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Nicolette, I want to thank you for this post. After eight long and grueling years of supporting my wife as she comes to grips with the horrors of her first 22 years of this life, I often wonder if it will ever get any easier. The lows are still just a low, and the anger is just as fierce, but my...

Your welcome Junebug.

shimmerz, from a supporter's point of view, I really do want honesty from my wife. If she has had a particularly bad day, (which she does almost every day) I NEED to know these things. I can't support her if I don't know what she's going through. It isn't good when she hides these things from...

Cj77, I already get the feeling that you, like me, were born onto a family without love. I'm sorry for that.

Katiee, I can imagine why you would feel the way you do. My wife was raped so many times during the long period ofabuse that she endured. She developed DID as a result of that and her many other traumas and totally put it all behind a solid glass wall in her mind. When we married over 30 years...

Stickler, I know the pain of hating yourself all too well. It can take you to places even the Sun can't penetrate. I also know that, if you give life a chance, it will pull you back from that abyss and show you that the Sun does indeed still shine and there are people who care and love you. Try...

Well put Ravengirl, I agree that it really is just in appperance only.

First off, I want to say this is one of the best threads I have seen on this site yet. I don't have PSTD, but I do have a "mental ilness", I was diagnosed as Bipolar with anti-social traits at the age of 11. Combine that with a severe neurolgical disorder that serverely affects my ability to...

Aeroarr, I was just wondering how things went with your visit. I hope things didn't change for the worse. I know how hard it is to expose yourself to anyone, much less someone you are just starting a relationship with. I would really like to hear how things went and how they stand at this point...

TimidZiggy, I think it's wonderful that you have your service dog. About 2 years ago we got a new dog after putting my old one down. The new one was a stray that was rescued and has become somewhat a service dog for my wife. The only problem the dog has is that she a bit of a coward, and totally...

Aerostarr, To start this reply, I want to tell you that I have been married for 33 years. My wife was diagnosed with CPTSD 7 years ago, all stemming from abuse that she had to endure as a child into her early 20's, (ending just before I met her). All of this was buried deep in the back of her...

Anarchy, to start I want to say thank you for believing this can actually happen. My wife has been on a "puppy and kittens" rule for the past 7 years. We were not allowed to do any type of verification of her memories. However, her best friend and her trauma therapist did all types of research...

As some of you know my wife's PTSD was caused by a combination of childhood trauma and Government Programing. Even though she has worked through the memories of the Programing trauma she still had her doubts that what she was remembering was real. That this type of thing just doesn't/didn't go...

Hey man, I'm coming at this from the other side. When my wife first broke, (that's what we call her C-PTSD) there was no way I could convince her that I still loved her as much as before. She could not/would not except that anyone could love someone as damaged as her. She never knew love growing...

Mtmockler, I'm sorry you're this predicament. my heart goes out to you. The first question that I have is were did his PTSD come from? I didn't see anything in you post to indicate what gave him PTSD. As far as his Bipolar Disorder (?), has he been diagnosed with it? There are a lot of meds that...

spmitchell3, first off I want to confess I am not a sufferer. As a primary caregiver and supporter I believe you would find that this is not all to uncommon. That being said, during the first few years of my wife's therapy I couldn't tell you the number of times that my wife has said she...

My wife has received some amazing news these past 2 weeks. First she was invited to present her book at this really big conference this Oct., then they asked her to please be a speaker. They think that with everything she has gone through, and the progress she has made in the past 7 years, she...

scout86, your points are all valid and give me lots to think about. One of the biggest problems that we face is that we know some of her abusers are still alive, and they are very powerful people. Her abusers weren't just your average Joe, they were Governments and well known and extremely...

Glang1979, Welcome to the forum. I am so sorry to hear about what happened to your husband, I was robbed at gun point in a parking garage in the early 1990's and to this day I can't go into one. Panic attacks, hyperventilating, dizziness to the point of near unconsciousness. I don't know what...

Junebug, great tune. Real power behind those words.

scout86, most of what you say makes sense and rings true, she is open about almost everything else in our lives. I know that she was afraid and trying to protect me/us, she still has that fear, (only worse now that the book is published). She fears that I will leave her, that she was/is a bad...

scout86, you give me lots to think about. The hardest thing for me to wrap my head around is why she felt she had to hide the fact that her abusers were still watching/keeping track of her. They would call on the phone and just say things like "we always know where to find you" or " remember...

s BlueJupiter, I agree with you totally, While my spouse has been through traumas that make my hair stand on edge, she is learning to use that to grow into a much better person. I would almost expect her to be one of the angriest people alive, and if it were me, I probable would be. But...

Junebug, the opening line in the song says it all so well "The road is long With many a winding turns That lead us to who knows where Who knows where"

Wastinglight, my song is "He ain't heavy, he's my brother" by the Hollies. It has become my mantra over these many years and I'm sure it will be for a long time to come.