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SL, these guys want a long term relationship, almost instantly. Have to put rapid boundaries in place instantly. Thank for asking!

Thanks for all of your responses, much appreciated! Well, I am not looking for a soul mate, I am just looking, as in talking with, to myriad of different guys. I am not jumping in the sack. I am just shocked at unhealthy these men are. I do not think I could wait a year! Yuk!

Yes, I am really wondering about this.

Well, see I am trying to determine if that is the case. I am approaching this like a scientist. I am talking to as many men, from as many different backgrounds as I can. Like a randomized survey. So I am trying to eliminate all preconceived notions. I perceive myself having my shit together---...

Thanks, much better articulated. It just seems like a lot of men are extremely screwed up. I just need to keep steadfast with my values.

Thanks for posting. This isn't what I was referring to.

Thanks for your response. I am not referring to hooks ups, thank you.

I know I have posted in this forum before regarding my really confused state about this. I am starting to get clarity about what specific things are bothering me. You guys really provide valuable feedback, so I would like some more. I am not afraid at all to talk to guys, or to touch them, or...

Reading some Joe Navarro tidbits. Really rich stuff.

I do not disguise myself in large amounts anymore. I have, I think, started to incorporate the disguise into my personality. If needed, I will assert myself without hesitation, and look a person in the eye on the streets. I am learning to express my emotions, not matter how embarrassing they are...

Yes, I have, but I had to really hold fast to not putting up with BS. I used to be a perfectionist, overachieving, control freak. Cut all that shit out completely, and just focus on the process with the eye on the ball. I am a lot more solid of a human being, am healthier at all levels, and more...

Like a lot of you, I am fortunate to have support. However, also like a lot of you, I had to get very tough on my toxic relationships. This is the key, not being around people who tear you down. I mean, like adhering to this rule like it was etched in stone, like it is a commandment.

I often thought about writing a movie script, similar to slaughterhouse 5 (ultimate representation of PTSD) with a bit of a Tarantino edge.

Wow you guys basically wrote my script. After being the receptacle of the toxic waste crap of my family, after I cared for many of them, and made the difficult choices at end of life care, I had enough and cut them out, as well as a lot of toxic relationships. You guys are right, it is a...

Or a Leonard Cohen sort. The 8500 ft altitude thankfully does not both me, thankful, though, it is much like having a few bong hits at times.

In cuenca. And I am utilizing the 4 years of Spanish I took, but never had a chance to use. I feel like I am living in modern day old school Paris here, like Hemingway could pop out at any time.

I am currently in South America visiting retired family who was also suffering greatly living in the US. I live in an awesome part of the US, but I think staying there is destroying my health and not allowing me to recover from trauma. First, I have discovered the food in the US, and I am...

Such a great response. Thanks for taking the time for this. Here is a problem I see with codependents. A codependent person will see the plight and the reasoning behind the perp's action. This is compassion, but it seems to leave out a big part of the puzzle of the empathy equation. It seems to...

What a wonderful thread. Thanks to all of you for some really deep insights. Empathy, I have found, is not necessary abut compassion. Sure, I am sense the fear and insecurity of my perpetrators. But another reality, at least in my case, is that these people just did not want to do the work. For...

Why? If bad choices are bringing bad results, and a human being is made by nature to be a feedback machine, then ignoring feedback is not honoring one's nature. In the wild, if an animal does not adjust and respond to feedback in nature, they are dead. When I decided to take responsibility and...

This thread strikes home. Really, it came down to my needs as a human being not being met. I had to figure out why I felt so horrible. I would wake up with my thoughts racing, bordering on psychosis, and no medication would stop it. I remember thinking I felt intoxicated, or poisoned. This was...

My therapist also states that people are doing "best" at their given moment. Personally, I have seen the opposite of this, and I brought it up to him, but he still insists. Personally, I think people who make perpetual bad choices are lazy, and mentally infantile.

I have done meditation for 14 years, and there was a time that an up diagnosed autoimmune issue, Celiacs disease, was causing so much neurotoxicity I could not be mindful for more than a few seconds. Literally 3 days after quitting gluten, everything changed. I have a suggestion. Listen to...

Do you know why your family is being that way to you? Why do you think your daughter is estranged? Why do they want a medical report?

In defense of healthy normal levels of dissociating, I created all of my art and business (damn good business) creations while in dissociation, or daydreaming. I still struggle with it, and I have practiced mindfulness for a really, really long time. I learned joomla, while entirely zonked out...