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That’s what I’m scared of. How long does this last? I don’t think that she can see that she is symptomatic

Most definitely frustrated. Very pissed off. I told her she has absolutely no reason to not trust me. I’ve always been open and honest through our entire relationship. Right now she has a one track mind and it’s leading to self destruction and it’s devastating to watch. I don’t understand how...

And it happened just like everyone here suggested it would. “I can’t trust you, you are trying to control me, you don’t love me!”

I couldn’t think of any other way to say it. I’ve been telling her for over a week that I needed time to talk to her alone. She’s been avoided it for too long so I had to at least text it to her. Might have been easier for me to say what I needed to that way with time to think of how to frame my...

Thanks for the warning, ignorance of that rule is no excuse to break it.

Ok here’s an update. For the last few days I’ve been telling my wife that I need to have a conversation with her. She’s been avoiding it at all costs. So I texted her what I needed to say It’s been hours and I’m still waiting for her response

My next conversation with her is going to be about me bringing up the ptsd is marriage counseling. Marriage counseling is for both parties, and the only reason I brought it up was because it’s affecting our marriage. I didn’t do it to blame or embarrass her just that I feel it needs to be...

Just wanted to give an update. This morning when I went over to my in-law’s to take the twins out for a walk I had a few moments alone with my wife. I told her we needed to talk about what happened yesterday. I told her that she may be fearful of me and I accept that. But she cannot be fearful...

Yes, met with the attorney today. She said to not bother with the separation agreement if she already has a divorce lawyer. Anything unilateral decisions she makes with the kids is just more ammunition for my case.

I was offering How do I try to get her to wake up? I saw the marriage therapist today and he suggested to ask her if she’s getting the help she needs. He said I’ve got nothing to lose is she’s triggered again considering my situation.

I had to remove myself from a conversation with her yesterday. She quit a well paying job with a school district to work for a nonprofit. Like took a 50% pay cut. She was telling me her mother would watch the kids, and I suggested that a 75 year old probably isn’t the best option for child...

Just got finished with another session with the marriage counselor by myself. He did say that I need to speak to my wife about that the rate of which she is doing things is alarming. From pulling the trigger so quickly on divorce to quitting her job. It was also suggested that I do speak to her...

That boundary was never discussed. I felt that the past trauma and ptsd was affecting our relationship. I still see the marriage counselor by myself, and he strongly suggested to not bring up ptsd unless she does first. I do feel that it necessary to explain to her my reasoning on why it was...

Very helpful information. I do want to talk about the ptsd and apologize for not discussing with her before bringing it up in counseling. My only concern is that right now I’m a monster in her eyes, and I don’t want to make it worse. But I’ve got nothing to lose at this point.

I really don’t think she knows what’s going on just yet. And it feels like I’m walking on egg shells just to not upset her more. Anything I say or do she brings up “trust”. For example today we were talking about daycare and she let me know her mom offered. I stated my concern, that taking care...

The marriage counselor that we saw twice had us speaking like this. One of the many reasons she refused to go back to counseling was that she didn’t think I needed to pay someone for us to talk like that to each other. I’m trying to give her space and not talk relationship with her for a couple...

Is there a right way to approach someone who’s been diagnosed with ptsd in the past to ask them if they’ve been triggered? I’m tying to think of the easiest way to do this, even though my therapist strongly suggested not to.

She told me she was diagnosed with PTSD when she was a young adult and suffered a trauma, she told me she was “attacked” and left it at that. That was 7 years ago

I’m still hoping for reconciliation

From your past experiences how long do these triggers last? I want to ask her about her ptsd being triggered but I already saw how that went in our last therapy session before she refused to go to more. I am worried that if I bring up her ptsd it may get worse and the therapist was definitely...

I’m not sure how stable she is right now. She somehow made the leap to me wanting to be in control of everything, and that makes absolutely zero sense to me. We always have shared everything. Even finances I made that a priority in our marriage. She’s been limiting access to my children and...

I’m starting to become indifferent to her symptoms now. It’s been a little over a month and I’m emotionally drained. Since last night the only thing she said when I’ve tried talking to her is that the only thing I want to do is control her. She was supposed to start working again in a few weeks...

I believe this is her first triggered event in our relationship. It’s extremely difficult for someone who doesn’t suffer from ptsd to comprehend. With some of the posts from members on this forum a lot of her actions are starting to make sense. For instance, she sees me as a threat and just...

Well I’m starting to worry because her attorney finally contacted mine and I have to meet mine next week

Like I’ve had enough. I’m trying so hard to cope with her ptsd but the wall is so thick around her. She wants to divorce and be friends since she can’t trust me anymore. That’s not how it works and she can’t understand it. She isn’t thinking clearly and it shows. The day before she told me she...