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You know, in some ways I feel a sense of freedom because of all of this. Her comments on that video...it makes the extent of her neuroticism so much more obvious to me now. There's less of a sense of obligation to give her what she wants. It's easier to say "no" when I know that she really...

Yes, I agree. I've seen the damage that can be done when the kids are told too much. My dad tried to get custody of us when I was old enough to tell a judge who I wanted to live with. He tried to convince me that my mom was evil and we should live with him (although he was no better). When Mom...

Earlier this year, I watched a colleague manipulate the heck out of her--it was fascinating. This colleague totally poured on the compliments, and completely neutralized her in the argument as a result. I thought I would get the backlash from it later in private, but this colleague did such a...

I look forward to your feedback. I think I'm still trying to wrap my mind around it all. It's so bizarre. I've gone back a couple of times to watch the video again, and see if I just misunderstood her. But (and my husband agrees) it's pretty clear-cut who she's referring to and what she's...

Good point. I gotta think about that. Honestly, part of me wants to convince them that she's a bad person so they'll want to avoid her, too. But I know that's wrong. So then I have to question what my motivation is at levels that I don't want to see before I make a decision to say anything or...

Okay, I think I see the wisdom of that. "Lying" is harder to define than "talking about me."

So this is an interesting point that my T made, too. He seemed more focused on the fact that she didn't ask me before talking about me. But what really gets me is that she lied about me. Now I get that each person has their own experience of reality, and she sees things differently than I do. I...

I'm scared that in setting and holding my own boundaries, I'll inadvertently overstep someone else's boundaries, especially if I'm trying to "be myself." For the longest time since starting recovery, I thought boundaries were defined by objective standards of "right" and "wrong", and I was...

That's a good way of putting it...letting them have their drama time together. It's astounding the amount of gossip and triangulation that goes on in my family. I'm almost more afraid that this WILL happen than that it won't. My T says that, because of his profession and the types of clients...

I haven't been around in a long while. I was dx'ed with Asperger's early this year, and went through several months of just trying to figure out what it means to have a relationship of any kind with anyone, so I've spent a lot of time alone thinking these things through. Something happened this...

I'm female...married to a man...abused by men when I was a kid...but also emotionally abused by my mom and watched my sisters abused, too. I don't trust women hardly at all, and I see a male T. He helped me open up to the idea of seeing women Ts for specific therapies, like when I saw a woman...

I hope it's okay to ask this question. I know the OP is really struggling, and I don't want to derail the conversation at all. Taking this... ...and then this... What do you do if you have no way of logically supporting the negative belief, but you still can't change it? It doesn't make...

I watched that video a few weeks. Very excellent stuff. Worth the watch.

Once you've resolved a memory, how does it feel different? Does it not intrude into your thoughts anymore? Does it not overwhelm you with the experience of remembering it? Does it not interfere with your ability to do normal things? Haven't quite been able to wrap my mind around what this...

Thanks for all the info. What about using EMDR with people who have autism? I've declined to try EMDR up until recently because I'm not convinced it would work for someone with Asperger's. But now I've decided that I'm at least going to have to give it a try before giving up on it as a...

Oh sorry, I didn't even think about self injury because I've not done much of that at all. Yes, suicidal ideation.

I think I've mostly overcome the SI crap. A week ago, I emailed my T asking about who to talk to for EMDR, but when I saw him today, he didn't give me any information. To be fair, I forgot to ask him, too. But I was wondering if perhaps he decided I wasn't ready yet, since I experienced a brief...

For anxiety/stress/panic, I've heard really good things from multiple sources now about neurofeedback. I talked to someone last week who does neurofeedback, and he had story after story of people who experienced extreme improvement from just a few sessions, even eliminating the need for...

I wish I could find those people. Maybe back on Mars... Seriously, though. I have several people in my life who care about me, who genuinely want me to be real with them (although I'm not so sure they realize what they're in for if I achieve that goal). And I've tried for so many years to...

I've only found one ASD group in my area. I checked it out about a year ago. It's a small group, and most of the people were either pretty low functioning, or were parents of low functioning ASD people. The conversation tended toward the lowest common denominator. I should probably give it...

My understanding is that for people with classic or low functioning autism, there often is not a desire for connection, or not much. But for people with asperger's (I realize that term is retired now, but it's still a useful distinction) or high functioning autism, there usually is a...

I haven't found a way to explain this yet that anyone seems to really get it. But I'll try again here. I do have emotions, deeply so, and a burning desire to connect with people. It just never works. Those emotions inside...it's like they're locked away or something. I can feel them, but I...

About a year and a half ago, I started suspecting I have autism. Spent all these months learning more about it, and finally decided to get a formal assessment. The evaluator said I'm most definitely on the spectrum. My score was very high. I feel relieved to have this question settled, but...

I found it was tough to be the "source" of all the troubles to be addressed in therapy. It worked a lot better if we were "broken together" (that's a great song, btw)...both of us have issues to be addressed, and there are issues in our relationship and in our lives that we can face as a team...

My DH comes with me about once a month. It's a chance for us to talk about difficult things together with my T's support and objective perspective. DH is not in separate therapy, so it's a chance for him to address his own stuff a little, too. This stuff going on with me has been really hard on...