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@Brittny, I understand exactly where you’re coming from. My ex-Sufferer won’t see me, says it would be too hard on both of us, but he likes when I call him; says I can call him every day; that he likes talking to me. I usually call once or twice a week. I want to be there for him as much as I...

Counts for me, the codependent empath, as well. I was [am] codependent too, but I'm going to therapy, reading self-help books, hoping and praying.

@Loner, would you say my ex-Sufferer broke up with me because that was the only way he could manage his anxiety? It just seems so extreme and so illogical to me.

@Not.an.angel, I am so sorry you are going through this. I can tell you that I would have done exactly what you did – would have gotten married (had he asked) thinking we could accomplish anything as long as we were together. But, I know now that I was living in a fantasy world. I am still...

@arfie, I do agree that flight is preferable to fight, although I wish there was a mid-way point between the two. If only I had known about this particular stressor, perhaps I could have avoided it and he would not have fled.

Do Suffers learn in [group] therapy to flee when faced with confrontation? My ex-Sufferer fled after we had a disagreement, and didn’t come back. He built a wall around himself and I feel like I’m knocking my head against that wall. Any comments?

When my ex-Sufferer broke up with me he said, "it's over, we're through, I'm done". I told you I was crazy and I told you that when I'm done, I'm done". He wasn't kidding. It's been more than 3 months since he ended the relationship, yet he continues to talk to me on the phone as if nothing...

@crazy8, thank you for your post and for your insight. I wish you all the best always. @BigBear, One of the things my ex-Sufferer told me was that the break up wasn't because of me, it was because of him, and that he hated himself for being the way he is. Unfortunately, he is convinced that...

@WillyKat, My ex-Sufferer is a Vietnam Vet with PTSD. I do not know if he had issues with his mother or any other women figures. He and I were together for four years in a very loving, intimate relationship. We hardly ever argued or disagreed with each other, however, on the few occasions...

I am an ex-supporter who still speaks to her ex, so maybe I'm not an ex-supporter after all. We talk on the phone, as long as I initiate the call, although he did call me two weeks ago and it turned into a 3 hour conversation. He says he misses seeing me, says he loves me, and says I can...

I'm angry because he left me. I'm angry that he's not willing to try to work things work. I'm angry because I cry for him every day. I'm angry that he thinks more therapy is useless. I'm angry that I feel so desperate. I'm angry that he rejected me. I want him to take me back so we can...

When my ex-Sufferer broke up with me he told me he was "done" too. Is this a word many Sufferers use or is it a phrase used in general today? At the beginning of our 4-year relationship, he let me know in advance, "when I'm done, I'm done". It was almost like a forewarning.

@kacee129, You did good. I gain strength from you.

sthrngirl, I would call him, but expect the unexpected

I wish I knew how much time too. I fell to pieces when he left me, and am just beginning to pick up the pieces and get my life back on track. I'm waiting for the angry phase to set in, but it's not coming for me either.

I take Neurontin for neuropathy and it works. My ex-Sufferer takes the maximum amount for anxiety and it works. I take 300 mg twice a day, although at one time needed to take it 3 times a day. I also take Inderal for a heart condition. I've been on it approximately 35 years with no side effects.

JennJenn, My ex Sufferer and I have been broken up for two and a half months too. He told me more than once that he couldn't be in the relationship any more. It's difficult to accept, and I, too, am trying to remove all hope. I am sure that you and I will get there. It just takes time ~

I saw this commercial for the first time the other night and thought it was a spoof from Saturday Night Live. Dumbest commercial I've seen in a long time.

My therapist suggested that I stop calling him; so have my friends and family. So now, every time I get the urge to call him, I call someone else instead. I want to call him so bad. Should I, or shouldn't I ??

My ex PTSD Sufferer called me every day in the beginning of our relationship. We only saw each other on weekends. Somehow it turned around (I don't remember when or why) and I was calling him every evening and on my lunch hour as well. We continued with this routine (for 4 years) until the...

Rosanne, it sounds like your instincts are pointing you in the direction of a separation. Your daughter is an innocent and you and she deserve to live a safe and happy life.

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Thank you all for sharing your experiences. Reading these posts is so helpful. My ex Sufferer will speak to me on the phone if I call him. We have spoken an average of once a week since he unexpectedly ended the relationship 2 1/2 months ago. I love talking to him since I miss him so much...

Deedee, I would like to offer another ending to your last two sentences above, "Think about what you want in life, and what you want in a relationship. If you hold on,... you might miss out on meeting the person you were truly meant to be with."

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