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Hello and welcome! Yeah, there is a lot of great information here. And even just reading through discussions and other peoples experiences, you'll be able to see yourself in them ...just knowing you are not alone helps, but also be able to learn from others who have been where you are helps too.

I hope everything goes well for you tomorrow! I too am going to an event tomorrow that I'm dreading, my friends wedding. I agree with having an exit strategy.. My friends brother is taking me, and we have a solid plan. We arent going to be there for more than 2-3 hours, tops. And he said if...

Welcome TJ, glad that you found this place! It has been a great help for me...I joined not long ago and already feel at home here. I'm surprised with myself actually how much I've been able to share, considering I was like a mouse in group and may as well have been a plant in the room during...

Oh absolutely... I actually just posted about one such relationship. Over the year or so, after I started therapy, I actively started cutting people out of my life who were like this. I make myself sick thinking about how easy I made it for people to use me to their advantage...and it was...

I feel like its a choice as well... It's something I think a lot of people take for granted, you wake up and live another day, then go to bed and start all over. It just is. But that is not how I live my life...I chose to live today, I choose to live tomorrow. Not sure of what your history...

Thanks so much... to be honest, I'm concerned for me too. Because even though I know on a logical level that it's over with, that it should have been over with years ago, the thought of her not being in my life kills me. Even though not only is she not adding to it, but taking away from it...

I'm not sure if this is the correct place to put this... I'm just really sad and upset and well... Okay, just sharing. I have a friend who I have known now for 23 years. We were incredibly close as teens, even when I was sent across the country, we wrote 10 page letters and called whenever...

I'm very knee-jerk or umm...there's a term for it, when I act first, think later? Anyway, if my ex had insisted on getting knives I would have flipped out, packed my stuff and left that day. So I'm not of much help there!

Make sure its the actual book... I saw it here for $2.99, but it was a summery of the book, and then also one that is a "guide for book clubs" What does that even mean?! lol But the actual book on Kindle here is $5.99.

Oh I hope this convo doesn't get heated! I do like the exchange of questions and ideas and explanations! And this whole thing is anyway very confusing. Add to it that, at least for me personally, I'm looking at this condition from the inside out...what I know best is what I personally am going...

I'm glad it got a chuckle out of you, my humour can be a bit off sometimes :laugh: It definitely does help to not feel alone, to know that there are names and expressions and explanations behind what you are going through. When something is "real" then you feel a bit better about being able...

Awe! Well congrats to you proud mum!! It wont' be my turn until next year... and I'm already whigging out haha!! Kiddo brought home the info on senior pics and oh man, next month she will already be taking her cap and gown pictures. It's all happening so fast! Too fast! I'm not ready for...

I would tell him that you have an intense fear of having a gun in the house and ask him to respect where you are coming from. Hopefully, that would be enough for him to understand that this is something that really bothers you. When I was living with my ex, or rather...back it up, before that...

You know what...you are most definitely not alone. I have to admit, I could not read everything you wrote word for word, only because the parts that I did hit way, way too close to home. During my darkest moments, I have spent weeks at a time on my couch, under my blanket, doing literally...

I agree...I went to 3 different therapists in the past then gave up. None were for me, but I really wish I hadn't given up...at the time I felt that therapy just would never be for me, when the reality is, those particular therapists were wrong for me. I still feel like had I gotten the help I...

Ooh my...kudos to you! I'm an avoider, I would have likely stood up there, took a deep breath, then ran out of the room. Not an exaggeration, I ran out of the room during group a few times. So I think its very awesome that you were able to speak. Dont' be disheartened that you cried...you let...

I've learned to be more aware of what I'm doing, and coping techniques to help me when I'm wound up. Before therapy, once I would start in on a "moment" it would last for weeks, sometimes months. Now I have it down to where, in the past year, the longest it has lasted is a few days to a week...

I saw that it is PTSD awareness month, and have thought about posting something up on my FB in support, but considering it has been almost a month now since I've posted anything on there, and that so few people know about my PTSD (well...2 out of the over 200 people on my fb) I'm afraid that if...

Very interesting @anthony! I had no idea that outside of the US there was that distinction. But see, even though I was never in combat, I would feel very lost, because at least here, as a veteran, I went through training alongside those who did end up going to war, there is a respect between us...

Its not easy at all. I haven't been in a successful relationship since 2010...but part of that might be that I'm too scared to actually meet someone and put them through having to be with me. I've done the whole "I'm taking time for me, to get myself together! I'm going to therapy! I'm getting...

I know this was directed to @TimeToHeal, but I thought I'd offer my view on this? Not just inhibited development, but as TimeToHeal mentioned along with it, changes in personality and the view of the world. A POW isn't just held as a prisoner in a cell block, but undergo some pretty horrific...

I was in group, and I liked it because I was able to listen to others and be able to relate to what they were saying. Also, I was pretty quiet and did not say much in my one-on-one sessions, so this was a way for me to be able to get something out of going to therapy, without the pressure of...

It's very true what you say @anthony and to be honest, I do feel a bit "lost in-between" in a way... because for me, and others like me who are veterans, there are a lot of differences to civilians, but not the same experiences as those who were in combat. While I never had to put my training...

When my ex and I argued, I would get so wired up, I would start hyperventilating, stuttering and saying the darnest things, that in some corner of my mind I would be thinking "why am I saying this?!!" but I would keep going because the rest of my mind was like, this is what needs to be said and...

If you were in Miami, that just means there was a routine stop for a broken tail-light, and the driver was 80 and smoking a cigarette. Cover all the bases just in case LoL Seriously though, they are like that here.