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If you can, record the phone calls with the collection agencies. Make sure you tell them to no longer contact you and have that recorded. This helps because you can file a complaint with the BBB and the FCC. I've been in your shoes when I was drowning in debt myself at one point. Just try to...

The only thing that seems to drag me back to the past is my immediate family, to which I now have to avoid them most of the time. Just this past Mother's Day, my father texted me to wish me a happy Mother's Day but then proceeded to follow it up with reminding me about how horrible my mom was...

I have scars from being in an abusive marriage that are pretty visible, plus I have scars from being really depressed due to the same relationship. My ex had punched me in and pushed me face first into the concrete sidewalk while I had sunglasses on. I had fractures on my forehead and my nose...

I wish I could've taken a vacation when I was working! When I married my husband, I had to work a half day, go down to city hall to get the marriage license, work the morning of our wedding, and then the very next day. It was insane. I've had surgery one day, worked that night and the next...

I always try to be grateful about at least one thing, to help keep myself optimistic. I'm really glad I have my husband who supports me, my daughter that makes me feel like I've done something right, and my dogs that keep me laughing and give me cuddles when I need them.

The area that I live at has mostly luxury apartments starting at $2,000/mo for a small one bedroom, if you are lucky. I'm in Virginia close to DC now. It ended up being cheaper to own a house than it is to rent an apartment. I used to live in NY too, where the rent was astronomical compared...

My father lives 400 some odd miles from me. He never visits me here. Or really his granddaughter. He doesn't call us. My step mother sends out the obligatory birthday/holiday cards. He's my only only biological parent because my mother died when I was younger. My father thinks my PTSD is a...

It is difficult when you seem like you don't have many options. I've been there. I was taking care of myself at 17, so I had to learn the best ways to make money quickly. I remember what it was like to not have any money to pay bills, or eat, and I found myself struggling while raising my...

My father is an engineer, and I've been working with computers since the early 80s, and try to keep up with the changing technology by just reading a lot. I've never taken a certification class. It's a waste of money IMO. And with tech, I honestly think going to college for the purpose of...

I've worked in IT for 20 something years. I don't have any degrees in IT. I have degrees in Business/Marketing. I was making over six figures at my last job when I was laid off in March and I was an IT config analyst. My closest friend builds the programs that control robots in car...

I was laid off from my high paid tech job about a month ago. I had been there 10 years. I was told it was because of the change in the political environment, and the company had to cut jobs to prepare for the future. My entire department of 8 people were let go. I was really upset and...

This happens to me too. I have a hard time returning to my home town because I start to panic or just feel sick to my stomach. One time while going up to visit family, I barely made it out of the car before throwing up. Now I take medication, but rarely travel back there. I also have a...

It's tough. I got divorced, moved 400 miles away from the place I grew up and lived in for 30 some years. I wasn't safe in my old house, couldn't trust anyone, kept running into my ex's friends at places like the grocery store, and I became a hermit pretty much. He used to also have people...

My abusive ex did this as a way to get around my Order of Protection. There was supposed to be no 3rd party contact, but my ex was finding ways around this. He was contacting my family, even ones that I didn't really know very well, my old coworkers, friends' family, but also he was having his...

I disagree with letting your kids know anything. I don't know what good can come from that. My daughter's therapist told me not to tell my daughter about my PTSD, nor about how my mother was bipolar and she took her own life. My daughter is a teenager, and I found out I had PTSD when she was...

The director of my department was apparently bragging yesterday about how great her budgets will look for the quarter. It was just so heartless and cold. They wouldn't even allow people that had been with the company for over 30 years to grab their purses or jackets, they had security go to...

I'm in absolute shock. I was supposed to have a meeting today at 10am, and instead I was called by my HR dept to tell me that they eliminated my entire department. I was being laid off. I couldn't even hear the woman speaking to me, because I was having a panic attack and she was just reading...

Abusive relationships are like roller coasters. They go through a cycle where there's abuse, it gets better, but then goes back to abuse. In my case, it gradually kept getting worse after having a short bit of calm in between. I came to realize that it wasn't going to stay good and the cycle...

I completely agree that PTSD effects your physical health, and I have been to doctors that also agree. I was a generally very healthy person 10 years ago, with the exception that I was born with a heart condition but it was minor. I was diagnosed with PTSD probably 6 or 7 years ago following...

I personally wasn't diagnosed with PTSD until my daughter was 10. Mine came about after I was involved in a few tragic circumstances. Kids don't need to be involved in their parents' problems. I grew up with a mother who was bipolar and it was awful, it always turned into her excuse for being...

Home for me is where I live now, the house I bought with my husband. We worked really hard to get this house, and it's perfect. I live in a sort of rural area that's quiet and peaceful. I have a few acres to get away from the rest of society, but is still close to the city. I am an artist...

Does he go to his own therapist for his issues? You can go for yourself, but relationships take work from both people or they aren't going to work out. I know from my own personal experience that after a baby comes into an already not so good situation, it can get really bad. Lack of sleep...

I take a lot of responsibilities for my actions, and for the most part, it has helped me in the long run. No excuses. I don't have shame or guilt for what my parents did, but I don't use it as an excuse for my behavior. I blame myself for the abusive situation that I ultimately put myself...

I used to cry, but it made my situation worse. I was perceived to be weak, and that made me easy prey. I've kinda grown hardened over the years, and it takes a lot in life to make me cry. I also refuse to let people see me as being weak, so I will not cry in front of anyone. My husband knows...

You don't have to stay, especially since you traveled 1000 miles to get away from that type of relationship. There are plenty of people in the world that will treat you right. I get annoyed with the PTSD excuse for treating people bad. I have PTSD and I don't treat my husband like crap. If I...