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I will listen if it is sound advice and not just attacks on my sufferer, whom I know better than anyone. Calling him an asshole is not sound advice. I know it would probably be best for both of us if I just leave him..it tears him apart not being able to give me what I need and it tears me apart...

Why would he lie about that...seriously? No...dont answer that please ! It is in his interest to get better...that has nothing to do with me. People are different...and you have no way of knowing what he is dealing with. Sorry...but you seem very negative.

No he is not. The past two years have been full of hurdles...getting his early retirement....struggle for over 6 years to get that, then waiting for the settlement he was promised, then buying a house...no energy for therapy...unfortunately!

He wants to be in a relationship with me...he tells me so, but he can’t cause he has nothing to offer. He also says that was it not from PTSD draining him we would be in a relationship. I have told him, that relationship is just a label...all I need is intimacy...which he can offer a little of...

It actually worked...thanks

Thanks...but that does not work

He loves intimacy, but fears acting upon it...that if he opens up to it, he loses self control and plunges into official relationship. He is surviving on a day to day basis and has no energy for “relationship problems” especially expectations. He feels guilty towards me all the time....not being...

Thanks for answering ☺️ He is still in love with me...which makes it so hard to leave...he really is a good guy. And no...he has no energy for getting help...and I cannot force him into a relationship. By the way...do you know if it is possible to delete a post in here?

You are entitled to your opinion...which is sooooo far from the truth. Thanks...but no Thanks

He did not deceive her....he did not move on to me immeaditely after she moved out...we did not hook up untill 16 months later

Advice...like in real advice...not here to be told that he is an asshole. You don’t know him. He is not a player....I have known him a long time. He is always the guy his family and friends turn to, when they need help or advice. He is warm, caring and loving! He did not plan to fall in love...

PTSD affects sexually...the energy and desire....his back is messed up from the attacks...so he loves sex, but does not have the mental or physical energy like he used to. AND I know deep inside, he thinks other women are boring compared to me

Wow! You need to read a lot of posts in here where both sufferes and supporter describe exactly what I do! Push and pull...scared of intimacy...of relationship. And for the record! I have known him 6 years...he is not an asshole! And where the f.... did you get that he is lying to everybody...

He never asked for an agreement!

Back to pattern...because I love him...simple as that...are we good for each other? Nope...but we cannot stop neither of us...love, desire, fascination...Limbo for both of us. Me craving intimacy and time...him wanting intimacy but scared to do it, because he will love it and end up in...

And please read again...during that 7 year relationship he did NOT have sex with another woman...he had his agreement...which gave him feeling of freedom, so de had no desire for other women

I have never said to him, that I won’t accept to having an agreement...just to make that clear! I think you need to read my post again. You seem to believe that we are not in a relationship because I cannot accept an agreement...you could not be more wrong. When we were just friends...as I...

According to him, I deserve someone better than him...that he is broken....he said...if you love someone set them free...he wanted to set me free, but is not able to let me go. He has said numerous times...I cannot let you go...

Thanks for replying. You are to some point right...I believe he needs an agreement....in order not to feel trapped in a relationship...however he also said, that having that agreement in his prior relationship meant, that he did not act on it. During the seven years with his ex, he never slept...

He does not sleep around...that is the whole point. He has mentioned it three times, to push me away when he felt I pushed him too far...when I insisted on spending time together like we used to and more intimacy. As I have learned from reading various posts....some sufferers will push their...

New here and WOW...learning so much! Long messy story short; Known my sufferer, D, for 6 years (from 2013) ...4 years as neighbour/friend...2 years involved with him. D suffers from CPTSD. Working with violent, mentally ill men, attacked numerous times untill app. 2010 when his back/body was...

My heart goes out to you❤️?

I am new here...Living in DK. My story is similar to yours. Friends with my sufferer for four years before we got together (we both lived with our exes). Two years ago he told me he was in love with me. He is almost 12 years younger than me...which worries me. In his former job, he was...