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@Justmehere - it's really interesting. Do you think that they get worse while in therapy because talking about things makes them retreat from themselves? I'd appreciate your insight regarding this.

That's a long time. Right now, you have a partner who can't be there for you. I'd suggest seeking counseling for yourself to be able to cope and remain strong through this. What happened 6 months ago? Do you think something caused this or it was out of blue?

@ShanaK , Can't imagine what you and your family are going through. Must be a very hard time for all of you. PTSD is soulcrushing. Please know that it is not your fault that your husband is feeling that way. I know it feels like it but it's not. He needs to find understanding for himself... Be...

@Casey_03 , yes I would agree with @glass half full some people ignite us in certain ways while others don't. The degree and depth of connection makes all the difference in the world, of course. Something about the person, experiences and relationships you've had has meant more for you perhaps...

@glass half full , All that you feel and think right now and completely understandable. Seems like you are trying to understand but you can't because he does not allow you to understand him. As you mentioned, it's hard to go day in and day out and feel helpless about not being able to be there...

@Silentwhisper43 and @glass half full , I am so sorry. That must be just heartbreaking. My situation is a bit different so I am trying to keep my head straight and be patient. I know he hasn't given up on me and has told me to not take the distance personally. It's hard to wait. I am very...

@glass half full - thank you for sharing. Yes, it surely is a roller coaster. It's unpredictable, comes without any warning and lingers with no promise of reaching an ending point. There is a lot of uncertainty surrounding all these and I'm just working so hard to be patient, sensitive and...

@Silentwhisper43 - you know, I don't really have a choice but to be hopeful and look forward to better things. Lately, he has a lot going on it seems and I'm trying to give him the space and time he needs. That is not easy at all. I miss him like crazy even though I get a chance to see him at...

@Kimberly Bogaczyk - yes, it is very difficult. I pretty much just let him initiate all the contact and conversation. I try not to push him or add any pressure as I know that can add stress to what is already going on with him. He has just recently come to terms with his condition. It is...

@Silentwhisper43 - just wanted to add one more thing. Despite the distance and isolation communication is important here. Ask your loved one where you both stand. I asked mine and he told me that nothing towards me has changed. I have no reason not to believe him, and frankly, you have to choose...

@Silentwhisper43 - I am in a similar situation in so many ways. The second question that you posted interested me most as I feel like I can relate to it more and perhaps offer some measure of clarity. Whether or not he feels the same for you... Nobody can answer that question other than the...

@Kimberly Bogaczyk - thank you for your encouraging words! It gets so lonely sometimes. I never want to burden anybody with my struggles but I am the first one to confess that I need the support of others and also want to offer some encouragement to those who may need it. I love this man. It is...

@Bfab - thank you so much for sharing!! Yes, I did see some behavioral changes in my loved one too. He acted kind of cold. I did question him, asked if anything had changed in him towards me and he said that I shouldn't be taking his difficulties personally. I can't even describe how tough it...

@hangingon, thank you for your reply. Yes, he does tend to isolate himself a lot. I am a very emotional and sensitive person and sometimes I get lost in my own feelings, trying to explore if I have done anything to cause him to withdraw from me. He does tell me to not take the distance...

@Ragdoll Circus - thank you. Guess what happened today? I texted him and he called me back! I was so excited to hear his voice! I could tell by his voice that he's doing much better. I can't describe how much I had missed him!

@Ragdoll Circus - I understand all that you share. The person that I'm talking about wasn't always like this. It's like waking up one morning and talking to a wholly different person. A person who would initiate communication every day can go weeks without saying anything unless I reach out. I'm...

@Ragdoll Circus - No, there is nothing to be sorry for. He was so persistent in trying to get me that I thought he wanted me the way I want him. His behavior was always consistent and he never backed off. @Ragdoll Circus, can you specify why would it be a "disaster" as you call it? He just...

@Casey_03 and @FridayJones - thank you for your feedback. I have thought that he may not be ready for a relationship, but there are some other fact that had made me believe otherwise. He showed interest in me some time back because he found out that I cared for him more than he had allowed...

Ok. Here is my story. My guy and I were acquaintances before we actually started seeing each other 2 months ago. He is a vet and has a long military history. He was attentive, kind, always excited to see me and be in my presence. It was great. He was very communicative, would express his love...