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My boundaries with him were made of straw the first year or so. I was so afraid he would run away for good if I stuck with my most important boundary; no intimacy-no sex. The better I got at holding on to my boundaries, the more he isolated from me. Maybe he really did try to work on his...

Here is the thing...if they didn’t have PTSD, if they were simply jerks, who treated us badly, we would have walked away a long time ago. But we use PTSD as an excuse for them....he didn’t mean to hurt me with that remark....he wants intimacy, but he just can’t....he wants to spend more time...

So many unanswered questions....always questions...I hated that. I guess for many supporters after some time, may it be one year, two or three, their actions, the pulling away...it becomes less hurtful...it becomes a habit, which isn’t necessarily good! Of course you miss you! We change....we...

When we were together. I am still on this Forum because it helps me to move on. It reminds me that if I go back to him, he will still avoid intimacy....he will be torn between wanting it to work out and running away.

It used to tear me apart, when my ex never texted me that he missed me. If I asked him, he would say that he had missed me, but I had to ask him. Over a period of 2,4 years he only mentioned it twice on his own. I guess it was his way of keeping a distance. Telling me that he missed me, would...

I am confused? Not everybody who what? Remains single?? Because that is not what either @candor or I say/claim. However it is a fact that more and more people remain single for different reasons, be it PTSD, having been hurt before or simply because online dating has made it so much easier to...

Same country here ? and I agree. Single is the new normal....maybe because a lot of people have been hurt in a relationship so they don’t have the energy to try again. Friends with benefits is very popular I think and as I could never ever do that, it is very frustrating that this is what a lot...

Thank you?

It most definitely is not about us. Still it is extremely hard to let go of a dream, when all the mutual feelings are there. I have a Tinder date tomorrow ? Part of me wants to run away screaming....I am not ready for this? The other part wants to meet this guy. Just from texting, he seems...

Amen to that! I have had an idea, that because he knows so much about therapy, depression and so forth, he believes he doesn’t need therapy. He has said a couple of times that he is working on himself. I asked what that means...that he tries to eat healthy, see friends and family so he doesn’t...

Finding this Forum after I decided to walk away and take my life back, has helped sooooo much. There are so many stories here VERY similar to mine.

Thanks ? For some strange reason, de doesn’t believe he needs to go to therapy. Some days he agrees it would be best for him...some days he is completely closed off to the idea. He used to work in family therapy and I have to admit, I am puzzled as to why he keeps avoiding therapy. I am keeping...

It feels like a game! An immature game for teenagers and not grown ups! But it isn’t a game...it is PTSD at its most charming ?

I will keep my fingers crossed for you ?

Short message exchange ohhhh yes....been there done that. He would text me and I would answer and then silence....say what? The worst part of them disappearing for a while is that each time it feels that it is over. I would check my phone constantly. At a point I got a little more use to it. I...

That is a tough one...depends on your sufferer. My ex would send mixed signals...I want a relationship...I don’t want a relationship. I love you...I feel numb and I don’t know if I love you. My ex also only communicated when it suited him...or rather, when he wasn’t symptomatic. Even then I...

That is a long time. My ex would text me if he didn’t hear from me for maybe 3-7 days. Texts like; how was your day. How long have you guys been together?

Welcome ? Ex supporter here. Bloody hard indeed! I gave up on my bloke in May after two years and have unfortunately slipped up a few times and fell right back into the push-pull trap. So it is no easy to walk away, but over time it can be done. Wrapping your head around what happened is the...

I agree...it takes a lot of commitment and he does not have the mental or physical energy for that. I have to keep my distance. We both need a long break from each other.

I agree with you completely. And yes intimacy is so much more than just sex. When we were just friends he would tell me things he wouldn’t tell most people and after I told him I was educating myself on PTSD he has actually opened up and told me things he hasn’t done before...given me an insight...

Thank you so much ❤️ Intimacy has been a part of his life and he loves it. That is why he wants to be able to overcome the fear of intimacy...the real fear lies not in intimacy itself...it lies in intimacy leading to relationship and expectations. He has tried to do intimacy...when watching a...

I don’t know when I will be ready to let go completely. We agreed on Monday that we won’t see each other for a while...three months or so and then he hopes we can be just friends, which is completely unrealistic, because the attraction won’t be gone by then....which I told him. Besides, I am...

Thank you for sharing! My heart goes out to you. It is difficult to be a supporter to someone with PTSD but definitely possible with open communication....which I have learned is difficult for many with PTSD. I hope that some day soon, you realize that you deserve that somebody special and that...

Thank you for sharing ❤️? I can’t imagine what it must be like to go through that.

Thank you for the input ? Over the past two years he sometimes wanted a relationship like I do with intimacy and so forth. I definitely do not want him to commit to a relationship he is not ready for and he would never ever do that. He is torn between running away and being in a relationship...