are MANY amazing things about this story (not in a good way) not the least of which is how very many people had to "cooperate" to enable this guy's abuse of others. And, of course, he still thinks he is the good guy. It was...

On the topic of "struggle" being formative: My daughter's daycare teacher shared her dad's story that he would tell when his kids got mad at hime for not bailing them out of something that he thought they should do on their own: There was once a child who had found a caterpillar. The...

Wow. Just ... wow.

I love This American Life... and Radio Lab. The stories are really really well done... If you want something more uplifting... the episode called "Batman" is great.

Sending prayers your way Gizmo. I hope your daughter gets a good moving settlement - "Cash for Keys" can be pretty generous. And I am glad you have a friend who can take you in for the interim. You MUST take care of yourself first, and THEN offer help where you can and where it is appropriate...

I once had my aunt tell me, "You should not apologize for the gift you've just given me before I've even opened it." So, yeah.:shifty: Me too. I've tried to go cold turkey.:stop: Never apologize. It doesn't actually work very well, but it makes me a lot more aware of how often I am (and am not...

I want to add my vote to the "you're a great writer and should share your stories more widely..." effort! You write very well and clearly and your perspective is extremely valuable. Yours is a voice I would have more people hear. YES and, there is also a lack of compassion - the result, perhaps...

"Safe" for who? Obviously the primary purpose of such places is to keep everyone else safe from the people in them. :(:cry: The focus is most obviously not on making it safe for the patients, except if it impacts the safety of the people running the show. And perhaps those most damaged need...

In an ironic turn... perhaps it is time to actually PUT the lunatics in charge of the asylum. ;) Seriously. I wonder if any U. psych people are reading and could get funding to do a pilot program... or perhaps it has been done. There are certainly times and places for medication and...

I once read a quote that said "If there are no animals in heaven, I think I'll pass, thanks." I love my animals, more than anyone but my children. I had a cousin who is a vet, who after my ex tried to get him to back him up on something about my horse said, "If it comes down to choosing...

I am so glad you are back, Hope! And I'm sorry it was so...awful in so many ways. And this: Sounds HUGE. Possibly worth the price of admission? I hope so anyhow.

Hi Hope, I hope you are getting rest and feeling more at peace. Check in when you get a chance.

My best friend brought me Starbucks in the hospital when I had Lexi. I hope you will find some respite in the hospital for a while - and get some breathing room. It is good you have your husband to advocate for you. I am here too.

Exactly. And probably anatomically correct too. :)

((((((((((Gizmo))))))))) Nothing to say. Just warmth and hugs. It is so hard. I'm sorry you don't still have them both.:cry:

I think this comes very close. EP's (and ANP) shouldn't be fought. They should be nurtured. They are systems that need integrating and growing up so that they can do what they need to and we need them to to be whole human beings. I like the idea of the SELF (tho it is not part of SD theory) as...