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@angrypanda, I feel your pain all he way to my house. I haven't hit the point where I feel burnout yet. I go to therapy myself so I can get help processing all that my wife goes through. I know that I she doesn't tell me the details, and I don't feel I need to know. I do my best to be there...

Fadeaway, sometime I fee like I live in an isolation chamber. By nature I am an extreme introvert, (other than here). This is the first place I have found where I can open up and let people in. It is a major point of contention between my wife, a natural extrovert, and I. We gave up fighting...

Mytime, sometimes being a supporter is the hardest job there is. You never know if the way they're acting, talking , feeling, is directed at you or their abusers. I sure hope things improve for you. no one deservers to be treated badly.

Welcome to the forum Soo. I think you will find there are a good number of people here that can relate to your position.

I couldn't agree with you more. Abusers can only do more harm, if given the chance. My mother-in-law is a perfect example. Long before my wife's suppressed memories resurfaced my wife remembered how her mother used to treat her. After our son was born my wife let her guilt gland get to her and...

I would say it's time to find a new T. She's putting him in a very unhealthy position telling him that therapy is pointless if he can't forgive his abusers.

Hey katz, I'll stand by you and be there for you. I know it's not the same as having someone physically there, but it's the best I can offer. I know how hard it was for my wife when her friends started going away. She has managed to build a new network of friends that are very supportive. It was...

Digz, I've seen how hard it hard it has been on my wife's friendships. Some people have told her flat out they can't handle it, and Poof, just like that they were gone. It's really heartbreaking for her, (and me) to have people she has been friends with for years just go away. This isn't her...

I glad I didn't trigger you, i hope I didn't trigger anyone else. I understand things can be read/mean different thngs to different people.That's one of the hardest thiings about communication. All you can do is explain he way you meant it to coome out.

@BlueOrange , I'm sorry if I triggered you or anyone else. That would never be my intention. For me, as a supporter, there have been few times that I have seen the woman I married, but not often. It gets lonely having her Physically with me, but knowing her PTSD has her someplace else, and I...

Riot, coming from a male supporter who is deeply, madly, and passionately in love with his sufferer it doesn't sound to me as though he doesn't see the beauty in you. It sounds like he misses you, and is anxious to have you back. Sometimes, as human beings we read more into things than there...

I wish the two of you all the happiness newlyweds deserve. even as hard as it is right now.

Hello Ihurther, welcome to this forum. If I tried to count the number of times I accidently triggered my wife I couldn't. She has soooo many triggers, ( my wife says it best, "triggers, triggers everywhere). They range from exaggerated startle response, to the way the wind blows, or the moon...

Allison_ptsd spouce, My wife once asked her trauma therapist if she had to forgive her abusers. His answer was a resounding "hell no". I agree with that sentiment completely. I know that I will never forgive the people that did this to my wife either. Forgiving them only allows the to have power...

Happy birthday. Don't get too drunk, (LOL) celebrate all the good in life. It sounds to me like it's already working, he's reaching out to you now. I suggest you just let him do the work and see where it goes..

Thank you Salad.

DaisySH, it breaks my heart to have to say this but maybe you two need to separate for awhile. He seems to be saying that, at least for now, he just can't handle being in a relationship. PTSD has that effect on a lot of people, survivors as well as supporters. Just remember that old adage...

Sgt Taco, First I want to reassure you that what you're feeling is a completely normal human instinct. you have every right to be angry with your lady's abuser, (as long as it's not coming out sideways at her). I know that I am still very angry with my wife's abusers. I understand why you don't...

DiasySH, you said "he is no longer in love with you, but still loves you", try getting him to explain when and why this happened. If he truly is no longer in love with you, something had to have changed. Find out what that is and then you two can work on that together, in therapy. I think that...

ptsdednos, you may be a loner, but you're never alone here. There is always some who cares, someone will hear you. You are never forgotten.

G86, I'm going to hazard a guess that your husband is a combat Vet. You really need to be careful with night terrors. When I was younger I spent the night with some relatives and was bunked down in my uncles room. I woke up in the middle of the night to him pointing his M1 military rifle with...

Nicolette, after 8 years of this nightmare world we live in you'd think I'd have some answers to. I don't. you're right, some days you get up in the morning and you're already in deep sh**. That's why "the NEW NORMAL" has become to mean so much to me and my family. No one ever knows who they're...

Hi DaisySH,. First I want to welcome you to this forum. I'm sure you will find some hope in what you read here. Over the past 8 years as my wife has battled with her CPTSD I have heard this comment all too often. When we have the chance to really dig into the reason behind it, it's usually her...

That makes 5 of us, (my family and you).

Brookoffee, disregard my previous post. I didn't have time to read through all the other posts and responses.