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I recognize when he is having symptoms, but normally (since we are semi-new to PTSD) I almost relate it to the other 2 breakups we've had in the past, back when we weren't aware of the PTSD. So I usually get worried it's something I've done when he starts isolating. I'll ask him if he's okay, or...

I agree with everything you said, I also tell myself as much as this is hard on me it's a million times harder on him. He's been staying home and keeping busy around the house doing yard work and such. He hasn't been open to anything with his mother or myself so I know he's just not ready to...

@JT80 I'm glad that everything is going well for you :) I am still in limbo, he's about 1 month into therapy and we haven't had much contact at all. I'm assuming he will come to talk to me when he is ready. When I have bad days, I think about whether or not he wants to break it off but is...

And I'm sure they are on the same rollercoaster. I don't think there's an answer to that, everyone is different :/ And in response to your message before, I've just learned it best to not try to contact them, and learn okay to be in the unknown until they are ready to talk.

Maybe you are right @BuckarooBanzai :( All I know is the last time we had a conversation about all this face to face and he opened up about how he was feeling (anxious to see progress, constant negativity that kills him from the inside out) he told me he was starting therapy and when we hugged...

@NaeNae75 Great read by the way, thank you!

I just started crying for some reason, I am feeling defeated today. I am thankful that most days I am feeling pretty optimistic, but today I cant help but to shake the feeling that he's just going to give me up because it's easier. If I'm just meant to be in his life temporarily, to get him to...

Interesting, never knew the complete story behind "Full Moon", now I know. :) I'm sorry you're going through this, I feel for you. :( I will keep you in my prayers, that is really hard especially with a child involved too. When did he start therapy? And how/when is couples counseling involved...

I wanted to get this tattoo on my right shoulder the last time we went through this (tattoos are stress relieving too). I'm making an appointment now. I want to get "Faith" underneath the arrow :) It's been years so I think I'm about due for a new one

I noticed the full moon, it's a common term used in the medical field. It's an overload of work related insanity, and its overwhelming, just constant problems or difficulties regarding patients... what do you mean by full moon? Kind of the same circumstance? I feel for you, 6.5 years... ours...

@Mytime thank you :(

Good idea I'll keep that in mind. I was actually wanting to reach out to dog shelter in town to see if maybe each day that I run I can take another dog along with me. I reached out to the VA but they close when I get out of work plus my vet goes there and idk how he would react if he saw me...

@joeylittle I'd also like to add, if I've learned anything from all this so far, I've learned to depend on myself and be independent. Not a bad thing and is also a good quality that is admired by others. The world does not stop spinning, and I have my own life to care for too, so all you...

Well I'm focused on school (nursing) I took 2 classes this summer and got A's. I have fall semester coming up (Tuesday and Thursday night classes). I work in a cardiology office full time, part time as a phlebotomist, I run after work and do a bootcamp gym on Monday nights. I'm starting a hip...

@joeylittle thanks for your input. My veteran had a break down, which was really hard for all of us, my brother, his mother, him and I were all in tears. Our picture frame was smashed, I kind of broke up with him out of anger, his mom was to bring me home (we were drinking) and I ran back inside...

Endure, Yes kind of like me asking him to reach out once in a while so I know his heart is with me I now realize was pushy (in his eyes) which is why he lashed out. Not to mention he texted me back at night when he probably gets exhausted by the day's end also. I'm really glad I never responded...

I've had 2 appts with her recently and once last year when we initially broke up (but have been back since April this year). She's told me not to take things personally when he is pushing me away. To not reach out to him and that he will when he is ready and knows how to get a hold of me. And...

@joeylittle (This is what I was referring to, sorry) joeylittle said: ↑ I'm a sufferer and can only speak from that perspective. When I'm triaging my stress/life/etc - I tend to leave the people I trust the most to be patient with me as they become the last things for me to deal with. And it's...

@joeylittle just letting you know, just this one post you wrote, has helped me tremendously. It always sticks out in my mind, and I actually have it saved in my phone so I can refer back to it. Thank you.

Not to mention, and I say this kindly because I really don't mind when people add their stories and struggles to my thread, but you've pretty much hijacked my whole thread We all feel for you and have the same struggles and emotions, but learn to control them and do what's best for both of...

Because he cares but he wants you to essentially leave him alone for right now. You can listen to us or not, but clearly you feel like shit today because you keep making the same mistake.

No you are being helpful. I have a therapist I see too. Just gotta keep faith that things will turn around. ❤️

I hope he has a good therapist :( Not much faith in the VA

@jems first of all we all care about each other on this site. We can only give you advice and the rest is up to YOU. We all have our bad days so of course we feel for you today, and we want to be here for you, you are definately not alone. Many of us understand that space is a big thing for...

He has said some hurtful things in the past but I've learned not to take it all personally. Sometimes I can't help but wonder if there is any truth in what he says. He says things by how he is feeling in the moment, and doesn't judge the situation by anything else. He always seems to come back...