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I'd search hard for a residential trauma unit. There are a several Colin Ross associated trauma facilities in the US. Highly recommended. He careful. A general psych unit is usually not much more than a place to warehouse patients until stable enough to be safely released. The Colin A. Ross...

No, I am not describing situational depression. Yes, I truly am c!aiming there is a way out of biological depression that does not include drugs and psychiatrists. Been there, done that, more times than I can count.

Would he enter a facility that specializes in PTSD? If yes, that experience could be quite helpful.

PTSD fears, etc., are a form of rumination about what 'might happen'. Now, when something really happens to someone else (like the seizure incident you mentioned), the survivor stops ruminating, comes out of herself, thereby losing the fear and acting appropriately. It's sort of like when, say...

I wouldn't worry about what they might think. There was a point when I sometimes ran into people who knew me - people I'd swear I never met. I just faked it. Not to worry. Now, if you suspect you 'forgot' them due to truama, because they abused you, now that's different. I'd stay away from them.

The rubber band snapping is not meant to be painful. It isn't meant as a punishment but rather as a sort of wake-up call. Some people, instead of snapping a band, yell out "stop!" as they smack a wall or table with their hand. I find the band much quieter and less obtrusive. :) Living in the...

Staying in bed leads to isolation, and isolation leads to deepening depression, suicidal ideation, and hospitalization. Better to get up and out!

But you DO have control over your own life! The other bit, about not having control, is merely the depression talking. Some ideas: 1. Don't worry about the future, rather live in the moment.Whenever you feel anxious or whatever, stop, and look around you for danger. Do you see anything...

A dear online friend suggested I use a pair of 'scissors' to cut my emotional ties with her. I'm going to do it!

Thank you all for your input. I'm doing better. I've decided I need to put even more emotional distance between my mother and myself. I think I will send her a modest Christmas present, but I'm not going to invest myse!f in the process.

I worked hard for several years with a highly qualified therapist who had successfully worked with other people in my situation. He knew what to do. We did great work together. I was also highly proactive regarding my treatment. I read all the professional literature I could get my hands on. I...

You're talking about an external locus of control, meaning you are feeling, right now, like you have no control over your life, that events/others/karma/whatever are controlling your life rather than you. This is not true! What you do and say, even at this painful point, makes a huge difference...

It's not for nothing. Even if you end up in a different vocation, what you've learned will serve you well. Many (most?) adults study for one field but end up in another. I studied psychology formally, as both an undergraduate and a graduate student, for SIX YEARS but then walked away from the...

Sounds good!!!

Jeffrey, There's some benefit to having suffered many depressions. Now, when depression strikes, even though I still feel like the pain will never go away, I know that's not true. I have pulled out of serious depressions so many times that I know things will get better. So, don't give up or...

@Zoogal Thanks for the link!!

I'm trying to find the middle ground. Yelling at her seems wrong (after all, it seems she doesn't know any better) and won't help any how. But, by sucking it up, I feel depressed. There's no place for the feelings to go. Yes, I was like that, too. Not any more, but it still hurts. :) It's...

I have suffered from serious, recurrent Major Depression my entire adult life. I have finally figured out that drugs, doctors, hospitals don't do the trick. What I do when depression starts: 1. Listen deep inside and figure out exactly what the depression is truly all about. 2. Make a plan...

Kudos for choosing surfing! It DOES get better, believe me. These feelings do NOT last forever. I've been through many horrible depressions and yet (eventually) come out of each one. Every single damn time I'm sure I won't make it - sure that the pain will never end - but each time I've been...

Well, things are getting uncomfortable again. My mother has moved in with my brother. Last time she did that, he forbid me to call her on his home phone and so I had no way to talk to her. It was ugly. This time, she's trying to pretend she has just moved into a different place, that she...

I suspect your therapist did you a favor. What she did, in effect, was tell you you'd crossed a line, and that when people in her life cross that line, she cuts them loose. This was important feedback for you; I suspect it was meant to imply that "you should know, most people won't stand for...

No, it's really neither sad nor strange. When I finally integrated all of my alters, there were some I dearly missed. True, they all became more 'me', so I technically didn't lose them, but it sure felt like I did. For instance, I had a little puppy alter. I sure loved having him around. After...

Healthy coping skills are always the first order of business. A therapist should neither help nor encourage you to integrate a part until you are very stable, have strong coping skills, and are rather advanced in the healing process. Integration is a slow, gradual process. It's best initiated...

I agree!

Isn't that the truth!