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I like to light candles and incense around the house. It gives me a sense of peace. But on a daily basis I do my angel/unicorn cards to give me guidance. I also have a lot of crystals and do chakra cleansing and alignment now and again. I also do yoga and meditation. I like the...

Hi Jekajo For what I have read I would say it is him. He is acting like a petulant child wanting it both ways. His immaturity shows and it is not your job to get him to grow up. I know you love this guy but this is not a loving relationship and very onesided. What was his reaction to...

Yes I agree Pencil, there are lots of reasons why victims stay with abusers. Unfortunately if the abuser is forgiven or is accepted it reinforces the abuse and so it will continue until someone leaves willingly or through being really hurt. The cycle of abuse is damaging and can lead the...

HI Tribulations Can you just give them notice of intention of leaving? I thought most would just expect a months notice? I am not from the USA. Maybe you could bring the landlady to court under civil proceedings to claim the money you have already paid? WIthholding money might not go...

Well on the other side when you are gone to a better home they will still be living their shit lives. Unfortunately for the kids nothing will be done until it is too late. :( Sad to say. No one thanks someone interfering no matter how good the intentions are. Because they will then be...

Sorry to hear you are going through this Medic. Condolences and sympathy to you and yours. It has been a lot to take in Medic in such a short space of time. Give yourself time to heal and grieve. Don't fight the feelings but accept the stages of grief. hugs Saffy :)

Poor kids growing up with chav scum parents like that. Give it 10 years they will probably be on here too. Neighbours can be real tw*ts and so engrossed in their unsophisticated ways they actually forget how to be a decent human being. People like this do not care you are being annoyed by...

Yes I agree with what you have said. Therapy, whatever the type, has been very helpful and life saving to a lot of people individually. But as therapist, making such judgements on other approaches does not make me feel that they are honest and open but rather closed minded and...

HI Sweatpantshairtied That is interesting to read. DO you actually believe people when they say you are lazy, stupid ect, is that how you see yourself? because you certainly do not see yourself as bad as you are very defensive of that labelling. I used to sit and take derogatory...

Hence my point and my previous statement on being sick and tired of living my life with fear of judgement. :) It has to come down to personal choices in the end. I cut ties with mine after years of fearing being judged by others. Those others had no idea really and was in no way going to...

That is what I suspected. That would be very biased towards one area of therapy and quite damaging for those looking for therapy, other than CBT, that could actually really help them. If that is what CBT therapists spout I would be very wary of trusting them as therapists. That is just my...

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Hi Abbey I feel that the approach your therapist is working on is to do with safety and stabilizing. There is an interesting article that another person on here has led me to in the discussion thread and I think it is going to be good for you to read it...

Hi DeathRay, I am not sure if you actually wanted a response or whether you were just venting off? However, I would like to add that not being heard and internalizing is damaging to all. The communication levels in your case are all over the place. The treading on egg shells in case...

I felt this. I realised this was a symptom of the abuse. They wanted me to believe that I was not worthy or not able to do anything without them. They would constantly tell me 'if it wasn't for us'. Actually if it wasn't for them I would be a more mentally stable person, but they would...

I decided that I was sick and tired of living my life in fear of judgement and condemnation. I stopped contact with my parents because I made the decision that it was best for me, not for anyone else. It was the best thing I did. I realised that they are not going to make my life any...

That is good news Phillipa :) I agree some of the hardest people to cope with are jealous and vindictive women. They can be such bitches. I found a lot of people proclaiming to help holistically or spiritually do not actually behave well and should practise what they preach in some cases...

HI Angel Thanks for sharing this. It makes perfect sense. "We want to teach the patient about trauma and PTSD in ways that celebrate and mphasize that, if she had the ability as a small child to survive these terrible experiences, then she has all the resources she needs to recover from the...

I would like to know who refers to this type of therapy in this way? out of interest. I think this is just showing ignorance of this type of therapy. I think with any type of therapy the client has to be ready and willing to accept that they want to be counselled. Some have been...

Oh Hashi we all break new years resolutions :) I make my one never to make new years resolutions :) Making a final decision over something important and that you have been tossing and turning over can ease a lot though. I sometime hear, 'this side of me say this' but never question what...

Hi xena I hope you are good today. Sorry to hear you ended up in hospital :( Animals give so much unconditional love back. It is a pity that humans cannot or will not as we are all animals really ;) best wishes Saffy :)

I loved reading your post. Well done also. :) It goes to show too the behaviour that some men show when they cannot get their own way. I think is good to remember when verbally attacked like this is too have faith in your own abilities and confidence in knowing what he said was BULL. I...

I am sorry to hear this Anna. :) Is there anything you need to share with us. We are here to help and support you :) There is nothing wrong with healthy sexual appetite but it is the undertones of why and what for that can cause conflict. There is nothing wrong with fantasizing but acting...

I know what this means Shawna to you. I used to do the same. I had no idea at the time I was breaking all my own boundaries to stop confrontation or rejection. Once they new I could be pushed they just kept expecting. These are just the type of chancers that can tell when they are...