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Yeah, good suggestion Friday! Do what you can to creep and gross out your landlord. Dishevel your hair, and get a crazy dennis hopper psycho look. Get all crazy skull with him. See how he likes being creeped out.

Yes you guy are correct. I am going to implement these suggestions further---just did not do enough. Being around empathy impaired family, and how they would just hang others out to dry, and how disgusting it was how they would dodge responsibility, and the huge neglect I suffered massively from...

I really appreciate you guys! Wow, thank you so much! Being raised by sociopaths and addicts, I have trouble differentiating callousness and throwing someone under the bus cause ya' can't be inconvenienced and setting boundaries cause I just don't have the resources to give. How do you...

Jane, I am doing something to attract needy people. The expectation is unbelievable. I am a badly PTSD injured person, and it takes everything I HAVE to function, make a living, keep a small pet, keep house, take care of business. WHY do they even DO this to me? What am I doing to attract this...

Hello amigos, I am coming to a realization early this morning, and I need your help. I have spent a huge amount of time at Drs. offices and hospitals taking care of family since I was 20. It is very triggering, as it always seems I get stuck holding the bag, and making the hard decisions and...

I don't watch TV or many movies, either...I found that they overstimulated my sensitive nervous system...Good for you...frees up a lot of time to do important things...

Thanks so much guys, man I really appreciate you guys taking the time. How do you know what your potential is/ was? It sounds as if you are achieving a lot - but feel you could do more. Is that realistic? Is that part of the 'never feeling quite good enough' that comes with CPTSD? Lucy cat...

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I honestly try to validate and hear them out, but if the energy escalates and they are not hearing me, I immediately vacate the premises.

I find that it doesn't really matter if someone has PTSD or other mental problems, but if they have character issues with those 3 rules (for me), this is where I have a problem.

Hey guys, I want to let you know how much I appreciate yall. It has been so wonderful being part of a great community. I never shared my story here. Needless to say, it has been traumatic, with tremendous loss, abuse, and betrayal. I have studied and worked for about 2 years via therapists...

Hey, since being in Ecuador, I dissociate much less, since it is so much more healthy than in the states. And the people are healthier and kinder. One thing I love is getting on these cheap intercity buses, and going to these surrounding towns, to the mercados and cathedrals, and greeting all...

Can you read up on codependency? Bending over backwards is not healthy dynamics for any relationship. It is a narcissist and sociopath magnet. Trust me, I was the biggest doormat on earth. Not anymore. I am a Judge Judy style bitch when it comes to those type of behaviors as you described. Real...

It sounds like you need to have someone who appreciates you as much as you do them. Remember, you can't get orange juice from a hardware store. I know once I was able to internalize this on a deep level, it gave me the permission to detach from people who just could not reciprocate much more...

I am an aspie, whose entire male side of the family is extremely narcissistic with antisocial tendencies. Boy that was a fun bowl of stew. I am absolutely NC unless they want to discuss problems under professional care. Of course, they dont, and they are just so sad and mystified as to why I ran...

As I work through my CPTSD and severe codependency (as an aspie) my understanding of the nuts and bolts of a functional relationships of any kind have changed dramatically. If one partner minimizes or shuts down the needs of another, and there is no negotiating, coming to a meeting of the...

Interesting thread. From my standpoint, I would not be in a relationship where there was no/poor quality sex. And I am a woman.

Guys, lots of nuggets here, thanks!

I think it has to do with developing relationships where you can assess risk better, so you can calculate the odds of somebody being a betraying douche. I mean, with poor boundaries, your inner risk assessor is turned off, so the odds increase greatly that you will be in relationships with...

Thanks so much for starting this thread. I have had to do the same, eliminate a LOT of relationships. A lot of people just would not listen to me. After learning how to better articulate my needs, I made some boundaries with some very damaged people. 1. are they addicts? 2. are they liars? 3. do...

Thanks everyone. This is just a process. I agree, and I am questioning myself all of the time. However, I do have a fluent good family member down there, and so I got in deep there. Understanding the government, immigration, healthcare, social, and financial system. To me, it's just a logical...

Yup, about 150 miles south of of there. Very nice getaway indeed. Gonna so miss it out here. I just don't see a home in the making here right now. One big thing that I am scared of is being destitute. I have to have savings in order to feel safe. It is so hard to save here in the US. I am...

Well, the place I live here in the oil patch was a respite from some very traumatic experiences. I basically fled my husband, who had a breakdown so destructive, that I thought he was going to kill me, and not even know it. My friends took me in, made sure I had a place to stay, supported me...

Hehe, loads of retired gringos are pouring in down there. I do have people I love very much here. Hell, I am sure every single immigrant in the world has gone through these feelings....not so unique.

I will be leaving the US permanently is about 2 months. Overall, I find the climate here very toxic as far as progressing in meaningful recovery. I have a nice small internet based manufacturing business (that part is outsourced), yet I have had issues accessing decent medical care for most of...