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Wow, didn't know you were meeting your birth mother! I think that could certainly be a candidate for unknown anxiety and/or puking episodes. Glad to see you back. :D

It's important not to turn an offender into a victim, because this simply perpetuates a behavioral Ponzi Scheme where those at the "top" are both safe from abuse and free from accountability. It also perpetuates the cycle of offense into the future. The only way to deal with this issue is with...

"Sex offender", in a legal context, usually covers a lot of ground, depending upon the jurisdiction. I can include everything from rapists to a guy who flashes himself at little old ladies. It also often includes "statutory rape", which, in some jurisdictions, is very messed-up in how it's...

In western-based cultures, this is why justice is handled by detached third-parties. It discourages acts of revenge and vigilantism, which can perpetuate a long and bloody cycle of violence -- not very civil or Christian, nor does it promote security of the general public. :meh:

Seconded. :) This has been a question of mine for a long time. :meh: I would like a word with the engineering department. It was actually quite timely for me to read this, now, after a post I just added to my diary where I complain about some of these very things. This is going to take...

I think that's an enormous part of the overall problem. It helps to breed sex offenders and interferes with both pragmatic and humane ways of dealing with them. It also interferes with proper care and justice being provided to victims. Our collective societal maturity needs to improve before a...

This is the most difficult part -- figuring-out how to deal with sex offenders after prison release. Especially regarding repeat offenders, more needs to be done to prevent further offenses. A strong external monitoring and management program would be the most humane, but will likely be...

No, that's not really why they do it. Far more complex than that, often deeply rooted in compulsions caused through abuse they've suffered. So, why don't they throw themselves off of a bridge if they know they're going to offend? There are probably many reasons, beyond the simple desire for...

All true. At least in the US, the penal system is grossly outdated in most areas, often having changed little in over 100 years. Rehabilitation is rarely a goal; instead, it's punishment, revenge, containment, etc. -- everything but trying to prepare these people for their eventual release...

@Sex Offender: I give you credit for having the courage to create your above post. Very enlightening, and a difficult, but important, perspective to know. I have one issue with what you wrote, under your "THIRD" point, regarding self-disciplining. I understand that this is possible, but, at...

I'm VERY sure it doesn't. Most of my processing, now, is through dreams and the "hangover" that comes afterwards. How does one control their dreams?! Or even waking flashbacks, for that matter? How do you tell your parts that they shouldn't be expressing themselves when they know you're in a...

Love this whole post! :)

Not bizarre at all. She is an extreme narcissist, and, if she's now dealing with onset dementia, this will only get worse -- much worse. A phone call like the one you got, today, is a pretty good indication of that. If she had any self-control over her obsession with control before, it seems...

I feel the hurt in these words. But I also sense the rebellion. Your identity is your own, especially at our age. ;)

Are your dreams allegorical, historical, or a combination of both? If both, are they separately allegorical or historical, or do both these aspects get mixed together? I seem to have the latter, mostly. Repetitiveness is also something very common with my dreams. This has been going-on for...

I LOVE rocking chairs; I can sit rocking in them for hours. I've always loved this, since childhood. It's soothing, and, interestingly, makes my thinking more clear. For me could be an ADHD thing, but, as you point-out, maybe it's also a self-nurturing thing. I can truly imaging your "shaky...

The puppets idea is actually quite brilliant. You may end-up developing a new methodology of therapy -- seriously.

Just a note about Facebook picking-up on your purchases that might help alleviate some of the paranoia. :) When you make a purchase through a large online website, they leave information in special browser "cookies", which are little storage units browsers place into your computer's storage...

Yup, you are 100% absolutely wrong about people not caring. :D How do I know? I have the exact same experiences. I continually feel as if no one would skip a beat if I disappeared, and I have been proven wrong every single time. But internalizing this has been an enormous challenge. No...

Vitamin D is enormously important to a lot of different processes in your body. Regardless of whether it directly affects mood or not, deficiency is always bad and can certainly affect other things that affect mood. As @itsKismet said, I wouldn't get my hopes too high about solving your mood...

Bravo! I completely agree with you. I can't deal with multiple people vying for my attention at the same time; never really have been able to handle this. My kids love to do this, because they have a tendency to just start speaking without regard for what I or others are doing, including...

Yeah!!!!!!!! :laugh: Epoxy is stronger. Wow, need to try this myself! Which is a normal emotional response. One which, given our upbringing, takes enormous courage to allow. Which likely indicates some real progress! This is controversial. Many believe that the human mind is not capable...

You can actually hear your parts tallking to / arguing with each other?! Wow. I've never had that experience. I don't think -- maybe I just wasn't paying attention? I have definitely been "of two minds" (and sometimes more). For example, when getting out of bed in the morning, I'll feeling...

The fact that you can now refer to your mother this way is extremely HUGE. It demonstrates that you've already begun the process of separation, and of standing-up for yourself as an individual. I agree, there's much different. Out of the fire and chaos comes the rebirth. Amazing to witness...

Ditto. :) For me, that would be one set of friends too much for a given day. Don't think I could do that, at this point. I went to a family wedding, over the weekend, and that nearly pushed me over the edge. I agree. Sometimes I fall into "fighting" with them, especially my one, very bitter...