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:hug: I think you're doing all the right things so far. You're really focusing on you and doing a lot of self introspection and work. It's a hard and long process. When the time comes, it will be a lot easier for you. Just keep up the good work you're doing for yourself!! :hug:

love that Iceberg of Emotions article. It's great!

seems like you might also be thinking that ruminating about it for a half an hour might not have been the best thing to do, and demanding an apology in an angry state of mind might not have been the best way to start a dialogue with this particular person. i do totally get what you're saying...

Stonewalling is considered one of the biggest killers of a marriage and of a relationship. (See Gottman if you haven't already) That being said, I have the same problem. It's hard not to get emotional when being stonewalled. I'm fact, most people do and it's one if the reasons it's so...

Wow. Reading this I had to look at your avatar flag to make sure we weren't seeing the same guy!:O_o: So many similarities. But the thing is, I read this at exactly the right time. I've been thinking about ending this cycle myself. Taking it into my own hands. It's been so painful, but also...

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@Serendipity424 don't worry...you actually have gotten a lot of answers. And I have too, actually. And have been reminded of things o read about here months ago and have forgotten. I suggest reading any links to articles and old threads people have posted here. They have a lot of information...

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But I think that's what he meant about you overreacting...10 phone calls. So lesson learned.

Boy, nail hit right on the head! That's the pattern I have been going through for a year. He really wants it, but can't cope with the emotions and whatnot. The stress. It actually breaks my heart. That's part of the problem too! :wtf:

If it were me, unless he specifically told you he didn't want to pick you up, I would continue as planned and have him pick you up. He can tell you if he doesn't want to. Then be very light and thankful when he does so as not to add to his stress. You haven't seen him in a while and I'm sure...

@Sweetpea76 those Are great words of advice and very simple. Wish I'd learned this months ago. I would have saved both of us a lot of heartache. Still, it's not always easy to follow because every relationship will come up against one issue or another. It's a delicate stance to take and know...

I don't think you will be able to understand it. At least I haven't. Well I do understand it but it only makes me feel better sometimes to know why. It is very confusing and that confusion is all part of that roller coaster. In my situation, one of the reasons my guy does it is due to the...

I'm going to be super blunt here. My advice? Let him go. Don't analyze why because it doesn't matter. It's very early days for you now, so before you get caught up even more, now is a good time to walk away. That is unless you can handle this yo-yo pattern. Unless that is something you want to...

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Hi there, I think you answered your own question here - And here - Now this is where you make a decision for you. It seems like you want to keep working with him right now, so unfortunately that means you will have to wait this out and also let him know you're there for him and ready to talk...

@Sam0012 I am so sorry you're going through this difficult time. You really need someone to talk to. Do you have any friends and/Or family as a support system? Do you go to therapy? This place is a good start but you need something for yourself IRL as well. :hug:

@Glara I really, really, REALLY hope the booty call happens. You deserve it!! And I also hope he is doing much better!

I'm so sorry! That is a terrible way to feel and to fight against for so long when it's just not reality. :hug:

Yes, encourage him to check himself into a hospital. He sounds like thats what he needs at this point. Keep us posted!

I've never been blocked before either @ArtsyYogi, and this is the 3rd time blocking for me! And several shut outs. Ugh! I give a lot of leeway as well due to PTSD. Coming here has taught me a lot. And the first shut out, I thought it was ghosting but a lot didn't make sense about that...

I'm at nine weeks now. It's been so hard and I go from feeling ready to move on, to feeling like i did on the first day. I live my life and keep busy for sure, but I love him and miss him. As with you, this may be it this time for us. I have also gained a bunch of knowledge, insight and...

And it makes perfect sense to me as well because I am also right there in the same boat as you. I know I will be there when (if) he comes back. Sometimes I think I will just let it end in my head and feelings, but i always come back to knowing I love him and want to be with him. I am also in...

@anmun8 Your post really moved and inspired me. Thank you!

Hi @JoeDaddy808 have you been on the Combat PTSD forum yet?