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Sending you gentle hugs too and hoping you really can be so kind to yourself now and do everything you can to keep yourself emotionally safe as you deserve it so much. God bless Helen

You definitely do deserve to be helped and I am really hoping you can get yourself safe. Can you contact the crisis line and talk to them about how you are feeling? I know you do not feel safe now, but what you are doing is to ensure that you are safe, and is standing up to say that what he is...

I am also sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. You are still doing so well and I really hope you can feed into yourself that you are safe and that you are doing this for your protection. Whatever the outcome with the police and whatever response you have had from the justice of peace...

You are doing so well and I really hope you can feed that so much into the parts of you which feel so anxious and stressed. It is right that you are now doing so much to make sure this is not going to happen any more, but under it all is so natural that you would be feeling anxious, stressed and...

I am sorry to hear you had such a hard night and are feeling so unsafe. I am praying you can really feed into yourself that you are now safe and that the actions you are taking are to protect you so that he cannot get to you again, and that you can manage to keep yourself in the present enough...

I am so glad to hear how amazingly well you have done and how supported and listened to you were finally able to be by the police. I have been thinking of you so much and really hope you can feed into that emotional and messed up you that you are now safe and that you are finding other ways to...

I am so glad to hear it went well. Well done. You deserve it and I hope you really can find the time to look after yourself and find the time for the things you enjoy too, as that is such a big part of healing too and is so much what is needed. God Bless Helen

You're not caving in. You are looking after yourself because that is what you need and as you said it is to prevent you having a complete breakdown. I am glad you are able to get help with your rent and know this is what you deserve and hope the meeting goes well. Helen

So glad to hear you are taking care of yourself. You are not weak or a failure. It is strong to be working through all the emotions of the PTSD and you deserve to give yourself the break and self care which you need and I hope it goes really well today. God Bless Helen

Because after so many years of shutting and hiding away the real me, I now want to really be able to learn to be me, and know that healing is in being real. This means being real with others too and this is also a part of self acceptance, as I know I have shut so much away for so long, but when...

Thinking and praying for you. God bless Helen

You are doing so well and have no need to be disappointed in yourself. What you are doing is such a massive thing and I am really hoping you can feed in just how safe you are. You have good people around you and a lot of people on here who I know want to be here for you too as much as we can and...

I am not surprised to hear that it feels as if your security blanket has been pulled from under you, and all the things you are describing are enough for anyone - let alone with the added insecurities which undoubtedly will have come from the PTSD too. I am praying for you to be able to find...

I also go through phases of this when more emotions and things are coming to the surface, and though it is hard would agree that perhaps just letting it happen and giving yourself the care and nurture you deserve as you get past it is the best way, so that these emotions can surface and you can...

You are doing so well and I am praying for strength and courage for you and for you to really know that you are safe and that this way of facing it is to bring the safety which you so deserve. I am so glad you have people with you who you know are safe and that you are doing so much to look...

I just read your post and wanted to reply as i know how hard I find it when I cannot sleep and when so may emotions are coming up and am sorry to hear things are so hard for you at the moment and I hope you were able to find enough to get some rest. I cannot give you any answers to your...

I'm from England too. Welcome to the forum. Helen

I am sorry if this is not what you want to hear, but I have a friend who does this kind of thing to me a lot. I love her so much and she means so much to me, but very often she will turn around and push me away and accuse me of not caring enough, when I genuinely do love her so much. When she...

I have also suffered occasional migraines for many years, and they were at their worst last year when after seeing my dad I developed a migraine which lasted about seven weeks and was very unwell and physically sick with it too. At that time I was totally in denial about the things which had...

I just wanted to add that I do agree with what @Ms Spock has said about how important it is to not be in denial about the abuse which happened. I do not believe that forgiveness is about minimising the things which happened, but that it is about really acknowledging them and allowing yourself to...

I also do not feel like it would be selfish to want to talk to him, and it does sound as if he has come a pretty long way within everything too, but ultimately I believe that forgiveness is about you. It is about you chosing to release the hold which it has on you. This is a process and is a...

I am sorry that things were so hard with your father and am so glad that you are able to connect more to it now even though the process is so painful. I am sending you back hugs too and praying for you. God Bless Helen

I just read your last post after I had posted my last one. I am so sorry that your exerience of your dad was as it was. I do totally believe that there can be healing for PTSD, though the reality of the events which happened can never be taken away, but do not believe your dad has got it right...

You do not need to be sorry to have brought this topic up. You did not feel validated by the way your dad responded and I can understand the pain you would feel in this. I have had many people, Christians and non-Christians alike, who have not been able to understand and said things to me about...

I am sorry to hear how hard you found this conversation and the things it brought up for you. I am also a Christian and know that I find it so hard when people do not understand why it takes so long for healing, but know that as I have been able to be honest with more people that they have been...