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I was terribly sad and full of grief when I quit my T but I got over the deep sense if loss much quicker than I initially thought I would. It was helpful to remind myself "It's a professional relationship and not meant to last forever." As important and helpful as she was to me, I knew it was...

I dunno. It is the final frontier for me. I think society is full of self absorbed a-holes and those who know how to listen and genuinely care are rare gems. People aren't taught to connect in this country.

well, i had a boss who was oblivious so i took 2 hour lunches once a week. he usually took later lunch or i hope he assumed i was in a mtg., etc. worked for years but unusual, maybe, depending on your job.

I believe we are on this planet to love and connect. That's what takes strengrh - trust and vulnerability. Too bad it's so freaking difficult for many of us. Hiding is easy. My .02. To each, his/her own.

Thanks for your replies. @She Cat , not rude at all, but to @Friday 's point, yeah, if you are intentionally removing yourself from interaction, not normal, and yeah, I guess it does come down to whether you're happy with your own version of reality. What it boils down to for me is wanting more...

I find I also benefit from getting out on a walk just to leave the house but having more real connection would be good.

I know that is kind of a silly question as the answer is different for everyone and not necessarily quantifiable. I used to have a lot of social phobia which I have made a lot of strides toward overcoming and I don't really consider it an issue any more. I am married so I don't spend all of my...

Yoga feeds me.

I got the impression from my T that we survivors all feel anger or fear or happiness but are not as familiar with more complex emotions. All I ever seemed to come up with was sad as my descriptor in session. I do feel frustrated, excited, etc., but run on an even keel most times. I like to think...

I did a lot of damage before I realized I have it. I have broken bits away at the base of several teeth and cracked a few before I got a guard. I hope it helps. I have woken myaelf grinding on the guard and occasionally catch myself clenching my jaw when awake, but hey, at least I'm aware of it...

Yes. 3 protectors, two younger parts, it was life changing work.

This crap is a pet peeve of mine. It is like the creed that my parents "did the best that they could." No...no, they didn't. The best that they could would have meant getting the help they needed to become proper parents. And yes, we may blame them, as we certainly didn't land in this mess on...

When your outer critic goes away and you begin to respect and/or empathize toward others' differences.

I have never been drawn to religion, others telling me what is right and wrong. (Outward solutions). I have recently started down a spiritual path (inward solutions) and have found peace and healing and a path to wholeness that I define for my self. I also feel so much positive energy in the...

I did therapy in my 20s but not a trauma specialist, and while it had limited benefits then, I gained huge strides in my self esteem and negative self talk went away. Fast forward through years of anxiety, poor relationship skills and other trauma souvenirs. I recently wrapped up five years of...

I know how hard it is to quit your therapist but you aren't paying to hear about her problems, family, or to let her set your agenda. Best to find someone else and let this one go. There are much better therapists for you. You are on the right track. Good luck

What sort of things are suppos3dly inappropriate? Do you feel she was helping yoh?

Argh. That is sooooo messyl with all of the crossed lines. First of all, I would run if I thought someone could hear me. The noise buffering efforts sound like there is a problem and I would feel the same way about wanting to be there when no one else is. You don't feel safe to share. Not good...

I think kilted said it all. I wouldn't like what happened and I wouldn't like the fact that my T wouldn't even consider the possibility and blew me off. It is a big ding in the trust department.

Thank you. It is odd, I have done much worse as an adult, too, and for those things, I have found the willingness to forgive myself I suppose the inner child still harbors some guilt and shame around these two things and I would benefit from some focused work there. I aporeciate your help...

I had a lot of resistance, so much for a long time. If you trust him, you have already won a big part of the battle. I used to dissociate a lot in session, too. I didn't see resistance and dissociation outside of her office to that extent, but she explained to me that we could look at her office...

One thing my therapist always liked to ask when I tried to dismiss being abused was, what would I say to someone I know who was going through xyz? I doubt you would advise your best friend to stay in such a relationship.

Two things haunt me. One - I was in elementary school and very cruel to an animal one day. It was so out of character for me, as I absolutely loved animals, and still do. Obviously, I was in a lot of pain then, a child, and that is not the person I am today. I try to remind myself of this, but...

I think sometimes we arent ready and that's ok. Maybe you will be some day.

I think for some of us, we need that powerful attachment to move forward and as is typical with many survivors, that gets our abandonment issues all stirred up. I know the great yearning between sessions can be heady, too, but it all is part of forging a relationship with someone who cares a lot...