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I wish him and I were closer to maybe be able to meet up but unfortunately we are miles away. I'm hoping to maybe go to him for a long weekend to visit and see how things go, as I had brought up coming back home already only two weeks into our separation and he told me I don't know yet. Kind of...

Here's An update, we spoke today for a few minutes this morning because he's not really allowed to use his phone while he's at work and he actually asked me questions about me! I was shocked, this is the first time in a month that when I have asked him how he was that he asked me the same back...

I am going to start going for help for myself too. I know there are things that I need to work on to stop doing in our relationship. So hopefully after we both get the help we'll be able to rebuild. As hard as it is I think it's better that we can't see each other because than I think things...

@abs_21 is he going for treatment? From what I've been reading and learning that if they don't go than they aren't going to change and nothing will change in the relationship. That is what is giving me hope for us. I had two and a half weeks with him between when we decided on our break and...

I'm going through the same thing with my boyfriend. I feel the relationship has been one sided for a while and I was the one giving and not getting much in return. He finally told me he needed help for PTSD. We have been separated for a month now and he has started the process of getting the...

@Meadowsweet yes I do understand what you are saying. And I think that's why it is making this situation harder on me because like you said I want to be there and support him but with this situation that can't be done because that is not what's needed. The morning we said goodbye I asked him...

When you say that are you meaning that I think it would be best if I stayed there with him for support and be there for him but what actually would be best is what I'm doing and giving him his space and time to figure everything out. Cuz I'm a little confused.

@Meadowsweet We only said 3-6 months depending on how his treatment goes because we both don't know what to expect. Like he had said we just need to give it time. I always make sure that I reassure him all the time that I love him and I'm proud of him because my fear with leaving is that he is...

I wanted to get the opinion from PTSD sufferers if what I'm doing is the right thing to help my partner. We have been separated for a month now. He finally admitted to me that he has PTSD and that he needs help. I asked him if he wanted to break up he told me no so I suggested that maybe we take...

It's just so hard ESP when you are waiting for them to go to treatment. He's had this appt since april 10 and his appt isn't until may 28(that's how backed up the VA hospital is) and I keep thinking oh this time apart isn't helping he's still the same but I have to realize he hasn't gone for his...

The sexual innuendoes is a big red flag. My boyfriend talks to other people more than me but it had never gotten to a sexual level. So with that I don't know what to think of that. I know the he doesn't talk to me but posts on Facebook all too well. I am dealing with that today, it is our six...

What do you mean latch on to another sufferer? Yes I saw him text and talk to other people all day except for me. I've learned that they can talk to other people easier because our relationship is on a different level than his friendships. His friends don't know him so personally like I do so I...

Poledancer2007 I have been dealing with a similar thing with my boyfriend. We have been together for 6 years and I noticed about a year and a half ago he was just different. Not affectionate like he used to be, barely said I love you when he used to tell me every day, wouldn't say goodnight and...

I know it's just my own anxiety getting the best of me. And I definitely know it has to do with being separated when I'm used to seeing him everyday. I've been talking to his mom(who I am very close with) and I mentioned to her that if he wanted to move on he would have just let me go and went...

My boyfriend and I have been separated for three weeks now and I'm starting to drive myself crazy thinking that he is just moving on but I know it's not true. We separated because he admitted and he has PTSD and needs help. He said he needed time for himself and to do his own thing and that it...

But what I wanna know is can that bond ever be brought back even if not completely?

I am going through this with my boyfriend. We are separated right now but we still text almost everyday. I don't badger him I'll send a text and wait until he responds before I send another one. I found that when he wouldn't answer me and I would keep sending text after text after text it would...

Yes when he is drinking it's like that. I know he's been self medicating himself with alcohol. He'll get to the point where he will get rude with me and the things he says doesnt make sense. He's not verbally abusive in the fact he berates or belittles me or calls me names, just the tone he gets...

Is it normal for your partner, who is a sufferer, to act normal with friends and family but not act normal with you? I feel like when he is around his friends he becomes his happy joking self but when it's just us he seems more distant. I've heard that it is normal because our relationship is on...

I know it's the hardest thing I've had to do ESP after being together everyday for the past four years. I just let my thoughts get the best of me and I need to stop that. I know he's not doing anything he's not supposed to he's just taking this time for himself and if I do ask him things he...

Thank you Justmehere. At first I thought I was doing the wrong thing by leaving but the more I read on here it seems like space is the best thing for him right now even though I do want to be there for him. It also helps me knowing that he has not completely shut me out like I have read some...

My boyfriend and I of almost 6 years recently separated because he is a military veteran and admitted to me that he needs help for PTSD. Of course I didn't want to separate but we agreed that space between the both of us was what would be best right now. I want to be there for him but I guess...