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I'm slowly but surely learning appropriate boundaries: some ex-boyfriends were shit but didn't last; ditto for former job environments. For some time I was happy to have people enjoy themselves at my expense given that it wasn't outright toxic, but I feel that if you don't put the brakes on...

Is this a pattern? Number three chiming in.

My experience is that the cops are biased to the man's side of the story, that they're willing to believe that women will behave in a vaccuum because a priori "crazy". I had a journeyman recently who espoused this view, and there are women who are objectively difficult and lack rationality, but...

it's incredible what a complete sacks of shit people from the so-called helping professions can be. i was sick with chronic fatigue for 8 years and finally about six years i finally bullied someone into prescribing me antivirals. when they worked, i was super-super pissed: low immunity +...

how do you know you're in a cult? the christian day school my parents forced me to attend for seven or eight years seemed awfully reminiscent of one.

I've found it useful to "ally" myself with these people. They're doing it too so it must be a strategy that works. Seek out the other good people in the world, they're out there.

my mom was too mentally ill to be an adequate parent and my childhood was unhappy because of it. i find that as an adult i tend to fall head over heels for kind, usually much older men who are willing to identify and meet my needs. i guess it could be worse lol, i could still be attracting...

if you have a history of sexual abuse, or any abuse, you have to be really careful of not recreating that trauma with people down the road. i can't remember this entire thread, but it's possible that you've recreated the abusive relationship with your family because "selfish" is what feels...

you're lucky to live in a country that has a functional police service. american police are tools of the 1% pretty much. no one ever gave a f*ck about all the shit my parents pulled with me, which really compounded the problem.

i keep a ton of emotional distance between me and people who think i'm full of shit re: some of the abusive behavior i've had to suffer thru over the years. my advice on this forum is fairly predictable: i don't think timewasters are worth wasting our time on. if you do end up writing the...

it's great isn't it, everyone thinks i'm a bum but i don't give a f*ck cos it's like "hi guys i'm not sick in bed and dodging homocide attempts anymore". bulletproof 4 lyf sometimes i have to stop and pause with wonder over how lucky i am.

i'm like really good at this anymore, you just have to humiliate them a lot? as time passed i got to enjoy it because it was such a wonderful opportunity to be such an awful troll. i kind of regret how badly it's warped my relationships with men tho; put me in a room with nice, respectful guys...

@Incongruous those are pretty rough experiences imo. thanks for sharing: for some reason it's grounding to know that there are other people out there who have seen and been thru shit. do you struggle with feelings of alienation, "no one's been thru what i've been thru" kind of bullshit? just...

when i was sick, my life was centered around being sick. and i was sick so long that i thought i'd never be better, and planned my life accordingly. i never had relationships or thought of a career or really did anything with long term goals in mind. now that i'm better it feels like there's...

yeah for some reason that stuff is harder to deal with when you're younger. are you a loner now. being rejected both at school and at home made me a big schizoid tbh.

do you guys feel that medical trauma is easier to accept when there isn't also the social factor involved? things like cancer are bad luck but rape + abortion??!! that's someone else's purposeful cruelty. i had chronic fatigue for years which was AWFUL but the worst part was people telling me...

@garden i had the same experience thanks for sharing i'm so glad i wasn't the only one. i was sick as a young woman and didn't think i could find other employment and was afraid they'd fire me if complained so i didn't push too hard. i think there are a lot of entitled men who think they...

was it hard for you to meet appropriate people working lowpaying jobs. i could always see the trouble lightyears ahead but honestly that was around.

oops, looks like my original reply got lost in the shuffle. like anyone else i spend a lot of time feeling sorry for myself: i think it's useful to see that certain traumas (rape) are very common and how people have dealt with them. a LOT of women have been raped. what's interesting is to see...

i remember as a teenager being frustrated because there was nowhere to go and no way to get there. that's suburbia for you! furthermore my parents were always scaring me with stories about how dangerous the outside world was. not nearly so dangerous as living with them! becoming an adult has...

i used to work with chronic fatigue patients, and they suffered overwhelmingly from ptsd because no one ever believed how ill they were! it's the meanest nastiest shittiest community ever and i think a lot of that is people's neuroses. obviously trauma is a subjective experience and every has...

hey guys, i just had an interesting conversation with someone about child abuse the other day: he's struggling with some antisocial tendencies but overall it didn't ruin his life. without getting into a tedious suffering olympics here, how bad is bad? according to a psychologist i know, not...

jesus christ i wish i've fired six of them already. the one i have now seems okay but it's hard to get an appointment with her. rn i'm totally occupied talking about how traumatized i am from eight years of myalgic encephalomyelitis, the sexual stuff is way on the back burner. you guys and my...

has anyone ever done this right? had okay but not loving sexual experiences as a way to ease off previous traumas? i was able to do so somewhat successfully for childhood ptsd; my sexuality is still totally f*cked tho. as i mentioned on previous threads it was the workplace harrassment and...

harsh but true! she's a bad therapist tho should have been more attuned to your emotional state. i've been sexually assaulted but triple rape holy shit how do you stay sane. you must be very strong. like your shitty therapist i don't have the right ways to respond as i can't even wrap my...