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I really thought about where to put this. It didn't quite seem "discussion" or "social" to me. I'm asking about a therapeutic modality. I'm not sure if this forum is meant to be rigidly for talk therapy. I saw an acupuncturist today who suggested Tui Na. I'm reading random websites but I was...

Err, I minored in linguistics. I use they frequently as first person singular pronoun. I have never really liked the more 'created' singular pronouns. I have known people who have identified with Ze, Hir, Sie, etc, but they just.... don't roll off my tongue. So yeah. I mentioned upthread that...

@FridayJones you are so good at hitting the nail on the head.

I don't feel bad about doing it and I'd do it again. But when you are dealing with average people, feeling like you have the right to defend yourself with that much force makes you violent.

I'm going to say this again. Many people with PTSD are not violent and it sucks that everyone is painted with a broad brush. Many of us (myself included) ARE violent. It is not completely ridiculous to consider it as a possible factor of dealing with people who have ptsd. Saying that people who...

When someone makes sweeping generalizations about "people like me" I generally assume they are speaking from their experience of people who have self identified into that group in front of them. It isn't more personal than that. I mean... I like to argue with those people. But I am kind of a...

I was on Twitter, talking to a gal I know. It was bonding over trauma stuff. Like you do. Troll dude started being... not so nice. Dismissive. Implying that "microaggressions" were the limits of what had happened to us. I got real blunt. Dropped a few vicious details about my history. He...

Not to minimize everything else going on in this thread.... I use "they" instead of he/she on purpose a great deal of the time. Even when I mean one specific person. I spend a lot of time around people who are third gender or who do not use a gendered pronoun other than they. At this point in...

Many things about how you describe your relationship with your daughter resonate for me. I find that my kids are way more able to understand that I am autonomous person who is reacting to things *other than them* if I stop and remind them sometimes. It is such a complicated line to walk though...

Slowly, one tiny bit at a time. I've had to be ok with the fact that it will take me at least as many years to heal as I spent being abused. But I'm doing way the heck better than I used to believe possible. I'm still hopeful.

If I shouldn't be embarrassed about needing insulin if I am a diabetic I see no reason to feel shame that I need marijuana. I've been using it for almost 7 years now. It has been a night and day change in my life. Before marijuana I tried every family of antidepressant, antipsychotic...

12-step programs have a 5-10% success rate. Take the bits that work for you and don't worry about the rest. You don't need to walk the path someone else has walked in order to heal. You need to find the path that will work for you. Many 12-step programs have flexible members who will help you...

I can see how that is confusing. Sorry. I have named the people I was raped by. Because I did so, other people have come to me and said the names of their people. They are often different people. I do not feel *I* was raped by every rapist I know about. That's even a bit paranoid for me. :) I...

I am in a slightly different position than y'all but I deal with a similar problem. I am very "out" in my life about my life experiences. I have named my rapists. This means... dozens of women have shared their stories with me. I have pretty much backed out of social groups because I know who...

I'm not sure you could prosecute, but it was rape. I'm so sorry.

I think the people above me said it as well or better than I could. You see a therapist so that they can see the real you and help you learn how to manage better. Showing them what you need help with *is* appropriate.

Oh my goodness! We are meeting the nicest people. It is literally shocking to me. People have been asking to help us over and over and over. Illinois is blowing my mind. Some sweet old men said they could tow my trailer if AAA wouldn't cooperate. When I called them to check in and let them know...

So I'm on this epic road trip across the United States with my 4 year old and 7 year old children. We are camping on a trailer in a tent. The trailer lost the axel. As in... it fell off. When I got it into a parking space there was one bolt left on the springs holding the axel to the trailer. I...

I'm into rough stuff. If you aren't into it, no one has the right to do it with you. Responsible, ethical people who are into rough sex don't do it until they have had extensive negotiations about how to do it to be enjoyable for both parties. It isn't classy to hurt someone and then act...

I actually ran into a woman who had one of these tattoos yesterday. I mentioned it. We talked about our suicide experiences. She said, "I'm really grateful that I get to know so many people are also struggling to deal with this issue. I had been feeling so alone and isolated. I'm very grateful...

PTSD, GAD, Depression, PMDD (which isn't psychological, exactly, but close enough). The rest is physical.

I'm having a blast in Minnesota. I don't feel cranky about the rain since I have a sturdy tarp. ;) It's actually feeling down right cool today. I'm wearing a lot of layers. Thanks.

I'm a big fan of Harm Reduction and I don't believe I will ever recover. Too much early developmental trauma stuff. That said, I continue to work on being better at managing my issues because I want to be someone my children can respect. I want to be someone they genuinely can respect. Beyond...

Thanks for this. I've always wondered what I could have been if I had been loved.

My friend and I are going together to get this tattoo.