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@mywifestrigger - I have moved out just for a week or so. (Day 3) I personally feel tremendous guilt not being at home, and on the other side when I was home I was ignored by my wife and daughter and felt that isolated acceptance of aloneness. When I was at home I was looking and trying to...

@mywifestrigger - you are in a spiritual battle and I can see that you are torn between staying and severing a long lasting relationship. Your situation is unique and you have endured many dark valley's of betrayal. Consider this....are you afraid to be alone, or do you feel obligated to suffer...

Jesus cured diseases, raised the dead, fed may. I am excited to see where this journey takes me. I know He can do all. 180 change may happen before it is final.

@Promicarus - today I had to move out of my house and into my parents house which is 2 miles away. I had to move out since my wife filed a report against me for taking our "old" medications and brought them to the police. I was accused to throwing out her post-cancer drugs which is not with the...

I picture P.T.S.D. as an apple. It still looks like an apple on the outside but the inside is filled with sand and is no longer nutritious. -or- A row of colored crayons in order by shade...take the crayons place them in a box and shake them up and expect them to still be in order. (when it...

Just an update: today I was called by our local police to come in for an investigation. I had mentioned that I had turned in a bunch of older and unused pills which had my name and my wife's name on them. Last week my wife had filed a report against me and I had to go in and explain my...

Wow, I am glad this post came about today. I am also in a similar situation when it comes to obtaining my own P.T.S.D. symptoms from my marriage with a sufferer. I am ice cold feeling in my hands and feet, I now have nightmares about my wife, I have some anxiety and I have a fear of just taking...

Just a curious observation from my scenario. I notice that my wife will now lock the door in the bedroom she sleeps in, locks the bathroom door. There has been no history of people barging in on her. I used to sit next to the bath when she was in there and talk with her....now it is total...

@mywifestrigger if it isn't a P.T.S.D. than it could just be Sin and anger which can eat away at your soul. I re-read your post and could it be that your wife is upset at you because what she did was intended on damaging you, and you are responding back differently than she expected...

I live in the same house with my wife. We can go 3 weeks without speaking to each other. It is so important to have some communication. I know it must be tough for you.

Best of Luck. Keep us posted. I hope you can see improvements soon with the behavior patterns. Just don't push her...that seems to reverse any built up trust. Just remember that it is not you that is her problem.

You are in a complicated situation at a young age. I agree with you, there is nothing you can do for her at this time. She has to be willing to accept her condition and want help. These things normally do not better over time they just "snowball" into deeper emotions. I am new in this P.T.S.D...

@Aelwen - If you are dating I would think it could be easier to end your relationship versus a marriage. I would actually encourage you to hang on and remain loving and trusting to her. You can rediscover love again...but it will take 2 committed and it may take a long time for her to mend...

@jtrag - I feel your pain. Some of the symptoms you mentioned, I am also going through. My wife has not evaluated or diagnosed with P.T.S.D. yet, nor will I think she would agree to that. I am experiencing the dissociation part of it now. I just cannot understand the pulling away part after 21...

@mywifestrigger - I hope your granddaughter gets the help she needs. Your wife's comments sound just like what I am hearing at home. I just wanted to clarify with you. My wife has not committed adultery (yet). She seems to be changing her attitude since we met with our pastor. She went to church...

Hang in there. Some of the symptoms you mentioned are complex and only she can overcome those when she is willing and ready. Show her love no matter what. She may realize that her destructive behavior will limit her growth and trust for others. As a supporter of a wife of 21 years. I have a hard...

update: the wife and I met with our Pastor together for the first time last night. The session did not go well and my wife had admitted that since her cancer scare, she does not believe in God and she sent in a resignation letter for membership. I was devastated by her actions and I did not know...

@mywifestrigger - Praise God! Enjoy the change and show the kind a love that she is missing. I know that the mood swing could change...but yours will be consistent.

I know a lot of these forums affect people who suffer from military and war related trauma. Is there anyone out there dealing with a spouse that has P.T.S.D. from breast cancer. I am trying to learn more so I can help my wife. Can anyone share their experiences with me. any stories...

When you expect & get nothing on the holiday's and birthday's other than a earful of what you did 20 years ago.

I have left almost angry this week. I have a lot of frustration built up and no one to go to. Yesterday my wife decided to go out and purchase on Apple ipad mini without ever discussing it with me first. We always discussed our finances together when it comes to making larger purchases, and I am...

@mywifestrigger - wow that is a lot to process. It sounds like you at least dealt with some very hard issues with the adultery and emotions attached from both sides. I do not think you would have never had another chance like that again. You are not alone. My wife just told me the same thing...

Wow. I have a wife who may have P.T.S.D. and will not seek help. She also feels divorce would remedy her happiness, and she thinks that everyone would be better. I can tell you that in a divorce....everyone is affected. I had divorce papers served to me 2 weeks ago. My wife had taken a different...

Thank You @amethist for the kind yet encouraging advice. Time is all we have at this point. Last night my wife took a bath with a bottle of wine for about 3 hours. By the end all I could hear was sobbing with the bathroom lights off in total darkness. I really wanted to be there for her and...

@Echo - I think you just nailed it. I am on the same page with what you are describing. I agree and understand your post.