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Thanks much. And this is true for the supporters here as well.

I read post after post about how a lot of people here think that they are a pain in the ass to others, and are ashamed of their symptomology....which are normal human reactions to adverse conditions. I used to be ashamed. I am also an Aspie (high level autism spectrum), typical geek, so this is...

Things are really kinda crappy. But I am OK. Actually somewhat happy.

Ding! Ding! Ding! We have a winner! Thanks Go Hungry. Bullseye.

Bell,these are more priceless gems. I am an Aspie, a archetypal geek, a person on the high end autism spectrum. I am also conscientious and very responsible. I think I give an air of naivety to these assholes. That is probably the behavior. Don't get me wrong, I am setting boundaries left and...

Thanks for your really insightful thoughts. Yes, I have totally devoured the topic of codependency. It is a deep topic. Basically is it just reparenting, what is appropriate accept in relationships and what is not, and acting upon it. I feel good about this.

This is a very important point. However, the baby and the bathwater can be in Cleveland, while you are in Dallas, no? There are very few people I have personally just had to cut off, but many that I had to put miles of space between us, so that I am not damaged by their dysfunctional actions. I...

Yes Dew, there seems to be no shortage of boundary crashers. Most of these folks are not bad people, but have behaviors that scare the crap out of someone who is trying to be healthy. I am sorry for the crummy experience you had.

Man, there are some real Gems here. I personally distance myself from anybody who has an agenda or is not upfront, because being an Aspie, I just can't make accurate judgments with people who have agendas. Maybe this might change in the future, but I have been too carte blanche accepting of...

Run! This is a character disturbed person who cannot process empathy. Here you are, busting your chomps, totally upfront, so he could make informed choices, and he turns on you like a pit viper. Get the hell away from this epic jerk. A real man respects you working on yourself, and if he can't...

What a psycho d....k! Total projection of his bad feelings on to you. Please walk away next time someone starts spewing the psychotic sewage at you. Seriously, to unload on a stranger in the street like that is asking for a fist fight and indicates a very, very loose screw. So sorry you...

Dana, this is deeply thought provoking. Good old "repetition compulsion". I am not one for "woo woo" theories, as I am a science geek, but there does seem to be a "law of attraction" thingy going on. The men in my family, and I have traced it 4 generations, have strong antisocial traits, like...

Thanks for starting this thread. I need lots of alone time to keep my head straight. I like to get out, but I really like my alone time. I do not feel lonely most of the time, trying to develop self compassion and self worth.

Yes, so true. I am so grateful for you guys. You guys are so helpful for keeping me grounded. I sometimes wonder if I am going crazy because of sheer repetitive nature, but you guys really help with perspective. I very much thank you.

Yes amigo, there sure are. Thanks for your thinking. I mean, we all should aim to develop self compassion and respect on this forum. Boundaries are great! I thought long and hard about that boundary list when I was making it up. This is why I refer it as the Zombie Apocalypse, lol! I mean...

Wow, codependents and narcissists magnet! I see what you are saying! Sometimes it is really good to have your own space after trauma like that. Thank you for sharing. Maybe I need to be alone.... . The only solution is a deeper one. Maybe I need to have these interactions with these character...

I am on the autism spectrum and I have huge emotional empathy. You are referring to cognitive empathy deficits, which is why I can miss out on conniving, office politics, and other drama. People who are two faced. Can't pick them out real well.

Digger, this is awesome. Thank you for carving out a path so that I can cultivate insight. I use zombie attacks humorously because of the absurd. repetitive nature of the situation. I don't see these people in black and white, I see them as wounded in such a way that it makes my intimacy and...

Aqua, this is very insightful. I just can't help but think that this Bill Murray Groundhog Day type of repetition of the zombie attack is some sort of lesson, ramped up, to try to get me to learn something. I am at a loss to figure out what it is. The repetitive nature just screams that there is...

Thanks so much...it was just bothering me the sheer quantity of unhealthy people who pop up in my life. It is like a brain screw, you know?

No offense at all...I really welcome feedback, and much appreciate your wisdom. This is what I go by...the feeling in my internal gut. Used to, just like most of people here, I will bite my tongue and keep it bottled up. When I did this, this is when trauma would happen. So I assert my needs...

Well, here is an example of a very recent event... https://www.myptsd.com/threads/please-help-realizing-that-relationships-are-too-needy-and-stressful.47031/ Another is when I went with some friends to the coast last week. This one friend kept losing her temper and would start shouting...over...

I would really like ya'lls very wise thoughts on this. For a couple years now, I have been in aggressive recovery from severe trauma. I have taken a no BS policy when it comes to boundaries, realizing what stuff is my own (and what is not), and really caring and reparenting myself. The deep...

You guys are awesome. These are just great thought. Hey you will like this! The pastor called me a LIAR. Total exposed NARC, 100%, by the book. I prolly need to move.These people are not safe. I told him I had PTSD and was in no position to car take. You know what bag-of-dicks said? "sorry for...

Go Hungry, I have studied very diligently about the mechanics of codependency, and I second what you just said. I live in a city in Ecuador that happens to have a lot of retired baby boomer gringos (north Americans and Europeans). Though there are a lot of cool older people here, there is a hell...