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Absolutely have found answers and support here. At this point I have been treating him with empathy and compassion. The anger was years ago. I understand alot more about his PTSD and how it differs from my own. Also approaching with empathy and compassion and patience. Those are much more...

In my case the first time a few weeks and he replied angrily to my email. Note to self, combat vet J thrives on anger, don't poke the bear. Few months later home on break everything was great. Repeat cycle. Finally I said I know my self worth and this isn't working for me. Fast forward almost 2...

Same situation here. Only mine is a repeat ghost. As soon as he gets close emotionally he starts to pull back. Then poof he's cut me off and he's gone. I feel your pain.

Nothing will ever change until he decides to embark on healing and get help.

@Freida So today I emailed him and nicely explained how his disappearing and cutting me off completely affected me. How the fact that he will not even send a short email to say he's ok is painful. Look I know PTSD is the issue yet my side deserves to be acknowledged. Because eventually he will...

Thank you for this insight. So much of the time I blame myself. Today has been a really hard day. This just popped up on my phone. I've been beating myself up and now this. Coincidence? I think not. Prayers going up and thanking my guardian angels for this. And lost? You helped me so much. So...

@GatorsFan12 I understand that. He keeps coming back to me and being very persistent. This last time he was very loving and caring. A side I have never seen. Deep feelings were shown. When I mentioned plans way down the road in 5 years he was triggered. Then the slow pull back. The " you deserve...

I get that completely. Depends on the space you are in. What moment and how much you can take. My thought was that he just sent me to Spam and deletes without reading. However the the non anxiety me of the present moment says no. Human curiosity and not wanting to let go of me. I do believe he...

@Freida thank you so much for your honest answer! My intuition then is spot on. Also having PTSD from my childhood I @Freida I am very grateful for your honest answer. It proves my intuition was spot on. I had to reach back to the earlier years when my PTSD from childhood was raging in me...

I too have a general question. When isolating and you receive an email, do you read them? Do you block them? Do you save them unopened until later?

I too think about how mine views PTSD. He acknowledged it and told me he was looking into an online test for it. We spoke about his plans for group therapy but he still isn't willing to give up the gov contractor job that's causing the trauma. So I'm confused. My thought is he's not willing to...

Don't forget yourself. You are most important. It is so easy to get caught up in the negative tape we play in our heads for ourselves. I find distracting myself from my negative thoughts with feel good positive habits helps me from heading down the well of despair.

It's been since June that he ghosted me. He's known me since 2007. Last encounter of intimacy was very intense with a complete different side of him. Very loving and caring and trying hard it seemed to make up for and get across his feelings. Then back overseas and emails were great. Suddenly he...

I'm so sad. And yes I am so glad I was lead here. Just knowing I'm not alone is helping me. I'm so new to this site I can't figure out how to post. I see I can receive messages but unsure how to work that. It might be because I'm using this from my phone. Wish I could connect with you through...

I'm also going through the same thing. Mine has shut me out since June. I'm so sad. I've been through this before but this time it's worse. He's a government contractor and won't get help because he'll lose his clearance and guns and job.