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Just reiterating @Fadeaway again. Annnndddd.... Right there with ya....but on the other side of a similar line. My honey verbally broke up with me a couple month ago. Planned out moving and who was taking what furniture etc. And that was it. Continued being a wonderful boyfriend and here we...

Loving this thread. I love how open you are with us @Freida. You give me hope that one day my honey will see things differently and make plans ahead of time like this. I love all the ideas that have come up. And i would be fine with running too.....sorta. I'd have to hear @Hojay's suggestion...

Some of the feelings you describe are familiar to me..... Those are things I felt when I was depressed. Lack of motivation to do anything. Nothing gets your engine revving. Or you have to fake it til you make it with activities that were once pleasurable. I was depressed when I was going...

What they all said ^^^ Hugs to you. You are so incredibly compassionate and strong for doing all you have done for the past 5 years. And now it is time for you to he incredibly compassionate and strong for yourself. So so proud of you! And so happy you have your pup for company! We are here...

I AM ANGRY I CAN SEE YOU ON FACEBOOK ON YOUR PHONE AND YOU HAVEN'T RESPONDED TO MY INCREDIBLY IMPORTANT TEXT MESSAGE!

@lola1969 you keep talking about how he trusts you. This isn't about him. Its about you and what you ant and what you can handle and how much of that fits into what you can actually control (i.e. your own actions).

Only he can answer most of these questions. Possibly against him. If they live together your partner may have been going off about you and his battle buddy/roommate might be defending you and trying to bring your partner back to being reasonable. That's a much easier thing to say than "my head...

I would like to know this as well. What I know about loving a vet with PTSD....everything you wrote makes me believe everything you're saying he said. I never count on our plans actually happening until we are actually doing them. I don't even count on then if we are getting ready to go. And...

Thank you so much for sharing @lostforgottensoul! I have been thinking that this is what my honey was unconsciously doing recently. Its reassuring to hear that someone else has actually had this pointed out to them by their therapist. Thanks for trusting us with this part of your story! Very...

I don't have PTSD, but i support someone who does and I am a paramedic determined to avoid getting it. I would love to see a huggy buggy in my service. Our CISM team is awesome and professional. They are peer-nominated for the most part. I would love to see what they do expand into something...

I agree with everyone. Your relationship needs must be met. If they aren't, its not selfish to ask that they be met and/or consider moving on. And if this has been ongoing for 6 months.....that would absolutely bother me because those periods really suck! How much have you guys discussed the...

I don't think we can answer this. I think it depends on the person. In regards to PTSD, detachment is more of a survival instinct than a decision to step away and "sort through things". I do not mean to sounds harsh in any way. But it is really difficult for me to grasp this. I know that I...

Lots of good advice here! Again, its ok to leave if this is not something that will jive with your life plans. PTSD will always be there. Sometimes you can predict when things are gonna suck....other times it'll sneak up on you. More than likely you will see it before he does and because of...

If it were me, I'd mentally turn him on pause (yes, easier said than done). Focus on and do well on your exam. Then give yourself time to reflect on what you want. Think about what is and is not ok in a relationship for you. What boundaries you want to set etc. And just remember boundaries are...

Not sure what you said when you left....in the future I would say that I am coming back on whatever day unless you want me to come back sooner. Your life should absolutely not be on hold. But I think a text telling him what you're doing would be fine. Straight to the point and showing no...

Like others have already said, we don't have a clear understanding of your guys' agreement. I'm thinking its possible that you don't even know where you stand with her. If that's the case, I see it this way: in the future, when she is in a place where she is capable of having the discussion...

My honey is definitely not obssessed with time. If those conversations transpired between me and him, I would assume he wasn't feeling up to it and used bed as an excuse. And when I get texts like that I ask if he wants to talk about it. He usually says no. Then I ask if I can do anything for...

JUST BE ON MY SIDE!!!!!!!! I AM VENTING!!!!!!!!! DON'T SIT THERE AND AGREE WITH THEM!!!!!!!!!! DO YOU KNOW HOW OFTEN I BITE MY TONGUE AND NOT AGREE WITH "THEM" WHEN YOU'RE VENTING ABOUT HOW UNREASONABLE EVERYONE IS!!!!!!!!! YOU'RE USUALLY THE UNREASONABLE ONE!!!!!!!!! OR AT THE VERY LEAST...

What types of things does he not trust you with? Did he trust you with those exact things at the beginning of your relationship?

I did at the beginning of our relationship. But as I learned more about PTSD and had honest conversations with my honey on good days, I understood what was actually happening and now its fine.

Before I knew what I was getting into with PTSD this confused me SO MUCH. My honey described it as social media being a good mindless break from his brain. This used to drive me CRAZY! Still does....but I don't take it personal anymore now that he's explained it.

I usually ask if he needs anything when I am on my way out. It lets him know I am here, he can put in requests, and when I am on my way out he doesn't have to feel like he has to talk to me....or he can decompress from me talking to him after I leave. I am pretty sure he'd hate me asking how he...

Welcome to the forum! It sounds like this relationship is new. How much do you know about PTSD? How much have you read around this forum in the supporters section? What you need to evaluate for yourself is what is ok and not ok with you. Think about the things you need in a relationship. I like...

@zombycat Thanks for your thoughts! I usually go with text reminders....then I don't have to see his reaction. And he doesn't get directly frustrated or ever say anything... it just seems/feels that way. Because I am sure he is having some sort of internal thing and not taking it out on...

@Swift oh my gosh! Thanks for this! This explains so much for understanding my boyfriend. I get that he has a horrible memory with stuff like that. So I remind and remind and remind. And usually he needs the reminders. And sometimes he doesn't and he seems to get frustrated with my...