How to approach a combat PTSD sufferer who has isolated?

[HopefulD]

It's been since June that he ghosted me. He's known me since 2007. Last encounter of intimacy was very intense with a complete different side of him. Very loving and caring and trying hard it seemed to make up for and get across his feelings. Then back overseas and emails were great. Suddenly he not picked saying I can't give you what you want or need. I don't harbor ill will or hate I'm just disappointed and sad I can't give that to you.
An email after that was that he was online taking a baseline test for PTSD but none of them would allow him to remain anonymous. All wanted an email address. Then total silence. Nothing. He has blocked my cell number and texts and won't respond to my emails. I'm approaching this with total empathy and compassion and no finger pointing or shaming nor anger. Yet he's gone off the radar. He supposed to go back over to Afghanistan Oct 23rd.
Anyone who has advice on how to get through to him? What can I do to help him?
Thanks.

 

[LuckiLee]

Oh boy he has a lot on his plate. I would text /email ONE time saying you're there if and when he ever needs to talk. Praying for your soldier!! Keep reading around the forums. Glad you found us! XO

 

[Sweetpea76]

Yeah... unfortunately there's not much you can do if he's shut down and you're blocked. I'd agree with @LuckiLee's one last email suggestion, and then just give him space.

 

[Ronin]

The way I am reading it, he is not isolating.

He is busy preparing for work.
I would leave it be, as the last thing he needs is relationship distractions, especially because what you had was intense. He -needs- that coldness, now. It is not about you. The most you can give him, is respect that, the needs, and the time.

 

[EveHarrington]

I don't think he's isolating, either.

I think he's been clear about what he wants and I think at 3 months, it would be best to let go.

I think a lot of supporters want it to be isolation when it was really the end of a relationship.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Here's the rub as a supporter...

Anyone who has advice on how to get through to him? What can I do to help him?

Even if he was communicating with you daily, you wouldn't be able to help him. We can't help, we can't fix, we can't make anything better. You're never going to be able to do or say the right thing to fix any of his PTSD symptoms.

 

[Friday]

Agree very much with Ronin... he’s going back into combat in less than a month. In an ideal situation you use almost exactly that amount of time, 4-6 weeks, to get your head in the game. Not to be eyeballs deep in relationship drama, 1st world nonsense, and the rest of it.

Ideal, because you don’t always have a month to ramp up, or a month to shake it out before returning to the normal world. You’re just wham, bam, thrown from one world into the other. That kind of thing? Causes breakdowns and major f*ckups, and is best avoided. It can’t always be, but when you’ve got the transition time? You use it. If you’re smart.

Suddenly he not picked saying I can't give you what you want or need. I don't harbor ill will or hate I'm just disappointed and sad I can't give that to you.

Sounds like he got this right... since you want more from him than he’s able or willing to give.