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@Newtoptsd Thank you for the message it is greatly appreciated. Tonight... has been tough, I won't lie. I finally cried and in all honesty it's just dawned on me how empty my life is without her, because she was such a big part of it, I never quite realised how much time I spent just talking...

The reason in person is a bit easier for me is mainly due to having to care for my mum during her lengthy breakdown, it wasn't easy by any stretch, but I found there was a lot less unanswered questions etc, you could see what was going on, it may feel worse certainly and actions were often not...

Quite possibly yeah, I guess the way to clarify that is "based on the long distance", if she was here in person or me there I think I'd cope better even with uncertainty around, there'd be a bit more to go on than purely text messages, which I think ultimately is my issue. I can take a door in...

The desire to avoid discussing the relationship and feelings is something I can seriously relate to, my girlfriend is essentially doing the exact same thing to me right now, she's given me "problems" and I feel like her avoiding discussing where we stand firmly leaves me with issues I simply...

Her description was that she was "locking our relationship away for safety" as she began to spiral, but that was a while ago now, she has admitted she avoids me because my panic and worry made her worse, but when we made up following a fight she said she "wasn't going to stop talking to me". In...

It's such a tricky one, her complete withdrawal of affection and avoiding me obviously sends me one very clear message, I now don't love you and I don't want you around, which was hard for me to process, we've known each other so long, she's always wanted me and loved me, broken up with people...

My girlfriend doesn't know I am on here either, at best all she knows is that I read the articles she sent me on being in a relationship with somebody with PTSD. Don't feel guilty, my GF spends all her time with somebody else these days, it's quite easy to let your mind wander on that one, it's...

You learn, is what I am finding. I've certainly done things, albeit it not intentionally, that have upset and hurt my girlfriend, mainly worried and got in a panic myself, which I assume makes her feel unsafe as I need to be stable and secure for her to not feel in danger. Even when she's said...

The others are right, PTSD only goes so far, you have to think would I accept this sort of behaviour if my partner was "normal" (awful word I know)? I wouldn't accept cheating and as far as I am concerned there is no excuse for it, regardless of what they may or may not have. It's a betrayal...

Small update, the push-pull stuff is so confusing, she's still (for want of a better phrase) hung up on my worrying on Sunday being the reason shes had a low mood all week, we spoke a bit today (about her being fed up and upset by people in her halls at university, I quite wish she'd maybe see...

You're absolutely right, just pretending to not be worried won't help, ironically hearing that my OCD had completely shut off (it was on the decline, it is quite frustrating this latest event happened just before it tailed off fully) and admittedly my feelings right now are essentially this is a...

We'll see, I have to some extent hope that the person I've known so long, and who behaved very differently up until this point despite having PTSD most of the time we've known each other is in there somewhere, but of course there is a finite line where you can't keep sticking around and getting...

It has to be down to what is best for you. Me and my current girlfriend are having very bad difficulties right now, if indeed this is going to lead to a break up, I've already promised myself I won't be hanging around trying to support her, my commitment to her ceases the moment we break up...

Yes, spot on, it's the lack of anything productive and positive that is the real stinger, I admit and accept I have flaws, but I am still the same man she fell in love with so deeply and I've definitely hit a point where, no, you can't just cling to any mistake I make in a journey so difficult...

Many thanks for the quick response again, you are of course absolutely right, especially when I consider that part of her issues is her problems with her mother and how she was constantly torn down, she is in effect repeating those behaviours in how she lashes out at me, only not quite as harsh...

As many hugs as you need coming your way!

I think I've found there's definitely a distinction between "she's unbelievable, I am so done" which tends to wear off the next day and "I'm done" which still stays firm once I've cooled down, in all manner of relationships. I think you can just tell when it's reflective of your genuine feelings...

Many thanks for the responses, they are greatly appreciated. I am genuinely trying to understand her condition, I guess part of me would like her to understand mine as she constantly brings up how my "worrying" just makes her more anxious herself. I don't know if trying to put it to her that...

We've known each other for about 10 years now, she's always loved me and wanted me, her past relationships ended because she wanted me, we finally got together and she began to share her PTSD with me. Some days would be bad, but she'd always be affectionate, and loving, and we really were...