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I think that, the fact I spent so much time over the past decade and a half being pregnant is probably why I was able to delay for so long having to face this stuff. Being pregnant was always a pleasure for me...I felt relaxed and happy and peacefully anticipatory (the last pregnancy was harder...

I don't think they can empathize with the worse stuff. It's like with miscarriages...I never had any clue how devastating a miscarriage could be, until I had one (and then another). Now my reaction to someone who has experienced a miscarriage is soooo different and more sensitive than before.

Yoga is triggering for me. I don't like seeing most parts of my body, and it's kinda hard to do yoga without seeing parts of it. Plus some poses I just can't do at all because of the triggering. But the overall effect is positive, so I keep at it. However, it's not unusual at all to leave class...

This isn't my total solution, but part of it is that I try to learn from the situation. What is it specifically they're doing that is being so destructive? (This is a big question for me because most of the people around me are fairly subtle and quietly manipulative with they ways they mistreat...

Have you seen the movie Inside Out? Picturing emotions as characters who are legitimate parts of me helps a little, so at least I don't immediately invalidate what I'm feeling. I also try to think of emotions as energies inside of me that have to be metabolized through the act of feeling them...

I haven't been officially dx'd (haven't found a way to get an assessment yet), but I've consistently scored high for HFA on the reputable tests I've taken online over the past year+. I started suspecting HFA in mid-2014 because the PTSD treatments I was trying just weren't working like they...

Yes, mindfulness helps a lot. It seems to help align the different "layers" of myself into one place. But it seems like there's something else, too. It's almost like, turning to face myself...not in the mirror, but on the inside. I don't know...I'm not very good at it yet. It's more of a...

A lot of these sound like good grounding techniques. What about, beyond grounding...how can you feel your own presence within yourself? Not sure this makes any sense at all, but like...I can have a conversation with someone and not really connect with the fact that the person is a real person...

Yes, I think if you've never been taught that pride can have negative connotations, then my post probably sounded a little off. I think, like with shame...there's healthy shame (recognize when we've done something wrong and, in humility, apologize) and there's toxic shame (beat ourselves up...

Hm, that first sentence you seem to be reacting to is what I was taught by a dysfunctional family who spiritually abused me...I didn't say that's what I believe now. But in case you were responding instead to the rest of my post.. ...this is more what I was trying to get at, and apparently I...

I recently came across this article that talks about how to face toxic shame: http://lindagraham-mft.net/resources/published-articles/the-power-of-mindful-empathy-to-heal-toxic-shame/ "The third foundation of mindfulness is noticing and naming thoughts, feelings, and beliefs as thoughts...

Unlike a lot of people from codependent families, I don't have any trouble at all being alone. The hard part is being around other people. But a couple of weeks ago in one of my sessions, I realized that I don't really know how to be "present" with myself, rather than fantasizing about...

Still struggling with all of these: Looking at myself in the mirror Trying on clothes at the store Holding hands with a significant other Watching movies with intimate scenes

I was taught that feeling pride of any kind is a sin, and so I worked hard to eliminate those thoughts from my mind. After reading and learning so much about mindfulness and true self vs ego self and all that, I'm not sure I want to be able to feel pride (although feeling it and truly being rid...

I'm not sure I would ever again be able to let down my guard with my T if he tried to touch me when I'm shut down. He knows this and has never attempted any kind of touch, even a handshake. He shakes hands with my DH, though, and I've been surprised how painful it is to see that natural contact...

For me, the relationship is the main thing. My core problem seems to be an inability to trust, so...having a trustworthy T where I can try to explore what it feels like to trust someone is really the primary reason I'm in therapy. The approaches he uses give insight on how to address those trust...

Different personality types have different "highest values" in life, so I don't think there's ONE right answer: http://personalitygrowth.com/the-biggest-inspiration-for-each-personality-type/ But this came up during my session this past week. Somehow during the conversation, I mentioned that I...

My Ts take pretty much this same stance. They said it's clinically appropriate for me to not be having sex with my DH for now. As much as I've beat myself up for my failure to meet his needs...I see they're right. In truth, I'm honoring my relationship with my husband by ensuring that I move...

Yes, I do this with some family members for the same reasons you listed, even though when I'm conversing verbally with them, it doesn't take as much thinking as with some people because I grew up around my family and I know their patterns of interaction. But they're so easily offended that I...

My DH and I are in therapy together...I'm the one with PTSD, but that doesn't mean he doesn't have issues. Everyone does. So this is a chance for him to engage in his own healing and growth process, which strengthens our marriage and relationship. I've found it's very difficult (i.e...

Yes, I did. Some of my classmates and I were at the library doing research for our term papers. One of the girls passed around a book that listed types of abuse, and everyone was gawking and sharing in their disgust. When the book got to me, I could check off about half of the things on the list...

Writing on the computer is somewhat different. I have time to think and process what I want to say. If I take an hour, or a day, to respond...no one notices the difference. If I spend 30 minutes reading over the same paragraph to get it to say what I want it to...no one knows I did that. So I...

Here's a list of aspie traits for females. I can check off about 85-90% of them. Link Removed And here's an online aspie test that is well-recognized as a good screening tool. I've consistently scored well within the aspie range over the past year+. http://www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php

Do you feel more relaxed with them, like you can just be yourself? Do you say things without thinking about it, and it's okay? Do you feel a sense of comfort from being around them? I'm not sure, exactly, what it is I'm trying to define here. I just know I watch people interacting with each...

Same here, at least, inside my own head. Outwardly, we could subtly insinuate that someone else was to blame, so long as it was someone who couldn't fight back. But even then, somehow it came back on me (I was the oldest, so it was my responsibility to take the heat for anything the others did...