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I worry the same way. Sometimes, I even wonder if all of my life isn't real, and I am actually just stuck in a dream and I am actually in that old psych ward right now! Sometimes my nightmares are as real as waking life, and I half expect to wake up from a dream when I am already awake. This...

Could have been a flashback, or a "false memory" your brain created as it has been trying to piece together what happened. Not saying I don't believe you, just saying, memories are weird and they are always created by your brain, even "real ones" and they can be fickle. If it seems eerily...

have you tired taking a break from each other? Try not talking for a day, to kind of let yourself settle out. That is what I do when I start getting ridiculous towards my good long-distance best friend who is also an ex-boyfriend. I find I am much more civil to him after I avoid talking to...

Just wanted to mention that a therapist also told me that if lying to my parents is what I need to do, go ahead and lie. I agree that you should tell them someday, but definitely get support wherever you can for now. Just remember to give your parents a chance to support you, when the time comes.

Glad to hear that you are 18. That means you call the shots. I think you should tell the truth to your parents if you think they can handle it. You can always tell them later if you are not ready yet. They may become sympathetic if you tell them, look, the reason I told you it was consensual...

FYI, it may be good to know of a method called somatic experiencing therapy, which doesn't require you to re-live or talk about the past. It's based on body sensations and observing your deep emotions and sense of self, no attempt to read anything out of these things, just becoming comfortable...

Hi Becky & Open Eyes, I am 21 now, and had a similar experience when I was about 5. I will open a private conversation in case you feel like talking more. I am curious and optimistic about what I can learn from you.

Its ok if you are done looking for a girlfriend, But try to be open if good fortune happens and you end up meeting someone by chance. Just because you lose hope, doesn't make it impossible. But if you stop looking, at least you can't be disappointed or let down. Just don't prevent it from...

I have always felt uncomfortable receiving compliments, thought it was just a self-esteem thing, but this is a really interesting perspective. I agree with Justmehere.

Awww...sounds like you passed the test then! I mean, they set you up to teach a lesson, and you responded in the right way. Clearly, you are not at all careless, a great employee! Sorry for the unnecessary stress, but I'm glad you found the humor in this.

This is pretty outrageous, that this could happen, and then you went to court and the cop was never punished at all. Good for you confronting him. It sounds like you did it safely in a public place. You may be right...he may have problems of his own that resulted in his abusive behavior...

I rarely cry. When I do, it is very intense for about 5 min, then a huge exhausted nap to follow. Most of the time, sighing is more my way of expressing sadness, or a sad smile or sad shrug or sad hug. It is easy fro me to hold in tears, hard to let them out. Sometimes I know I need the...

What are you referring to about drug giving unethical doctors? I had a neurologist prescribe a bad medication in double the max clinically studied dose under a false name, then she lied about it such that my symptoms were declared psychosomatic until I stopped the medication and became sane...

you could be having migraine aura. Sometimes you can have it even without headache. I'm not doctor, but that happens to me, causing memory blackouts and trouble with language. Or it could be something else, like lack of sleep as you say...definitely talk to your doctor(s) but also try not to...

Hey, sorry about your knee. I had a spinal fusion surgery. I understand the anxiety there. The spinal fusion is actually not the worst thing that happened to me, but it sucked in its own way. I am not often angry. It does happen sometimes. Punching stuff isn't my style, I go for long...

My therapist said if I am "ok" or "mostly ok" between appointments, that means the pace is good. If you decline, that means therapy has to slow down because it is stirring things up too suddenly. If you are oscillating or numb but overall not too bad, you are probably making progress. Maybe...

My migraines are related to a spinal surgery I had 7 years ago, but exaggerated by PTSD which was set off by a traumatic medical issue related to the migraines that happened last winter. Examples: I recently had a sudden migraine after a car accident, and a sudden one after a panic attack. I...

Wow Bedbug thanks! Yes I can relate. Let me message you privately. But to most people reading, ditto everything Bedbug said but a less extreme version. Also Bedbug, maybe if people want to talk more you could invite them to the conversation.

Thanks everybody. Your honesty and optimism is very helpful. I feel much better. I don't mind if things are difficult as long as the chance of success is worth the risk/effort, which does seem to be the case for you all.

One thing I learned, that I found helpful although counter intuitive, is that the reasons/motivations/understanding of your past and your abusers can be confusing, but sorting this out, may not be the most important factor moving forward. Making sense of your confusing memories is not required...

Wow thanks you guys. I feel less silly now. Glad other young women are concerned too, it's an important issue! Lots of us know that there are good moms and not so good moms out there, but maybe the good ones will share some advice. I'll check back later. Thanks for now and lets not worry...

I am nervous to open a thread but here goes anyways. Does anyone worry about not being able to be a decent parent or spouse? Does anyone feel like they are a good parent/spouse even with their condition? I worry that I will never be able to provide the kind of emotional care to raise kids, or...

Go for a nature walk, and let your mind wander, or play with a friend's pet if you know one.

I see. That kind of humor doesn't translate well in text! I worked for a sarcastic grad student whose teasing I mostly enjoyed, but catch me on a nervous day and I felt like i was being mocked. Definitely talk to him. Maybe it's you, maybe it's him, but tell him your concerns and give...

That is an odd thing to say, "quit having bad days on a therapy day" if he isn't helping you shouldn't have to keep showing up and paying him. Not sure what is going on, but you shouldn't regret confiding anything to a therapist. If you feel you have to hold things back, that probably isn't...