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Hello to you, my dear! I accept this from you, and I feel so very much the same for you! I have quite a few things planned for myself coming up here for a bit. This weekend I will be attending a yellow ribbon event near me with a new friend. Next weekend I'm heading down about 2 hours away in...

Thank you so much! You do too, my dear! Thank you for being so kind and gentle with me.

This is very similar to much of the stuff I started doing for myself too. It has become an integral part of my life. I still have days that I dis regulate, but much less than ever. To be fair, I had a freight train of crap hit me recently that derailed me, before that, I was chugging up the...

Hey guys, I'm sorry it has taken me so long to reply, and thank you from the bottom of my heart for your patience and support. I'm very happy to announce that even though my shunt has failed, my LP (lumbar puncture/spinal tap) shows that my pressure is in an acceptable range. Essentially what...

Wow! I wish you were close so I could hug you! You have a slew of really excellent points! I have two of my college age kids at home here. (Plus my granddaughter) So there is little doubt they'll help keto the house running. They're excellent kids. I'm very proud of them! I already laid out...

You literally had me laughing out loud! This is the funniest stuff ever! Sad part is, he would do it without a care because it would let him off the hook for feeling guilty for not being there. He works as a federal officer, so he had a lot of special rules they have to follow. Like even when...

Well, he just decided to inform me he's not taking me, but will give me his credit card for uber or lyft... uh, no thanks. No way am I getting in a stranger's car after a spinal tap. That puts me in entirely too vulnerable of a position. I understand he's trying to provide an alternative for me...

I relate to this on so many levels. But it's definitely a work in progress for me. I'm working on boundaries as a priority. Lots of other stuff too, but too run down to discuss at the moment.

Excellent thread... thanks for the answers

@blackemerald1 , I wanted to stop and say thank you. I'm having a battery of tests this morning, so I don't have time for a big reply. But thank you for reaching out. Your post touched me.

Holy cow I'm so confused! I'm going through the worst isolation period with my partner that we've had in almost 9 years. It has never been this rough but as you may know, he started some intense therapy 2 months ago and his AF friend of 25 or so years moved in with him....I don't know if it's...

Wow...uh, yep... It's kind of crazy, isn't it? I wish I could figure it out....I'm pretty sure that it would make most of our lives better, but I haven't got a clue, and I can't change anyone else. It just sucks in all ways sometimes. I guess if we can be more self aware and realize that these...

Have you ever looked at @Freida s thread"what are they thinking"? It might be a place to see that supporters don't see it from the same perspective as you. I'm a PTSD survivor and supporter of a couple family members as well as my isolator on/off s/o....I have the "luxury" of seeing things from...

The first thing I would ask is what are you doing for yourself? Are either of you in therapy? The post is pretty vague, .so it's hard to tell you anything specific, but self care is what will get you through. There's also tons of books and resources that you can learn coping skills as well.

Yeah....I've been on this ride for over 8.5 years...he's a little different because he always wants to "break up" but will talk or text me almost every day, even though it's way less than normal. I don't bring up anything other than normal day to day stuff...hey, the sky is blue...hey, are we...

Yep, this is pretty much how it feels... welcome to both sides of the coin! Lol...I know how you feel. It's hard to know when you're coming or going.

Oh boy, I feel like this a LOT. The funny thing is, I've also come to learn it isn't true. This is one of big things I've worked on in therapy over the years. Because of my childhood and multiple traumas (seemingly endless) part of me "learned" that's all I deserve. But I've worked very hard at...

Have you looked into the genetic testing they have for medication reactions now?

Sorry, I must have read it wrong. I think we're sort of saying the same thing in a different way. I think he's more worried about what his peers would think, more than anything... which is sad. But I think most of them get it, they just don't believe that. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

Good for you, @EveHarrington !

I echo @Sweetpea76 , this is really vague to answer any questions. But I would caution you about trying to diagnose him from some texts to you. If you're just using that thought as an excuse to stay away and cautious for now, than okay. But you nor any of us can diagnose him with anything. Do...

This is borderline abusive...and yes, the responsibility of his actions so fall to him. If he were hitting you, would you say those things? PTSD does not prevent a person from growing. It can make some things difficult to let go of, but not impossible. This is some massively controlling...

I guess I'm confused about what you're saying in relation to this. Because I think the whole point is to take stigma away, not be patronizing. I don't see anywhere in Eve's post that she said anything different than that. To me, she's saying she's too busy holding up her tough front to the...

I was just going to say the same thing. That there's stuff we do together and stuff we do separately. We play it by ear year by year. But we almost always have Christmas morning together with our kids.

You're welcome! I know how hard it is first hand...it's a heck of an accomplishment! I'm glad you can enjoy it and feel good about it. You've earned it completely!