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I re read your original post and I see there were other issues with communication. Sorry for my mix up. Hope I didn't overstep myself.

I hesitated doing one after my divorce because I didn't want to look back and re read all the sh*t I had been through. I should have done it and thrown it away. Maybe I will. I know it sounds crazy I guess but I worry if I write some of these things down I am going to die suddenly and one of my...

I need to do a gratitude journal because I tend to think too much about the negatives in my life.

Do you have someone that could stay with you or someone you could stay with when or right after you tell him?

Thunderstorm, It sounds like you have given so much of yourself and at your young age you shouldn't have to feel guilty for wanting more out of a relationship. There is always a 'line' you have to draw somewhere and realize no matter how much you love someone if your needs aren't being met then...

I am dating a Vietnam vet that is 16 yrs older than me. Yes, the age difference can have it's challenges but overall he is worth it. He has depression along with his ptsd so his moods go up and down. Since I had a few hours that were better than usual this afternoon I decided I needed to write...

I don't have ptsd but was in an emotionally abusive marriage for 30 years. I found this forum because I am dating someone who suffers with ptsd. . After my divorce 1 1/2 yrs ago I prayed and begged God several times to take my life. I had to start over not having really any job experience...

I too have a hard time expressing myself in a way that can be understood if it is tense and I am upset. Some of it is also the way my Vet will also get emotional, not angry, during those tense moments. He just hates the conflict. And it frustrates me plus I hate to see him like that. Then he...

Wow! I am so sorry all of that hell that you went through. I need to be thankful that I just 'faded' out of my ex's sight never hardly to hear from him again. Can't believe your ex got partial custody. The legal system is a bunch of sh$t!! When my Mom passed away we found out our brother had...

Well quite a lot in common! I homeschooled too! That is why I don't want to ever say those 30 yrs of mine were wasted years. As a family we had fun together in the younger years especially. Homeschooling my kids was a great experience with treasured memories. My daughter thrived in it. Our...

Even though I moved to a somewhat larger town with a population of about 45,000 it is still pretty small and I haven't been able to find a divorce support group. I called several of the larger churches here thinking they would have something but it seems no one does. And I asked a counselor I...

I was married for 30 years. He for several years emotionally neglected and I think I would consider it also emotional abuse. I had severe depression and fatigue and one time could barely get out of the bed and he would never check on me. He could have sent one of our children. We were separated...

Thanks! What you said makes a lot of sense. It could be something like a panic attack or like an out of control feeling. I know when he drove me to a doctor out of town once he gets very nervous with trucks driving around, etc and can get angry at them easily. So it can be that he can't control...

We do tend to watch some shows and sometimes a movie together. It has just recently got worse with this lady calling him. He likes to play scrabble and we used to play some cards so I can see if we can try those again. Thankfully this past week he has not been as depressed. And he became a...

I went over there earlier last night and we did have some nice uninterrupted time for almost an hour without the TV on. That was nice. He just really odd when it comes to planning things. It would be better to spend some time during the day but he likes to stay on a schedule if he has to mow...

I wish he would but he has a 97 year old aunt and 94 year old mother in the nursing home. Back in our 'Newlywed' romantic days he was turning the phone off some but he just won't do it now. And we used to go out to eat when we first started dating but that stopped in October or so. I think he...

I know what you mean about being happy to find this forum. I just found it this past weekend. I had no one to talk to about what I have been going through. It has already been such a blessing for me.

I know it seems impolite and like he is ignoring me and that is what I was talking to him about last night. But this woman is about 85 yrs old in a nursing home without a roommate now and has maybe some Alzheimer's he believes. So last night she called 3 times and he answers every time because...

I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I was divorced 1 1/2 yrs ago after 30 yrs of marriage. Now I am dating a vet that is a recovering Alcoholic now 29 years. I know he is a completely different person. He has been such a support during this difficult time for me. I can tell you...

Well we are not married. I only go over there to his place 2 maybe 3 nights a week. So that is why I would not want to 'start' something and just leave. We are only together a short period of time each week.

So true! I go to a counselor and she doesn't understand at all. We have been to a neat ice cream shop a few times but he is not wanting to go out anywhere anymore for some reason. She actually told me to say one night , 'Well I think I'm just going to go eat ice cream" and leave. Wow, what good...

I really don't mean to offend anyone. I know your guys have been through hell. I cannot imagine. And they need our love and support. I am just speaking for how by Vet is acting and it might just be his personality that tends to want to feel sorry for himself too much.

I am new and learning more about ptsd. Some of you may have read my several recent posts but if not my guy is a Vietnam vet. I consider myself a very patient person but how much is he using his past as an excuse for his behavior and things he gets by saying to me. I am emotional and I know he...

Well he won't text. I think it would be nice if I could at least text him sweet things during the day but he doesn't get service where he lives anyway and doesn't seems interested. I try to make my letters well thought out so he can understand it. Either because of his exposure to Agent Orange...

Does he ever 'over analyze' things and get things screwed up that I say !! I talked to him last night because he stayed on the phone a while when I was there. I have been over there more than usual this week. But I said 'What would be nice is if when that happens we can have a compromise and...