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I recently had a bit of a debate with a friend about the nature of healing, and how to heal. I welcome any thoughts/opinions/advice- I'm not asking a specific question but I am looking for feedback. I told my friend that I'd recently come home to find that one of my abusers (we call him Bean)...

Congratulations on all your good self-work... I think that whoever "they" are, pressuring you about your treatment options qualifies as causing you undue stress. I would thank them for their input, but ask that they refrain from making suggestions unless asked at least for the next month or so...

I used to be a workplace drinker... easily consumed 1.5-2.5 bottles of whisky a night. So you can imagine the surprise and confusion of my friends when I say, "no thanks I don't really drink."- I don't consider myself to have been an alcoholic... when I realized that booze had begun to really...

I don't play politics outside of peace talks, but I recently had a chat with a friend who supports Trump. This friend said that with regard to addressing the United States' financial crisis, Trump, a business tycoon, would be well-suited because "a country is essentially a large business"- I...

I'm really sorry that you're dealing with this kind of situation with your wife... I can tell you both really love each other, but your own personal issues and stresses seem to have caused the both of you to act out against one another... of course that's not an effective way to manage those...

I'm so sorry... goodness I really wouldn't know... I think even someone qualified to make such an assessment would have to ask you a battery of questions about your whereabouts and eating/imbibing habits throughout the duration of your illness and recovery. I myself am not in any way "qualified"...

When I use the therm "dissociate" to describe my behavior, I don't mean it within the context of DID... when I say I experienced severe dissociation, I mean that I blacked out, and was allegedly catatonic during this time. Or when I experience pervasive dissociation, it means I lost my ability...

I was once involved with someone who was very helpful to my limited understanding of PTSD. At times, he was great, and as a mental health worker he was able to explain the diagnosis and help me understand that I was having a normal reaction to abnormal events. When I was having episodes...

I can't say I especially agree that a man's belligerent behavior and his penis size are correlated, friends. Though when the correlation is there I certainly admit that I'm always sure to note it as significant when formulating my (normally outrage-fueled and entirely inexpert) explanation for...

when your partner gives you a sticker for not crying in your sleep last night, and you get excited because STICKER. when you do want to talk about it but it's been two hours already and you have said virtually nothing. when you share something difficult that took you hours to get out and they...

I feel like that's an important note to make about catcall culture- it happens when women aren't (or don't appear to be) with a man... no one ever calls out to me when I'm with a guy. They may stare creepily, but they never call out. Honestly the thought of being shouted and honked at is one of...

I'm not saying that his calling from his car was either polite or funny. Rather, the string of words themselves (his little go-to catch phrase thing), out of context, are both funny and polite. I think the context of hollering it to a stranger, though, makes it quite alarming. I had trouble...

Even my best friend calls out to women while he drives. He has a line he always says, and sure, it could classify both as polite and as funny but IT DRIVES ME INSANE. How often do you guys experience catcalling? How does it make you feel? Does the nature of the words communicated make a...

@UniqueSunflower, I honestly think that learning how to recognize red flags is an important first step. When you start spotting the flags and seeing the behavior that they're indicative of materialize in real life (and they always will, as you get closer to a person,) the...

Forgive the anecdote, but I feel ill-qualified to give parental advice. I have experience with a similar situation though, and figured that telling you about it might be insightful to your own. My heart goes out to you. My cousin is 21 and has bullied his mom, to put it lightly. Hushed trauma...

I had a self-defining moment (I'd term it a 'recalling') a bit after my last birthday. I decided to eliminate several factors in my life that contributed to my ill health, including a job where I was routinely re-traumatized. I made healing a top priority and spent my time and efforts on...

Woohoo! I blew off the first phone call where he was present and on speaker, got my msg to his case worker and she called me back this evening. We had a pretty long talk about it and she's going to suggest up to 30 days rehab at his hearing!!! I honestly didn't even know you could force an...

Ahhhhhhh. Okay. I can breathe now. Thank you all so much for your advice. You're all right, of course. I don't even know why I considered helping him get out when he landed himself there... I had him released to me once before when his father (admittedly) set him up by telling the police he...

Also, when I speak to the case worker he's insisted on being there for the conversation. He wants me to follow these instructions: "say he has a support system and get him out." I'm confused as to what would count as betraying him... I betray him if I tell her he has no support, and I betray...

Hi guys. This is more off the topic of PTSD than on it, but I would deeply appreciate any advice from folks with experience being hospitalized for mental health reasons- I've been asked to speak to a case worker to give a statement that would amount to getting someone who doesn't want to be...

I think that grief is what happens when love and attachment are forced to separate.

I'd love to move, but my price range and location requirements (I walk to school) make this the nicest and most private place I could get. Even compromising on privacy, the area apartments are new and more expensive than my town house (there are a few old ones but they're drug hubs). I've been...

I'm freaked out to ask this, ha, go figure. And I apologize if this sounds crass... I respect nurses very much, and all healers. But has anyone else felt traumatized or re-traumatized by their hospitalization or by their own experiences attempting suicide? It was not my first attempt, but it...

I think this is really insightful, especially as it parallels problems with many other modern approaches to (particularly Western) healing. I think that symptom-oriented treatment all but insures ongoing illness.

Thanks everyone. I feel a bit less crazy after reading your posts :) @ladee @Poofycat, no I'm not currently in therapy... nor am I on any pharmaceuticals. I'm calming down a bit more now, taking frequent breaks to dig my toes in the grass or watch funny videos. It's helping, though I fancy...