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Yes I do, I am also scared that he will walk away because he doesn't want to hurt me anymore :/ I'm leaving him alone, but he also knows that I love him and I'm supporting him from afar and respecting the space he needs, we have that understanding so he knows I'm not just abandoning him, plus...

I'm not really sure by what he meant, don't try to analyze it, although I'm sure you will. I would stop texting him altogether. And same with me, we broke up for 6 months and I tried dating a few men, he knew about it and eventually said "I don't like to think about you sleeping with other...

We've all pushed hard, it's what any normal girlfriend would do in our situation. Like I said don't beat yourself up about it, you can't change the past. Educate yourself on PTSD so you understand it better and I think that will help tremendously with coping. Every day is different for me even...

It sounds all too familiar. Mine says things like "I love you but I'm not in love with you, you deserve better than me, I can't give you my all right now" the list goes on and on. I would take a look at the stress cup (it's on here or you can just google it) it'll make you understand what he is...

Sounds like my life. My veteran told me the first time we broke up that our relationship was "toxic from the beginning" same exact words. Except I didn't even know why he even felt that way. Therapy will help you feel better, temporarily at least. Good for you for volunteering. Is he in therapy?

Don't beat yourself up, it's not easy at all. Both are at fault- once mine does feel okay to tell me about how therapy is going and have a talk I want to establish boundaries and "time outs" and better communication. We always seem to talk about communication but I think I over-communicate and...

Took my vet a year and two months to say "I love you" I almost broke up with him at one point because I was so confused about it, but he's such a genuine guy and my friend told me he wants to make sure he meant it when he said it, and that's hard to find. His ex cheated on him while he was away...

Also I've been meaning to post this, but go on YouTube and look up Jason Mraz "I won't give up" this is my song to my veteran. Listen to every word, it feels like the song was written for PTSD relationships. Joanna xox

I don't mind, I actually feel a sense of comfort when I see someone posted on this thread, even if it's someone else's story.

I hear you. I signed up back in October last year and my first post was incredibly long and I just deleted it. It's hard to share your story when there is too many details that are important for others to know so that they completely understand the ins and outs. Our stories are all similar but...

I guess it depends on each individual relationship. He has been there for me through dark times and vice versa. I just know right now at this point in time he doesn't have the capacity to deal with anything and I have to be okay with that. If anything, this makes me a stronger person, and I've...

Yes I think you are right. Especially since a huge part of his symptoms come from his fathers death that happened when he came home from the military. I'm sure in his mind, if we went together we would have a talk on the car ride there or back and he's not ready to have that talk with me yet, so...

He said "I'd be more comfortable going alone, but thank you" :/ idk how to feel bc idk his mind set or how he grieves, so I'm trying not to take it personally

Silver, Thanks for the responses I appreciate it. He just responded back to my texts and said sorry for not responding and that he saw my text but didn't want to ruin his good mood so he hasn't been on his phone. He now knows about it and I guess we will figure out the plan for services, I just...

Yes I understand what you mean, I reached out not because I needed an excuse to speak to him, but because it's our close friends mother and it's important. Yes he would have found out through social media or a friend, but also in my mind I'm thinking "great, our friends don't know we haven't...

Endure, He is also friends with my friends mother and knows her very well also. I just wanted to reach out to let him know, and I know the news will be upsetting to him too. I just knew it's not something that's said through text. I just don't know if I should just reach out one more time and...

Also, I may add, my thought process was in a different place. If things were normal and he wasn't isolating I would have just called him myself and he knows if anything important like that happened I wouldn't just text him about it to tell him, I would call. I guess I just didn't think all the...

I doubt permanently but he may have pushed away further, should I just send another text to just tell him about our friends mother?

So should I text him again and just tell him about our friends mother?

I need advice, My close friends Mother passed away from cancer yesterday morning. I want the support from my sufferer but I know now is not a good time for him with the start of therapy and all. I've been giving him space for the last few weeks so we haven't talked at all. I did text the other...

Yes, I have noticed this recently and I'm glad you mentioned this! The day of my veterans breakdown 3 weeks ago, I showed up at his house because we had a wedding. I knew he had been off all week and something was different, I said "Is everything okay? Is there anything that I can do for you?"...

"He'd eat me for breakfast" hahahaha. My veteran has that sigh too but more so him breaking something, then getting frustrated and breaking it more then saying "China shit" under his breathe. haha thanks for the laugh this morning. I miss my veteran, 3 weeks isolation from me :/

I contacted my friends mother recently since going through another period of isolation with my veteran. She has dealt with PTSD with her husband for over a decade and told me it takes a strong person to be in her shoes but it can be done, if you are willing to stick by their side. I asked her...

Keep us posted, we are all here for you.

Char, It's not about you. Just give him space and he will reach out when he's ready. Easier said than done, I try to convince myself every day to just reach out but I don't because I know he won't think of it the same way I do. I don't want to be the reason he's stressing out. When he's ready...