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Yikes. That WHY question really hit me in a not great way. Logically, there is nothing wrong with the question. For some reason, though, my mind really had an immediately negative reaction. It screamed out, "Why? What do you mean why?? Stuff just happens!" Which is pretty dumb considering the...

One time the therapist accidentally wore mismatched shoes. They were the same style, but one was black and one was dark brown.

That's really unfortunate. I would hope that if the therapist I see twice weekly had to leave like that, I wouldn't have to wait 2 weeks. Do you have a psychiatrist? If so, maybe you could see her or him while you are waiting.

Memories may or may not come. If they do, you'll probably wish they hadn't, and there will be a lot to work through before any clarity is achieved. Regardless, I wouldn't hinge your future on waiting for memories to come or on knowing for sure who sexually abused you, because you may never know...

Sorry your therapist is away. Have you reached out to the colleague yet? Seems like it might be best to get in with them sooner rather than later so things don't snowball.

No. I don't think you can reparent someone, just help them find a way to live with the fallout of f*cked up parenting.

Who said it bothered me? I was trying to take the time to answer your question since nobody else had since you posted it on Tuesday. I was just wondering why you wanted to know is all. Sounds like you're just curious and that's fine by me.

Why do you want to know this? I do not have parts, but I am considered a so-called alter (this is a sore point). Is that what you mean? I don't understand what you mean by how do I feel. At this moment I feel irritated. Earlier today I felt sad. Last night I felt smug. I guess I need from the...

I empathize. I have thought about sending an angry letter to the psychiatrist I saw as a child. I think I would have already if I knew her name. I don't want to ask the parents for it.

Hmm. I guess it depends on your definition of an ER visit going "well." The only reason I would present to an ER is if I was an imminent danger to myself and needed to be admitted to the psych ward. I expect the most expedient way to achieve this would be to outright express that I had not only...

Aggression and dissociation aren't mutually exclusive, but it's certainly misleading to make a blanket statement that dissociation increases aggression - particularly that dissociation increases your aggression. Dissociation and aggression can be linked in some people, but the opposite is true...

I hate this question. It feels really invasive to me.

Someone sticking their fingers inside you without your consent isn't nothing. I don't mean this as a criticism of you, but the idea that there is only one type of rape is pretty outdated. It is a MAJOR violation to have someone put part of themselves (or an object) inside of your body - whether...

I don't think it would be wrong to tell your therapist what you wrote. I haven't told the one I see much, but I told her one thing that happened once to see how disgusted she would be by me. I will take one for the team and tell you exactly what I said, although I would appreciate it if you...

Sorry to hear about all of your losses. It's hard enough losing one person/pet, but losing multiple people/pets in such a short period of time must be truly devastating. I don't think you owe it to this therapist to continue seeing him. To put it bluntly, he can replace you just as you can...

I go to sleep.

Me and C have the same dreams mostly. She pretends not to remember certain ones. I actually mentioned she doesn't remember certain dreams to the therapist yesterday because I was telling her about some nightmares over the weekend. She is the one who said maybe it's not that she doesn't remember...

I won't lie and say that because she's a therapist, your criticism won't affect her on an emotional level - which I deduce is what you're worried about. It may even hurt her feelings, especially since it sounds like she's bringing something personal into the mix. BUT that does not mean you did...

Wow, that doesn't sound like a very good experience so far. When I did neurofeedback, the therapist continuously made adjustments until it did not have any side effects. We also found that it worked best for me lying down on the couch with my eyes closed rather than sitting in a chair looking at...

I don't really like these questions, either, although they don't enrage me. I don't like "what has helped you in the past" because usually what has helped has been a negative coping mechanism. I don't like "how can I help you" because I either don't know the answer (most frequently) or am...

Also, keep in mind that EMDR isn't for everyone. Yes, it may work wonders for you as it has for many people. However, I've noticed that there has been a narrative that has emerged that EMDR is some sort of universal solution. That isn't true of any treatment, including EMDR. Sometimes people end...

I'm not sure, but I did something similar recently. I texted the therapist, "My brain is broken and nothing will fix it and it's all hopeless." I think in my case, it was a cry for help and reassurance. Maybe you were looking for that, too.

The therapist uses my name and I like it.

The banality of evil can be astounding. Ordinary people can be capable of inflicting extraordinary harm. By definition, that means that pathology is not the only route by which someone can become a monster. That said, I do agree with you that your mother's behavior sounds like it falls outside...

Hey, seekingafrica, I hope you are doing a little bit better now than you were when you wrote this post. Maybe it would be helpful to let your T know there is something you need to talk about, but that you feel so overwhelmed that it's choking you. Sometimes talking about not talking about...