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Dear @Redxo, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you’re still in shock. Maybe, given how things transpired, your dream was a subconscious attempt at some kind of closure Do you have any other family members or friends, especially who knew your loved one, who would be safe to share your...

I’m glad you reached out, Oak. I think it’s very important to have someone to share your story and the resulting fear/grief/frustration/anger with. We humans are wired for connection, and most of us need it to some degree. I agree with you that hiding your trauma and consequent struggles from...

We met years ago in a social club that does outdoor activities. We share a passion—that helped a lot. It also provided an excuse for us to engage in the same activity as just the two of us, which quickly blossomed into romance. Noteworthy: I made the first move (I’m a woman, my partner is a man)...

I can understand where you’re coming from. I think it’s natural for those of us who missed out on decent parenting to continue to crave what we never got, even well into adulthood. I found myself urging to cling to certain elders in my life, but always having to stop and acknowledge to myself...

Thank you. Yes, I would be interested if you have the time

Wow, that’s very encouraging. Thanks for sharing, @Sues If I may ask, how many sessions (or how long) did you end up working on that one memory? Also, are you able to tell (yet) whether you are no longer susceptible to getting spontaneously triggered by things related to that event, or are...

I thank all of you for taking the time to provide thoughtful replies. You’ve given me much to think about

@One step at a time, I like the way you talk about a window of tolerance. Those 2 manifestations are so familiar. And your mention of shame is very apt. In the last year or so, I went from thinking shame, although often mentioned as a symptom, wasn’t a factor for me—after all, “what do I have to...

I think you’re right about the need to feel everything that needs to be felt. It makes sense for me from the standpoint that I was literally not allowed to express my inconvenient emotions growing up. If it made my father uncomfortable (e.g., me being angry or depressed), then it wasn’t allowed...

By this, do you mean we have to consciously be aware that an event was traumatic before we can start to process and defuse the memory?

Hi @adamjam, I’m sorry to hear you’re suffering but glad you found us. It does help to share with others who understand. Hopefully you’ll find some relief. Like you, I‘ve been dealing with PTSD symptoms for a long time (since childhood), but only woke up to reality and started on my...

Thanks. It helps knowing I’m not the only one. I’m really having trouble with it

Thanks, everyone. I appreciate the feedback

Weed won’t cure PTSD, but for me, it sure takes the sting out of my symptoms. In fact, I may be alive today thanks to weed making life more tolerable and helping stave off a desire to suicide. If I’m experiencing a high volume of flashbacks, weed either helps them go away temporarily, or at...

I’m wondering what other folks consider to be “trauma processing”. I’ve asked a couple therapists and still don’t feel like I really understand. It sort of feels like a squishy term, and yet, it’s supposed to be the path to healing. I find that I’ve been running over the same ground mentally...

Hi @Ruby_ , I’m glad you joined, and I’m sorry you’re suffering, too. It sounds like we may have sort of similar stories and trajectories. I know what it’s like to feel that no one cares. My own mother would just stand by and watch as my father brutally beat me, year after year. And like you...

What I’m wondering is how is your child doing through all of this?

Lisa, I relate so much to what you’re saying. It’s like, I’ve done so much to improve my circumstances, and I should feel better now, yet I’d still rather not exist. Like the will itself is already dead. I get it. I’m so sorry you’re in this boat, too. I don’t know if this helps, but you’re...

Thank you for the additional information. It will take a bit to digest it all. Yes, by all means, feel free to message me when convenient.

Thanks for all this. I didn't see it until I had already responded to you on your other (research/studies) thread, where some of the same topics are discussed. I am really curious about both the somatic and hypnosis approaches that worked well for you Also, regarding psychedelics, my...

Yeah, misophonia is nasty. Ppl tend to think you're a drama queen when you get triggered and start bugging--no one can understand unless they have it themselves. And it's invisible (so you could be "faking" it, right?) I also have misokinesia, but at least closing your eyes is generally easier...

I can feel your heartbreak, and I commend you for caring about her and wanting to help her. A good relationship with a partner can be healing, esp. for attachment wounds (if that’s an issue). Speaking for myself, I often wonder how my own partner can love me so much, since some of my symptoms...

Hi Marcus, I can’t tell you whether this is typical, but I can respond from my own experiences. I tend to get triggered very easily by other ppl. Even just innocent comments can send me into an emotional flashback. This will sometimes cause me to want to avoid that person in the future. For me...

Hi Rebecca, I recently posted on the Introductions thread, so my backstory (child abuse) is available there, if you like. BTW, my professional background is also in scientific research, so I appreciate what you’re doing. I’m glad you’re interested in learning about our experiences. I...

Thank you for the kind welcome, grit & Teasel