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I agree with joelittle. Closure? That is a dangerous word. I would most likely disagree with such assesment too. Being stalked and carrying physical pain right now from attempts to get away from my my tormentors leads me to understand yor situation. Because at times the pain from assaults...

Welcome to our group, Iam 7 years now with PTSD, wow. PTST is always there, and sometimes we feel better, sometimes worse. Iam sorry for your pain, but I think the more you hang around in our forum the more you will learn and you will feel so much better that there are people that understand...

That is a tough one for sure. Found out such things in a past marriage when it was already way too late. Have also witnessed other people who strayed when their significant others were away. It is such an ugly thing to witness that it really does shake you to your core. I have tremendous empathy...

Do you have periods within your therapy program where you are just allowed to think things over and determine what happened in your life, how things are progressing? Because I think that you may just be overwhelmed by too much. Might sound odd, but everyone needs that time to think about factors...

Very tough when family problems intervene. My first T made me cry, must not have been the right therapy because now I am so much stronger, so much wiser, more experienced without having to actually physically go through trauma. Sometimes I can just bow my head in awe.

I have always wondered if it is smart to have one counselor as a marriage therapist, because inadvertently someone might take the side of the husband or wife. I think it may be smart to experiment with that sort of thing, because if the couple sees the same therapist the issues that are being...

This is very tough for the patient. I used to go to a female therapist too and there were many things lacking. But it was the only thing I knew how to do since I was so sick I had not realized some very important things, sure glad I know now. However if I place myself in the shoes of a T I...

I think you should first have a very candid discussion with the therapist about that issue. You may be surprised that therapist might have personal problems too and she needs extra time. We have to see therapists as people with feelings, not just as people that appear whenever the magic lamp is...

I am wondering about such things too, I too trusted anyone before I became a stalking victim. I loved people and simply trusted them to always do the right thing because I myself would do the right thing. But that changes instantly when you are violated. I see a lot of people who pretend they...

Don't blame yourself for that because that is not under your control. I am now much better with that, but when I first got PTSD after being stalked, I had those thoughts about the predator 24/7 for a very long time. Unreal, but not your fault, as you progress through your journey they should lessen.

I am not going to say how old I am but I have my teddy bear, hihihihihhahahahahaha

Weird, I was going to ask you all how to calm down after a nightmare. My nightmares all involve my abusive ex, every single one of them. Very strange nightmares and many times I know that I was dreaming that, but can not recall specifics. Wish those types of nightmares would stop, but it is...

I don't play football, so no.... hihi. But I do know that life has changed on this planet. People have changed on this planet. What used to be a civil world simply is no more. The daily struggle is a sure sign of evolution.... not a good evolution. I have learned to be flexible, even though...

When you say you got to celebrate with your partner do you mean within a personal relationship? Are you in a relationship in which real partnership does not exist, or is the past trauma making you confused and it is tough to interact with your partner? Just trying to gauge your stress, because...

I have always tried to figure out why a victim has so much understanding for someone that hurts others. But I sure have changed in that regard. I do not have empathy for such people anymore, including family members that did the wrong thing. Once you are being shown what real caring, real help...

Your T most likely wants to use the method that is more helpful to you. Many people are comfortable talking about their stressors and they give the T a pretty good idea what goes on in their lives. However there are other types of patients with additional factors that would not allow such an...

What can help is to write the new memory down and compare it with the old memory. I know that has happened to me so many times: where I thought that a new trauma is not related to anything in my past but when I compare then I see old and new predators doing the exact same thing, I hear the same...

I used to be in situations with predators that did that, just stare me down, stare right at me, while trying to figure out what goes on in my mind. To me that is the predator stare. However it can also be confused because when I first got PTSD I falsely assumed that real help was predation. Of...

Happiness is connected to physical wellness and of course when going through triggers we want to be desperately happy, don't want to be bothered by PTSD. I am in major triggers and a recent PTSD setback has gotten me very ill again. I can not pretend that makes me happy, there is this happy...

It sounds like you are scared of getting more meds and that is certainly understandable. Just like you mentioned, the symptoms are still there but we react slower when we are drugged up. I am a stalking victim and can not afford to be drugged up, because I have to be alert for those suckers who...

Nope, not isolated. The people I work with know my condition and trigger me on purpose all the time. They are complete strangers that harass, lie, and make fun of me. If I dare to ignore them they threaten to tell my boss. I learned today how the mind of the predator works that gave me PTSD...

Yeah, thanks a lot. That is exactly what I meant, because I know what I need in certain situations but want to be able to help other people with this condition, to just be able to be in tune with that person when that person is in pain. And then I would want to help that person without stressing...

I would agree that it is an injury. After all before the patient has the injury and the resulting PTSD the brain is o.k. The injury causes the health condition. A mental illness the patient is born with.

Hmm, I have noticed that too, the anxiety is absolutely horrific, but it also feels like my brain is actually able to process it. But yes the anxiety that goes along with it is sooo tough.

Okay, I thought it would be cool to really talk about what people with PTSD need because many of us have needs that are not recognized openly. If a friend visits you, if someone would like to get to know you better, or if a family member really wanted to help you, or if someone wanted to be a...