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If someone asks,, do you tell them? When I tell my guy it feels like he is pushing me away he gets worse. He won't talk about it with me. Only once when he told me he had PTSD. I'd just like to know- what is a non-threatening way to ask? What is a good responce? Is there even one?

I don't see how that is true.

If you only had sex twise in 3 years, he isn't there only for the sex. I can't speak to how strong he is or isn't, but I hope he proves to be a good one. They are few and far between. I do understand having low self-worth. I know its different, but I was obese for years. Now I've lost the...

I just wanted to say that you have given me a great deal of insight and support in the forum, but understand supporters tend to come on here when times are rough. Yes, PTSD is a real bitch. And I have lamented quite a bit recently about the man I love shutting me out without any word or...

Thank you so much for that!! I just found out my 80 yr old father, a functioning alcoholic, fell last night. He cracked a rib and re-injured his shoulder. He always drank, but never missed a day of work, usually worked 12 hour days. He was never violent, he never raised his voice. My father...

Thank you. Your input really helps. Just knowing I am not as alone as I thought I was a few weeks ago has helped. I do not really have anyone in normal life that I can talk to about this. I am going to try to calm down, but honestly my emotional state seems to change day to day. I will see how...

I don't understand the situation.

It's just he's never completely cut me off before. When he isolated before he would respond to some texts or send just night or something to let me know he's OK, he's there. Its been 17 days now. I worry. I get terrified that he's hurt or dead on a highway somewhere. I have no one I can call...

I am thinking about driving to his to his town this weekend just to make sure nothing happened to him, I will not talk to him. Do you think that is a mistake? If he sees me and he is in an episode, will that make it worse? Opinions welcome, please.

I checked his local hospitals today. That is a whopping 2. It's starting to sink in that he is choosing to do this. Even if he still out of coverage, he is choosing not to use or borrow a phone to check in on me. He knows that worry, that I get scared. He knows my issues and my fears, he knows...

I understand more than you can guess what you are going through. I've been with a man for almost 3 years. I knew him when we were teenagers and I remember how sweet and open he was back then. I understand that basically that boy I knew once is no longer around. I adored him. But I love the man...

I have nothing of real value to contribute, but wanted you to know that I care. I can feel your pain. I am always here if you just need someone to talk to. I do understand feeling damaged. And, you were not "a jerk". Trying to be understood, trying to share is healthy. In my opinion. I can...

I've checked his town obits. I haven't called the hospital yet. It's a small town and he's very private. How funny is it, with all this, that I don't want to embarass him? Still scared. Still questioning my own judgement and losing faith in him. I can't help it. If this goes how I'm pretty sure...

Yes, he's on a job in a town whe's he doessnt have service, but not sure when he went. It's a lake cabin kind of place and they put him up in a cabin while he does job. Cabins don't have phone. I kind of clung to that at first, but it seems he could find a pay phone or use someone else's cell...

How do you know if you have gone past a normal level of depression into true depression. I cannt get my sadness out of my head. I want to sleep all of the time. If I'm not on verge of tears, I am numb and tired. My sufferer is distancing, again.I have my own baggage, but have felt like in...

"Communication and patience are really the keys to having a successful relationship with a sufferer, but it is hard to have it sometimes when a sufferer chooses to withdraw, not answer their phone, and just plain ignore the supporter." My sufferer told me not to assume anything, but how do you...

I get that. I call it the "push me, pull me". We take two steps forward and then three steps back. I started getting nervous when things seemed to be going so well and had a good talk moving us forward. I got nervous, but got lulled into trusting it. And, now I haven't heard a word from him in...

I understand distancing is part of PTSD. I hurt, but I get that. My problem is that he promised if he got like this he'd at least check in somehow. Now I am seriously scared he's hurt in a hospital or dead on a hwy somewhere. And it really hurts that he'd put me thru this, when he knows my...

He can make me laugh. He gets me like very few do. He is an old fashion gentleman in many ways. He has a strong work ethic that I admire. He goes out of his way for people. He has such a kind soul.

I don't think you could have kept your feelings bottled up much longer. That's no way to live. It just makes one sad and lonely and it would turn into deep resentment. That's just my opinion. I am in a similar situation, without the mean comments, but distancing is a huge issue. And still I...

I wish I could help, or at least give you a hug.

It has now been 12 days since I have heard from him. So, went out with a work friend. What I am supposed to do, right? Drank too much trying to deaden my heart and it just made the weight worse. What do I do? Today I started to wonder if I should check the hospitals in his area. I am so sad...

Phones, like not wanting to text or talk

Sometimes I think I can't believe he threw me away after almost 3 years. And then I think, he must be in so much pain. Please let him be ok. I hate weak women. Now I feel I am one.

Thank you for that. This is so hard and sometimes I feel like I should be stronger, do more. I think, he shouldn't be allowed to treat me like this, but I have seen his pain. I can feel it. I know it's real. Then I worry, is he ok. I know he cares about me. I feel that too. Its like he's two...