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I am incredibly sorry you are going through this. You really must save yourself. Your son must suffer the brunt of his actions, unimpeded. I have some hard nosed rules I set for myself that I have employed for about 2 years. This has worked fabulously, and the quality of my life is so much...

Thank you so much for this amazing diary, Irs. When I went down to ecuador over Christmas, I had a night where I had intense flashbacks and brutal, brutal nightmares, and then they were pretty much attenuated after that. Now, it is a different world down there, like a modern day old school...

My apologies for referring to you as a girl...lol. This is my opinion based on my experience only. If you are anything like me, you are a so called adrenaline junkie. This runs through my family like the plague, and it has f....cked everything up, because everything escalates. If you are...

Yes, please let us know how it turns out ASAP.

Did you read my responses this morning?

Well, maybe I should clarify. Animal liberator appears to be stating that many attempts at therapy have been disastrous. Understandably, a lot of people try to argue that there must be something wrong with her. Again, much of so called borderline (I think an pejorative term) is really complex...

Well, I have not had a chance to read through all the post since yesterday. But let me tell you, I have to side with animal liberator on this one. I was deemed untreatable because I thought my therapist were not trained in a way that they could validate convincingly. That is, I thought they were...

Well this "toughness" is nothing but a cover for avoidant or dismissive attachment style, no? Yes, my toughness only damaged me mentally and physically because I was so cut off from my body....yeah, "walk it off" ain't so effective on a proverbial shattered leg.

Sounds like a lot of invalidating, lazy professionals to me. I have had very poor responses with my mental health professionals, until this one I have now. But I did most of the healing on my own through mindfullness and insight meditation. I was one of those hopeless cases. Also, when my...

Oh my gawd, you people just told my story too. I felt like all of ya'll. I like to look nice, and I finally, for the first time, like the way I look, and I don't wear makeup or hair products. I have security blankets just like all of us have, to keep some distance. I still feel like a teenager...

This has been such an important thread to me. Have any of you guys seen the old movie "Slaughterhouse five"? I really recommend this movie, as the author, Kurt Vonnegut, really captures PTSD, flashbacks, and dissociation in a very gentle way, with a very lovable main character. The main...

This is a very personal thing to me, guys. I can attribute every creative project I have ever done to these autistic tendencies exasterbated by the same decrepit abuse as described here on this thread. I was sitting in my home a year ago obsessing over the curtain rods, paint, light fixture...

Well, my brother, with his smear campaign, really tried doing a number on her with the gaslighting. But the issue was resolved immediately when I non violently asserted my view. See, this to me is the difference between relationships you keep, and ones you have to draw a boundary around ASAP...

Here's the thing...I am extremely strict and disciplined with my habits and lifestyle. Seriously, I take better care of myself than almost everybody I know, because I might as well eat a bullet otherwise. So when what I see as a lazy slob (sorry, calling like I see it) tells me to get over it, I...

I had to give up a lot of friendships in the last few years, based on the following criteria. 1. Issues with lying 2. issues with addiction or impulse control 3. Failures with processing empathy 4. Uncontrolled anger, especially from men Needless to say, most of my relationships went to the...

Yup, screaming and tantrums tell me he cannot process adult emotions. First the jacket is thrown to the floor, then possibly you might be later....big red flag for abuse.

Ms Spock, thanks so much for your insight. Empathy failures get very, very limited treadlife with me, as my family is full of narcisisst/ sociopath sorts who indeed are perpetrators, and the codependent sheep that enable that garbage. So when somebody makes a "get over it"type of statement, I...

I have an advanced degree in physiology, and I have studied a lot about the somewhat reversible damage to the memory centers that occur after prolonged exposure to elevated stress hormones. The awful flashbacks, nightmares, and dissociation is about as controllable as paralysis or speech loss...

This is just great guys, thank you! My very cleaver therapist has this suggestion. When the accusations of crazy and other hater attitudes are being thrown around, he suggests the accused move 700 miles away for 7 years NO contact to determine which part is your crazy and which part is theirs...

Arfie this is so true.

Boy, I relate to this as well. I say that macca has some very good advice. Find one person who has emotional intelligence and practice with them.

Thanks for all of your replies. Everything seem to turn out OK between me and my brothers wife's mom. I am so used to walking on eggshells around family,that it is a relief I didn't have to deal with crappy passive aggressive behavior for expressing myself. They gaslight her hard, asswholes they...

Thank you for responding. I am not sure, because I am a bit damaged today from the non stop flashbacks and nightmares from last night.

I realized just how different I think from others not that I have constructed a new personality. My brother is doing a smear campaign (yawn) because he does not like me staying with his wife's mother down here in Ecuador. Mind you, I was invited. She is an empath, and is here because her kids...

Bell, thank you for your response! I realize I am a bit of an odd duck. I follow cloud and Townsends method for meeting people. I talk to men everywhere...online, coffeehouses, in the park, through friends, concerts, pubs, parties, going to church with friends. I learned to overcome fear like...