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I do have ADHD, but I don't think I can claim this has anything to do with that. I have wondered about BPD, but I don't really identify with some of the things people with BPD seem to have in common. For example, I can't say that I have a fear of abandonment and it seems like that's pretty...

Thanks, I do actually feel she is a good therapist for me. She isn't all mushy gushy like it seems many therapists are, and she doesn't shy away from calling me on my bullshit. These are qualities I really appreciate because an ooey gooey warm and fuzzy therapist would send me running for the...

Yes. I frequent here and a couple other places, one of the other places much more frequently on a daily basis (and not a PTSD specific forum). I have actually shared a couple posts from the other places with her, maybe one each. Neither of those posts were about PTSD but about acting out...

I opted to send her a text (not an angry one) to get confirmation that we are ok. I just said I needed to check before my thoughts ran away with me. I figured she would prefer that to me spiralling. I just said I forgot to ask and now I was worried she was disgusted and maybe she would see how...

Things went ok, but (surprise, surprise) the urge to self sabatoge is still there since it was pretty much a marathon of vulnerability. I can't stop cringing. Right off the bat I lost my nerve and was a complete coward. I pretty much tried to crawl out of my skin rather than have any sort of...

Thanks for the support and feedback everybody. I'm going to try to be honest about what's going on with me in my session today.

I recently finally started talking to the therapist about some of the things that happened when I was little. This has caused me to feel really out of control in terms of our relationship and I want to lash out even more than I have on previous occasions. I hate feeling vulnerable and I am...

I really wish I could agree. I don't know if I'd say the response you outlined is likely per se, but it is not uncommon and it is something that I have heard of happening to multiple people. The client expresses something that spooks the therapist in some way, and the therapist pulls back and...

Poor guy losing his business independence to cancer. That's gotta suck. I don't see how it's better for him - working in a group practice will cut his income by a lot. Still, like you said, at least his health is ok. If he's not old, maybe he'll even want to start saving up so he can go private...

I don't think that's part of the training agenda, even if there was a way to go about it. I mean, how exactly would they train them to not be shocked? I think that can only come with experience, and even then, I think it's always a possibility. If they learn anything, it's probably how to...

I don't particularly like the wording that stigmatizes being a victim. I don't know why someone can't be a CSA victim and also strong. In fact, why can't someone be survivor, victim, strong, and fragile all rolled into one? Sorry for going off on a tangent, but I just get so sick of reading...

Just wanted to say I also sometimes start having weird/paranoid thoughts about the therapist and stuff I've told her. For me, it's not that she's telling abusers that I've told on them, but that she's laughing at me. Sometimes I have even had nightmares that she is there and laughing. Or if the...

Sounds like social anxiety to me.

I don't think you're attention seeking, just looking for commiseration. The therapist I see doesn't do email. She has said she doesn't even text with clients. However, I admit I have been guilty of texting her on occasion. She said she "allows" this. I also sometimes feel ashamed afterwards. I...

I admit when it crossed my mind earlier today, I thought about asking her the same thing next time she's just sitting there like a bump on a log, saying nothing.

Last time I had trouble speaking, the therapist was rather unhelpful. She asked me why I had come if I wasn't going to say anything.

Hasn't happened to me recently. I wouldn't mind if it did, though - maybe because I live in the south. I wouldn't say it's typical but I wouldn't find it really abnormal or anything. That is, "hon" and "sweetie" would be ok. "Baby" seems a bit weird. And it's weird when someone really young says...

I think I would get a different therapist. This one sounds like she has some sort of resentment and judgement towards people with trauma who are not in a place where they can function well enough to be employed and earn a living. She could be very harmful to you. As for the EMDR stuff, I'm...

I am not a crier, but usually when I feel like I might cry, there is a lump in my throat. Feels kind of hard to swallow. Your eyes might feel warm if there is some tearing - even if there's not enough that tears actually fall. If I recall correctly, tears are warm.

No. If the situation were reversed, I think I would perceive a client saying that as a reproach. I might feel a twinge of guilt, or might not, but I would probably feel resentful either way of the client reproaching me. That may (probably) say more about me than anything else - but we all base...

Ouch. That sounds awful. I don't understand why he acted like that. I keep trying to reason it out, but that just turns into wondering if there was somehow a miscommunication. And I don't know why I should give him the benefit of the doubt instead of you - plus there are things that can't really...

I also read "seems like an abuse of the privilege" as a criticism, FWIW, and I have no reason to be hypersensitive on this topic as I don't email the therapist I see. It may have been a constructive criticism with good intentions behind it, but it is criticism nonetheless. I don't think...

No, she doesn't do email. She "allows" me to text her, but prefers that I don't.

I wasn't really making a comment so much on the difficulty of distinguishing "why," so much as observing my mind's irrational knee-jerk reaction. The types of abuse that happened to me don't "just happen," so it was just interesting to me that I had that thought. Good luck at your session...

A badly healed broken leg that needs to be rebroken to heal sounds delightfully straightforward. Where can I trade in my PTSD?