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I have made complaints, this lot has just sworn at me whenever I've asked them to quieten down, My landlord is now singing Do Ri Me loudly in the kitchen and I can't talk to him about how bloody irritating I find him and how it drives me to tears because I just want peace and quiet. But yes, now...

So I'm moving out in a week thank god. But I am still really pissed off this morning because it's 11:45 and there I am relaxing and watching a little t.v. when spanking noises from the room next to mine where my 52 year old landlord is spanking his girlfriend. So, I have to stop enjoying my t.v...

Thanks for your support guys. I told him I'm in the middle of moving but I'd love to have a break for a few hours so now i'm just waiting for him to get back to me. Now i'm just anxiously waiting. Of course the idea that it'll go father than just that and the discussions about boundaries and...

Yeah, so I've got a date. And it's one of those things that just happened. Six months ago I thought I was ready for dating and I joined a website, I went out two times with two boys who were actually perfectly nice and acceptable guys but one told me he didn't feel a spark (I agreed) the other I...

I have had an issue with EMDR when things just stopped working. I talked to my T about it and she changed the speeds and directions of how she moved her fingers. My reaction and the memories that I got with that were do intense that I said 'no' it's too much'. The next week I asked her to try...

I take Valerian tea, I make my own rather than buying the ready made teabags as they're not as strong. It makes me drowsy and the muscle relaxant effects are clear. But I have to point out that it can't be taken with some medications so checking is always good. I also use it in a low dose with...

I take night classes, nothing serious, just writing classes and accounting and basically anything I think I could take an interest in. I think things that are creative can be the best bet. Plus I try out groups on meetup and get to see if I find anything interesting or get along with people.

@Noah, It's that I am not good at putting up or keeping boundaries in the first place. I have thought about adoption many times but obviously it's not easy and it is different here in the U.K. but I know that is always an option. I've actually looked into co-parenting, their are so many gay men...

@Lucycat Yes, his body language and manner of speech is so like my rapist's that it just keeps on triggering flashbacks. The thing is as he is going to be kept in the shop and half the team is going over to work on the boat then to keep me apart from shifts with him would have been very simple...

My advocate is currently asking them to provide a logical reason why in light of my issues they did not decide to just put me on the boat. I have written a formal complaint and when they provide a logical reason I shall be sending them copies from their occupational health therapist which...

@richter scale , I would be able to say that it was discrimination arising from disability. It doesn't matter how long you've worked or been diagnosed to claim that. Through the equality laws I can prove to have a disability because it only has to meet two criteria 1) Does it last more than a...

HI Silas nice to meet you. Odd question but I do like the opportunity to learn from new people, do you accept the pronoun 'Ze' instead of he/she or is there another one you prefer. I think you'll find a lot of support and advice here. I know the I personally like that I can come on here every...

This one is hard to explain but bare with me. I started working at a shop at a ferry port and four months in I started having severe anxiety, unlike most times when I go through a bad patch it wasn't over in a couple of days or week but last several months before I decided I needed to take time...

What I have found with EMDR is that because it brings such a lot up and makes you focus on a lot of things related to your trauma outside of sessions I spend a lot of time inside my head. And it was beginning to get too much for me. Now I make sure that I spend a little time doing things that...

Thanks @richter scale , I'm not sure thats for me though as I get server anxiety the first few weeks in a new joba nd with temping it usually only lasts a few weeks. I need something I can settle down into.

I;m impressed by the amount of respect you have for yourself and your determination to wait for what's right for you even if it means you don't get everything you want.

I don't want exposure therapy, and It's not like I havn't had some exposure, I worked in a HIV clinic, I heard about sex and rape and all sorts everyday. I saw and handled the fallout everyday and for some reason it was the most confident and happy i've ever been in a job. Except that occasional...

Its okay Springer80, I know. I do want the intimate relationship, and I do have intimate relationships, people that I tell things to and share things with, even at one point a very rewarding platonic partnership. But I'm so shy around men lately, I let the friendships grow slowly but if there...

I had my first breakdown at fourteen, I don't even like to remember how hard it was to try and reach out and to not get any help because yes, people thought I was attention seeking. It's taken me years to become comfortable with asking for help again. Don't be sorry, people may not understand...

If you don't want hope, advice, people wiling to listen and wanting to help, people who have been through hell who want to offer their experiences at how to survive, then what do you want from posting here? I'm not being critical. You are in a bad place. I just want to know what you think will...

So, I'm having EMDR at the moment. I have a few weeks of the therapy left but I've been thinking that maybe afterwards I want to have sex therapy. I've been afraid of dating or even letting any man close to me, even as a friend for the last four years and I think it's because I have always had...

I'm going to my 13th EMDR session tomorrow. For the first few weeks you should do coping strategies. Then the actual EMDR. It's weird, but in my case it has worked. I hadn't allowed anybody to touch me in four years yet last week I went for a massage. During the actual sessions it's different...

Go on your computer. Look up the emergency mental health team in your area. Get their number. Phone them and read allowed what you have just written here (that way you won't have to think about it) give them your address. You can only get better if you are alive. It's terrifying, I know. But...

Thanks :-) Now on to finding a new new job. No rest for the emotionally taxed!

So I've been having problems with work. And I've just been signed off with my PTSD and general stress. I feel like I'm doing well now, I'm in the therapy and I've just found a new better place to live and i've realized I have to find a new job, that this was a fight I should have let go of a...